In today’s article, we discuss who wants to be negative anyway?
Negativity is all around us and within us. It can be a battle keep it away and replace it with positive surrounding and positive thoughts.
We discuss today how to overcome negativity by understanding our environment and our self more. With some self-guided tips to apply.
I hope you enjoy and let’s create positivity.
Negativity comes in all shapes and sizes. From id-al gossip to being constantly inundated with the problems of the world via the news. Now I don’t know about you but negativity brings my energy down.
It has contributed to some damaging effects on certain parts of my life. For instance, I had a boss where every mistake I made, I had an overblown telling off. With every success brushed under the carpet. At a low point, all I wanted was some praise. I even confronted him and told him about my perceived success. All I got in return was you have achieved nothing. (That kind of hurt at the time)
Shortly after I left that company and as the months of mist blown away from my clouded judgement. I realised I was in a negative environment.
Too many people are in these environments. It could be work, friends, relationships, family or even media. The problem is when you’re in a negative environment. It can be hard to notice or see that there is a problem.
What I have learned is through self-awareness, this is how you get out.
Understanding My Environments
What I have learnt to do now is in any environment I’m in. Is mentally in the moment tally up the positives and the negatives of my environments. This could be a conversation you have where you can decide between the rate of praise and criticism you receive. If it swings constantly in the later. You know this isn’t an environment you want to be in for much longer.
First and foremost you have to think about your happiness and success. Thinking of what’s stopping you from excelling in these areas. When you figure this out that’s when your life can speed in the direction you want.
As we have stated that it’s hard to notice when you’re in a negative environment. It can be even harder to notice when we have dragged ourselves into it. This can especially be the case when others lure you into gossip. Especially when you start a new job it can be even more tempting to try and fit in.
Who Wants To Be Negative Anyway Science?
A study showed how agreeable we are to others. They had 15 actors who had differentiating points of few some true some false. An astonishing 75% of the people who participated were agreeable to false statements. The ability to fit in is very much part of what makes us human.
Maybe this is a survival trait left over to keep us safe within the group. We have to learn to be self-aware of this within us because if left untrained we can be lured into negative outcomes that do us no favours.
Who Wants To Be Negative Anyway History?
History is a great teacher and we don’t have to look too far back to how the German people responded to their fears being heightened to fascist viewpoints from Hitler and his Nazi party. It resulted in millions of needless deaths from the agreeableness of others even if these values was not theirs, to begin with.
That’s why it’s important to know your values of yourself and when entering conversations with people you know who to keep and who to let go of.
Who Wants To Be Negative Anyway Gossip?
Anyone luring you into gossip about others. If you don’t want to entertain this person just act like you know nothing and change the subject to something more positive. When you’re in control of your thoughts you can fight back against negativity that brings nothing but pain to your life.
You might respond “well I love gossiping.”
The negative consequences of these actions have been proven to create a lot of negative outcomes for yourself.
For instance, mistrust in you as a person from others, you enter into more selfish tendencies and it creates more fear within yourself about others.
It can even lead to an increase in anger responses. There should be no place in your life for negative gossiping of others. For the age-old saying treat others how you would like to be treated yourself. Plus no-one would ever like to be gossiped about.
How To Gain Peace Of Mind From Negativity
What I think we all love is when our mind is at peace and this is very true when we live in line with our values. A vast majority of us want to live outlives positively and not be drawn into any negativity but we need to understand this is not life.
Unfortunately, negativity is all around us. Humans are not perfect and will make mistakes accordingly but learning self-awareness of what’s around us can go a long way to fighting back against negativity.
In some cases, we might be subjected to unsolicited advice or it’s a good deal gone wrong that has left you financially in arrears. Whatever it is we can control whether we live in it or move away from it.
First, we have to recognise it, then understand it, then stop it and finally move into a new positive direction.
Peace of mind comes from us dealing with our negativity and our problems head-on. If we don’t they will not go away they will live within us or in front of us until we can take the courage to deal with it.
Self-guided tips to try
- Become self-aware of your environment you’re in and find out is it helping you succeed or making you negative.
- Be self-aware of your actions and write down how you can improve and get to work on it immediately
I hope you enjoyed today’s article – who wants to be negative anyway?
Knowing and understanding what your values are can help maintain a positive direction without getting swayed to someone else’s values you don’t agree with.
So write down what your values are as a person and what are the people around values are. And see if they match up. I will leave the final decsion with you.
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