January 2021 - Page 2 of 3 - The Future Mindset

In today’s article, we discuss who wants to be negative anyway?

Negativity is all around us and within us. It can be a battle keep it away and replace it with positive surrounding and positive thoughts.

We discuss today how to overcome negativity by understanding our environment and our self more. With some self-guided tips to apply.

I hope you enjoy and let’s create positivity.

Overcoming Negativity

Negativity comes in all shapes and sizes. From id-al gossip to being constantly inundated with the problems of the world via the news. Now I don’t know about you but negativity brings my energy down.

It has contributed to some damaging effects on certain parts of my life. For instance, I had a boss where every mistake I made, I had an overblown telling off. With every success brushed under the carpet. At a low point, all I wanted was some praise. I even confronted him and told him about my perceived success. All I got in return was you have achieved nothing. (That kind of hurt at the time)

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Shortly after I left that company and as the months of mist blown away from my clouded judgement. I realised I was in a negative environment.

Too many people are in these environments. It could be work, friends, relationships, family or even media. The problem is when you’re in a negative environment. It can be hard to notice or see that there is a problem.

What I have learned is through self-awareness, this is how you get out.

Understanding My Environments

What I have learnt to do now is in any environment I’m in. Is mentally in the moment tally up the positives and the negatives of my environments. This could be a conversation you have where you can decide between the rate of praise and criticism you receive. If it swings constantly in the later. You know this isn’t an environment you want to be in for much longer.

First and foremost you have to think about your happiness and success. Thinking of what’s stopping you from excelling in these areas. When you figure this out that’s when your life can speed in the direction you want.

As we have stated that it’s hard to notice when you’re in a negative environment. It can be even harder to notice when we have dragged ourselves into it. This can especially be the case when others lure you into gossip. Especially when you start a new job it can be even more tempting to try and fit in.

Who Wants To Be Negative Anyway Science?

A study showed how agreeable we are to others. They had 15 actors who had differentiating points of few some true some false. An astonishing 75% of the people who participated were agreeable to false statements. The ability to fit in is very much part of what makes us human.

Maybe this is a survival trait left over to keep us safe within the group. We have to learn to be self-aware of this within us because if left untrained we can be lured into negative outcomes that do us no favours.

Who Wants To Be Negative Anyway History?

History is a great teacher and we don’t have to look too far back to how the German people responded to their fears being heightened to fascist viewpoints from Hitler and his Nazi party. It resulted in millions of needless deaths from the agreeableness of others even if these values was not theirs, to begin with.

That’s why it’s important to know your values of yourself and when entering conversations with people you know who to keep and who to let go of.

Who Wants To Be Negative Anyway Gossip?

Anyone luring you into gossip about others. If you don’t want to entertain this person just act like you know nothing and change the subject to something more positive. When you’re in control of your thoughts you can fight back against negativity that brings nothing but pain to your life.

You might respond “well I love gossiping.”

The negative consequences of these actions have been proven to create a lot of negative outcomes for yourself.

For instance, mistrust in you as a person from others, you enter into more selfish tendencies and it creates more fear within yourself about others.

It can even lead to an increase in anger responses. There should be no place in your life for negative gossiping of others. For the age-old saying treat others how you would like to be treated yourself. Plus no-one would ever like to be gossiped about.

How To Gain Peace Of Mind From Negativity

What I think we all love is when our mind is at peace and this is very true when we live in line with our values. A vast majority of us want to live outlives positively and not be drawn into any negativity but we need to understand this is not life.

Unfortunately, negativity is all around us. Humans are not perfect and will make mistakes accordingly but learning self-awareness of what’s around us can go a long way to fighting back against negativity.

In some cases, we might be subjected to unsolicited advice or it’s a good deal gone wrong that has left you financially in arrears. Whatever it is we can control whether we live in it or move away from it.

First, we have to recognise it, then understand it, then stop it and finally move into a new positive direction.

Peace of mind comes from us dealing with our negativity and our problems head-on. If we don’t they will not go away they will live within us or in front of us until we can take the courage to deal with it.

Self-guided tips to try

Become self-aware of your environment you’re in and find out is it helping you succeed or making you negative.

Be self-aware of your actions and write down how you can improve and get to work on it immediately

Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed today’s article – who wants to be negative anyway?

Knowing and understanding what your values are can help maintain a positive direction without getting swayed to someone else’s values you don’t agree with.

So write down what your values are as a person and what are the people around values are. And see if they match up. I will leave the final decsion with you.

Have a great day and check out another similar article below.

Hi I’m Adam

I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.

https://thefuturemindset.com/about/

Within this article, we will tap into the Important Tips To Understand How To Boost Self-Belief. Self-belief is such an important part of progressing as a person and knowing how to boost it yourself can be very beneficial. I hope you enjoy the tips and can see the progress in applying them.

Team Work Makes The Dream Work To Boost Self-Belief

Keeping ourselves confident and the belief that we can achieve our goals can be really hard sometimes and it takes incredible will power to pursue things alone.

Even harder to succeed in life this way.

Humans have proved when we work together to accomplish a task the chances of completing it goes up dramatically compared to one individual. Which is quite easy to understand as more heads are better than one as the saying goes.

Working together and believing in others has helped pre-pal humanity to where it is today. From when we hunted in packs for animals much bigger in size than ourselves to going orienteering expeditions where working together is paramount.

Throughout history, it shows the power of believing in others and working together as a team really works. This post is here to help show you that you can achieve anything you want with the help of others and how you can help others to boost their confidence too.

The impact of this is so important, just look at sports for example of the impact a crowd can have on the home team or a long-distance sprinter coming into the final lap of her home Olympics and has the whole crowd cheering her on.

That kind of positive energy moves people to places they never thought was possible themselves.

Sometimes when you see only from your own two eyes. The path can be narrow but with people behind you, they can see what your seeing and more.

That’s the power working together can have, especially coaches who can help you visualise an even better path for you to go on.

Find Someone That Empowers You To Boost Self Belief

Important Tips To Understand How To Boost Self-Belief

Throughout my life, I’ve had teachers, mentors and coaches who have helped guide me to where I am today. Without their help, I would be a different person in a different place in my life. That’s the importance of others believing in you but it can defiantly happen in the opposite direction too.

Imagine if you had people around you, who always laughed at your big ideas, always say you can’t do that or just made you feel less confident after speaking to them. How would this make you feel?

It’s a simple question and the answer is drained.

This is because your self-belief is like a car fuel tank. With extra weight within the car, the quicker the fuel tank will empty. This is the same for your self-belief muscle.

People in life will try to drag you down to their level. So either you have to make sure your self-belief tank is full beforehand or drop off the extra baggage to keep your self-belief intact.

You Have The Control To Boost Your Self-Belief

If this is you at the moment, do not worry, this is all in your control and it changes immediately if you take action. You can quickly find the right people to motivate and give you confidence in the short term through self-help books, YouTube videos and podcasts. Where you can find people with the right mindset to give you confidence in your ideas and future.

But the long term solution is surrounding yourself with people who motivate you in life and help you move forward. This can be a partner that’s supportive, a personal trainer that helps guide you to the body you want or a team around you that helps you grow your business.

Having the right people around gives you confidence in achieving any of your goals in life.

Important Tip To Understand How To Help Others With Their Self-Belief

Once you have yourself ticked off then it’s time serve others in helping them with their self-belief.

The best way for you to serve others is to put them first. You can do this by listening to them so they can be heard or it could even be you passing on your own experience to help them overcome a challenge.

Whatever it is putting them first will double down on their self-belief that they can achieve the outcome they desire.

By helping them win you will see someone shock themselves at how good they can be. For instance, a personal trainer at the gym can guide you to levels you never thought your body could go to.

Even if you’re just a friend, you can help by just believing in them and supporting them that way. Just finding positives for people and being their cheerleader can dramatically boost self-belief in another person.

With so many peoples self-belief not where it should be. Small changes can make a huge difference in someone’s life. Even if the other person feels 1% better in their belief of themselves. That still a win.

Self Guided Important Tips To Understand How To Boost Self-Belief

Look back at your own life of all the people who have supported you and you will see ways you be that person too for others. Whether that be as a friend or a profession.

Review your self-talk and ask yourself is it positive or negative, then slowly change these habits.

Be self-aware of your family, friends, partners, colleagues etc who bring you down and fix it any way you thinks best.

Final Thoughts

Again I hope you enjoyed todays article – Important Tips To Understand How To Boost Self-Belief

When self -belief in ourselves and others is practised. So much good can happen.

So I challenge you today to do 1 thing that helps you believe in yourself. Then challenge yourself to do the same for someone else.

Have a great day and see you in the next post.

Hi I’m Adam

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