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How an alter ego can bring out the best in you

In this article, we will learn How an alter ego can bring out the best in you.

It’s all about the alter ego

Throughout different parts of my life, I have become different personalities when needed. From my super competitiveness when it comes to sports or when I’m teaching I become a much more confident person. We all have different personalities we can call upon, more so subconsciously than intentional.

But what if we can become more intentional with how to unlock the best sides of our personalities and also from others too.

What is an alter ego?

An alter ego is an alternative personality that you can summon to boost confidence or unlock a trait that helps you with a task. Most famously in DC comics. Clark Kent alter ego is Superman and Bruce Wayne is Batman. Both have differing alter ego but allows them to unlock a different side of their personality to take action.

Examples of alter ego working in action

In real life, we see the alter ego bring out the best in Popstars like Beyoncé who when on stage performing she is called Sasha Fierce. The reason why she created this alter ego was Just before she would enter on stage nerves would kick in. With the creation of her alter ego it allowed her to become bold and super confident with her performance. In wrestling this ever more present. Most famously Dwayne Johnson created The Rock as his alter ego to great effect and the rest is history. (“Can you smell what The Rock is cooking?!”)

This is how my alter ego helped me

For good or bad I’m no superstar on the world stage but in my own life intentional and unintentional. I have created alter egos that have brought out the best in me.

Normally I’m introverted person but when I enter into sports mode I become a completely different animal. I have no official name for my alter ego as a celebrity would call it. But it brings out my super competitiveness, vocalism and focus.

Same can be said when I’m public speaking in front of people. My day to day personality doesn’t want anything to do with speaking in front of large audiences. But when I have to go on stage, immediately my alter ego takes over and performs. Sometimes it feels like I’m watching it work its magic.

What the science says

An article by Jeff Haden digs deep into the science of how an alter ego can bring out the best in you. He finds many great examples you should also check out. 

This is what he found from the science journals he discovered.

A 2018 study published in Emotion They split participants up into two groups. One group was told to think about an important upcoming test as if they were “immersed” in the situation, or to think of themselves as participants. The other group was told to picture observing the test from a distance or to think of themselves as spectators

The “distanced” group reported feeling much less nervous and anxious about the test – and also felt they would be much more likely to do well on the test.”

A 2014 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, participants gave a public speech. Some were instructed to work through their emotions by using the third person. (Instead of thinking, “I feel nervous… ” I would say to myself, “Jeff feels nervous… “)

The goal was to help participants see the situation from an outsider, rather than “immersed,” perspective.

The result? Participants reported feeling less stressed and anxious. Their heart rates and blood pressure levels confirmed that impression. Plus, since confidence typically improves performance, independent observers rated their performances as better than those of participants who did not adopt an outside perspective.

Like the actor pretending to be an actor appearing on a talk show, self-distancing can help you overcome emotions and see things more objectively.

How an alter ego can bring out the best in you 

Without knowing we all have a side to our personality that when unlocked can bring out the best in us. When we are all in this positive state of alter ego we can achieve anything. This can be seen as the difference between people succeeding in their craft. While others do not.

Search for yours by looking back at your own experience where an alter ego brought out the best in you. Give it a name and tap into when you need it. It doesn’t have to be limited to yourself either. You can call upon someone you look up to during a specific task to help guide you through.

For instance, when it comes to anything work ethic or exercise, I call upon David Goggins and have his voice guiding me through the pain or more like shouting at me to get going.

When I’m coaching to help me be less direct and softer. I have Jurgen Klopp speaking to me again guiding me to make better decisions.

We all have this ourselves without knowing. We have our parents, teachers or mentors who have made massive impacts on us growing up. Subconsciously guiding us with our choices.

But imagine you can tap into your alter ego when you need to work harder, be kinder, be more confident or determined. These positive traits are within us all and by allowing your alter ego to bring out the best in you. That’s when you can shine your brightest light.

Final Thoughts

I hope you have the power now to unlock your best self from today’s article – How an alter ego can bring out the best in you.

When you do find it give it a name and become the superhero of your life. Creating the mindset you deserve to achieve your goals.

Peace out and see on the next article.

Hi I'm Adam
Hi I’m Adam

I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.

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Mindset Toolkit: How Purpose Can Unlock A More Meaningful Life

What To Expect From This Article

The recent book I read was Think Like A Monk By Jay Shetty. The chapter on purpose which he calls finding your Dharma. Got me thinking about my purpose. I learnt how purpose can unlock a more meaningful life. Now I want to apply it to my own life. Within this article, we will go on a journey to find our own too.

What Is Purpose?

This can be interpreted in many different ways. From getting something done to complete your life’s mission. A purpose is a destination you want to navigate towards. Something that lights a fire in your brain and body that you can’t ignore.

The reason why so many people feel like their life is going nowhere or bored is that they are not following their purpose. Purpose can be deconstructed into many moving parts. We have a purpose to get out of bed in the morning. A purpose to make sure there’s food on the table.

Without even knowing we are fulfilling many purposes that have major effects on our lives each day. The purpose we are going to discuss and find out here is the purpose that’s out front dragging every fire of your being in that direction.

Why is Purpose important?

You might ask why can purpose be all that important. You might have struggled all your life to find it. Even now I’m still navigating my way to my ultimate purpose.

Luckily we have people who have found their purpose in life, for example, everyone would have thought Andre Agassi purpose was to play tennis and becoming a grand slam champion would be fulfilling this vision, but in fact, he hated tennis and once retired he found his purpose in life helping underprivileged children in his home town and this is what truly made him happy.

This shows that when you find your ultimate purpose life becomes evermore enjoyable and your experiences with yourself and others flourish too.

Finding our purpose is why we live in a world that’s so different compared to a thousand years ago. With so many people from Da Vinci to Elon Musk finding their life’s purpose. This intern helps so many people and society grow for the better which only shows its importance.

What does purpose expert Jay Shetty Believe? 

Jay Shetty believes purpose is when your natural talents and passions connect with what the universe needs and become your purpose, that’s when you are living in your Dharma. He also states you should feel the passion when the process is pleasing and your execution is skilful. And the response from others should be positive, showing that your passion has a purpose.

Think Like A Monk

Hes magic formula is PASSION + EXPERTISE + USEFULNESS = DHARMA

Anyone who wants to discover more about purpose he’s book and podcast is a great start.

How purpose can unlock a more meaningful life

How purpose can unlock a more meaningful life
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The best thing about humanity is that we are all unique with different likes and dislikes. Which means we can all follow what our purpose is in life. Is it being a teacher or an inventor? Whatever your passions are. You have to find and follow it. Humanity needs it and it needs your joy and happiness in doing so. We all have one shot at life and a question you don’t want to ask yourself is what could have been if… This is not how we all want to go. We want to depart from Earth knowing we lived a life of purpose that was on our terms.

There are so many people now turning away from 9 – 5 jobs to climb mountains, retire at 30 or become an influencer online. Even becoming a writer through blogging. These people have more fire in their belly, they are happier than they would ever be rather than doing something we are taught is the right path in life.

Whatever you’re doing now that is not aligned with your purpose. Don’t look down on the position you have. View it as you have just warmed up the position for someone who’s purpose is do what you don’t want to.

Some people hate cleaning while some people love it. That’s the same for everything in life. You just have to find what your purpose is to achieve in life.

Still Have To Put In The Effort

Even when you find your purpose don’t expect that’s job done, the same work ethic, learning and mindset towards any task will still have to be achieved. The only underlying difference is your energy levels of passion will keep you going through any hardship. Laziness does not attract success even if it is your purpose. Your purpose is your responsibility, so you have to rely on yourself to take action on it. Only you can control this.

My Top Tips We Can All Do Today

  1. Learn new skills to find your purpose
  2. Do not stay doing something you hate, plan to leave it behind
  3. Find out what your strengths and weakness are
  4. Follow your passions, follow your heart
  5. Connect your values to your purpose

Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed today’s article – How purpose can unlock a more meaningful life.

It’s apparent how effective having a purpose can have on your mental well-being in life. Don’t worry if you haven’t found your life purpose. It will take as long as it takes. As long as your pursing it and following your passions. We are all put on Earth to do something special. We just have to listen out for what it is.

If you have found your life’s purpose. What is it? We would love to know!

Hi I'm Adam
Hi I’m Adam

I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.