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6 Ways A Mentor Can Help You With Imposter Syndrome

Within today’s article, 6 ways a mentor can help you with imposter syndrome. We will discuss how you as a mentor can help anyone overcome their imposter syndrome. In a time where imposter syndrome is becoming more well know and prevalent within society. It is your duty as a mentor to help guide people to regain control of reality and their mind.

How To Help Someone With Imposter Syndrome

 6 ways a mentor can help you with imposter syndrome
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At some point, we all face imposter syndrome whether that’s you getting a promotion into a management position and you don’t feel deserving of the role or you get asked to write a book and you don’t feel your message is worth anyone hearing.

From a mentors point of view spotting this in people is an important part of coaching and leading people. It can be hard for people to see their own fault and what holds them back. Looking from the outside in. You can place yourself in a unique position to help comfort and guide people away from imposter syndrome.

Here are some of the ways you can do this.

6 Ways A Mentor Can Help You With Imposter Syndrome

1. Let Them Know They Are Not Alone

Once you have spotted imposter syndrome in someone. Let them know they’re not the only person going through this. By letting them know that you go through it, all the people around you and the successful people you watch on TV, all go through it too.

When we get caught with imposter syndrome we have a tendency to make ourselves feel it’s just us and us alone are going through this. Comforting your mentees to let them know they’re not alone can help a lot in overcoming imposter syndrome. Telling them your own stories and showing them real-life stories can uplift their spirits that it’s not just them.

2. Look Out For Negative Self-Talk

A quick way to spot if someone is experiencing imposter syndrome is by listening to what they say about themselves. For example, saying I’m not good enough to do this or I’m too stupid to do this.

As a mentor, you should calmly and immediately move them away from this negative self-talk. You can do this by presenting them with facts as to why these statements are completely false. Showing them when they have succeeded and what everyone else thinks of them. Slowly absorb and throw out any negative self-talk they have.

From there help them by teaching techniques like how to create a victory list of their achievements and help them remember their successes. This will give them the power to correct themselves when you’re not there.

3. Let Them Know What You Think Of Them

Affirming on a regular basis the positivity you see in the people you mentor. Can stop imposter syndrome from forming in the first place. There is something good in everyone, you just have to look.

By being honest with your assessments it will them overcome self-doubt and help them believe they are worthy of the position or task they’re doing. Make a mental note or write down at least one thing to the person you’re mentoring and let them know.

Watch or listen to how they feel and perform as a consequence of your affirmation towards them. A mentor who doesn’t let their mentee know what they are doing well at. Will allow imposter syndrome to flourish at some point.

4. Eradicate Sexism, Racism And Social Hierarchy

You wouldn’t think these 3 words would affect imposter syndrome but it surely does. Imposter syndrome was first researched with women where women felt their efforts and place in the workplace was at cost of being female. Also, minorities in an organisation have a feeling they don’t belong because they don’t fit in with the majority. This brings out the self-doubt, imposter syndrome feeds off.

That is why you as a mentor or leader have to create an environment where everyone matters and that everyone regardless, of gender, race or social standing that you are deserving of being here.

The old way of thinking of being a man, being white or being from a well off family means of deserving more has to disappear. We know now categorically that women are just as smart as men, that we’re are human with the same mental capacity and just because you are born into a certain family means nothing to what you can achieve. Understanding this you will create an environment that anyone would love to work in.

5. Create A Safe Space For Mental Health

I think now with all the knowledge we know about mental health. Having a safe space where people can talk about their problems and concerns should be of importance.

This is one way you can help someone prevent and overcome imposter syndrome.

I would recommend that you study and seek expert advice when dealing with anyone’s mental health and depending on the size of your organisation. Having a fully trained professional is a great option to have which most sports teams and the biggest companies have now. To simply listen and find solutions together can really help the mindset change from imposter syndrome.

6. Help Them To Self Manage Imposter Syndrome

It’s amazing if you can help someone overcome imposter syndrome but it can be even more empowering to teach them to overcome it themselves. Self-management leads to long term happiness and the power to be in charge of imposter syndrome when it creeps up. Check out 8 ways to overcome imposter syndrome for developing this on an individual basis.

Over To You

I hope you learned from today’s article 6 Ways A Mentor Can Help You With Imposter Syndrome.

It can be a difficult job being someone’s mentor but it’s also a privilege too. It’s our duty to provide the best mentoring possible and helping them overcome imposter syndrome can be one of them.

Are there any other strategies that you know of to combat imposter syndrome as a mentor? Please write it in the comments below.

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Why Treating Life Like A Game Is Important For The Mind

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Within today’s article why treating life like a game is important for the mind. We will understand why being focused is a great strategy for happiness and how treating life like a game can change your mindset towards life. I love sport and games and they’ve helped shape the person I am today. I hope this can guide you too.

Treat Life Like A Game, Serious vs Focussed 

Why treating life like a game is important for the mind
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Life can be challenging at the best of times when we’re trying to progress. What makes life even more challenging is when we treat life too seriously. Being too serious can lead to a closed mindset. Where you have tunnel vision and can lead to a whole lot of stress. Which can have long-lasting problems on the mind and your overall health.

I’ve been there myself where I took everything super seriously and it annoyed me, even more, when people were succeeding and were not serious at all. When I was serious I didn’t laugh much, wasn’t overly happy and felt serious pressure to perform.

At the time I had a lot of pressure with finances and the expecting of a newborn. Then it came to a point where my manager had to sit me down and told me that you are way too serious and performance needs to improved to be able to continue here.

This was a big wake up call and ultimately this seriousness had to change for my job and my overall mental health. Luckily I was in my early 20s so I had time to change.

Imagine playing sports or video games being too serious It becomes unenjoyable. That’s why it’s important to loosen up and don’t take everything overly serious. What I changed with my approach was instead of being serious I became focused instead.

The Power Of Focus

I focused on having more fun at work, building relationships, learning new skills. I even focused on playing the game of what the business expected me to do. That’s where everything changed. It moved my mind and energy into alignment. Success shortly followed and the new way of being focused allowed me to change my life.

So If you find yourself becoming too serious. Instead, opt for the approach of being focused and plan what you want to focus on to succeed. Just like a video game where you have to focus on completing each level.

Life’s Goal Is To Have Fun With What Your Doing

Imagine looking back on your life and regret that you didn’t have any fun or experienced the things you wanted to. This would be a terrible feeling.

That’s why with the approach of treating life as a game. The intention should be to succeed in whatever game your playing but ultimately enjoy the process and have fun.

That’s why whatever you do within your life whether that be travelling, raising children or trying to progress within your job. Treat it like a game where you have to pass a serious of different tasks to level up or move on to the next level of the game.

This process has made raising my children more enjoyable. Instead of getting caught up in all the negative aspects of parenting. Instead, I look at what their age group requires and go to town in helping them achieve every milestone they need and focus on making it fun and rewarding.

You can even do this with languages, after watching a Johnny Harris Youtube video on learning languages. How he approached learning a new language was level 1 learn 1000 most common words within that language and then once completed move on to the next level to speak it and so on.

This not only makes learning fun but also allows us like a game to pass the level and move on. If you are a person who enjoys perfectionism you can even enjoy learning and perfecting each level of life to its maximum before progressing to the next stage.

For example, if your learning to drive instead of doing what it takes to pass you could do everything possible while learning to gain maximum points to pass your driving test.

Whatever floats your boat but ultimately making it enjoyable for you to move forward.

Why Treating Life Like A Game Is Important For The Mind

Of course, enjoyment is important depending on what game we play. What’s more important is the positive effects it has on the mind. When we are happy with how our life is going our mental health is greatly improved.

The power that sports, video games, board games and anything where a game mentality is used. Dramatically boost the mind and the overall positive feeling we have.

If we apply this strategy to a generic task that normally brings no enjoyment it can transform life into one of enjoyment instead of a life of dread. This can be as easy as timing yourself how fast you can tidy your home or competing with your partner who can iron all the clothes the neatest.

Within any game, there is a form of competition either with others or yourself. When we compete it naturally brings out a different side of us and as long as it’s controlled. It can be an amazing tool to use to create enjoyment in generic tasks of life.

Over To You

I hope you enjoyed today’s article about why treating life like a game is important for the mind.

When we take ourselves and life too seriously. Life becomes hard and unenjoyable. But if we take the approach of being focussed instead, it allows our minds to open up to new possibilities.

Then take the foundations of what games can give us and apply the strategy of completing a game with real-life situations. It becomes a game-changer in progressing while having fun.

If you’re into video games I hope this resonates with you and the understanding of mixing the two worlds together. If video games not your thing then sports, board games and expeditions can relate well to this too.

Take your life and mental strength to the next level by making life the game you’ve always wanted.

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I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.