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We All Have A Story

Everyone reading this will have a story of their life. Everyone you know will have a story of you. No two stories are the same and the story you tell about yourself is interpreted on your opinion of how the events of your life have unfolded.

Life events can definitely shape our story but also other people can definitely shape the person we are today. Within anyone’s story, when they tell themself they’re a terrible communicator or says no to challenges.

Where did that come from? Is it really who you are or is it a habit that’s learnt?

I believe it’s learnt from the story others have told us about who we are and what stories we have told ourselves that have become our reality. Of course, when it comes to communication there are personalities who are well suited to talking in large crowds or to strangers.

But speaking as an introvert whose story was that I am a terrible communicator who dreaded any public speaking role. This story was a lie, a story that was created in my childhood. Luckily I learned I was a good communicator by learning the skill through coaching and face to face sales and came to enjoy speaking at large events. This goes to show that the story we tell ourselves are not always what they seem and like any story you change to be whatever you wish it to be.

What’s Your Story?

The question you have to ask yourself is. What’s my story?

Is your story creating you happiness, wealth & purpose or is it making you give in to fear, debt or comfortability?

Only you will know the answer but analysing your story will help to see the lies and where they come from. Are they your thoughts or somebody else’s?

Too many of us, myself included have thoughts of what we think we are that have come from somebody else’s mind. Not only harm our progression but also our wellbeing.

It came to my attention in adulthood that I struggled with self-belief. I always believed someone else was more deserving because my effort wasn’t good enough when in reality it was. My story was that I had to be the best or I’m not good enough and constantly downplayed my success. I’m not sure where this story came from but it affected me from achieving my best but also my well-being.

When you lack self-belief happiness is a commodity.

But when I analysed my story and lies I have told myself. I came to realise that I am enough and I have a victory list of accomplishments that I came to be proud of. This has allowed me to change my story.

So what’s stories are holding you back? Take 10 minutes to write down stories that harm your health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness.

What Stories Can Hold Us Back

Creating a false reality
Worse case scenarios predictions that stop them from moving forward
Thinking small
Stories that are forced upon us

How We Can Tell New Stories

If you’re living a life that’s not bringing you health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. It’s time to make a change. The best way to do it is to question the thoughts and habits that you keep.

For example, when it came to food. I used to have stories of I had to eat everything on my plate, all meat is good for you for protein and being a vegan is unhealthy and weird.

These stories I was told was not helping me have great health. I ate too many calories compared to my lifestyle, I ate too much meat that gave me high cholesterol and exploring different food lifestyles didn’t give me a bigger picture of how I could eat healthy as well enjoying a vegan diet.

The new stories we create don’t have to be the same but they have to help you in areas of health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. Doing your own research from credible people and research from a wide range of viewpoints can help you shape the life you want. For the four areas, we have discussed I have a mentor as well as keep up to date in how I could improve my story further. The trick is to always keep an open mind on how to constantly improve your story. This will help create a life you truly can be proud of.

Don’t Worry What Others Think

My stories are definitely different to when I was 18 and are looked at like I’m sought of an alien from family members but the difference is that I am evolving the story that helps me and they’re living the same story they were told what life was.

If this resonates somewhere with you please tell me in the comments after reading this article because I think it’s time to create a new story for you.

Make Sure You Keep The Good Stories

To create a life you want. Making new stories that benefit you is inevitable. But that doesn’t mean eliminating all your stories of who you are. I’m sure in everyone there I amazing stories you live by and help you in your life. For me, it was the story of helping others less fortunate. Whether that be in a charitable sense or just helping people who need it. Another story I hold dealy I can achieve anything I set my mind to. This has led me to perceive and show determination in everything I set my mind to.

These are my stories but great stories that you have created or have been influenced by? When you’re reviewing your own stories make sure to write all the good stories you have that fuel you in life. Alongside who taught you. This will show you the great influencers of your life and how best to use them going forward.

To finish off. Always remember nothing is fixed in life, it’s changeable. There are people all over the world maybe even someone you know. Who is living a life of health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. If they can do it, you can do it.

I have faith in you and you have faith in yourself.

I challenge you to go create the amazing stories you always wanted to create today!

Let us know at THEFUTUREMINDSET how you get on!

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A Final Word From The Future Mindset

I hope you enjoyed today’s article How The Stories We Tell Ourselves Can Make Or Break us. I hope the article has helped in some way.

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Rejection & Sales Go Hand In Hand

Dealing with rejection in life is hard. Rejection is a feeling no one wants to go through. For any new person in sales. This is somewhat of a shock to the system when they get 100 nos a day. It can be seen outside of the sales world when someone’s applying for a job, trying to find a partner or trying to get a loan for their new business idea. That’s why dealing with rejection is a skill worth learning.

When it comes to sales it’s just a human to human interaction that reflects life. You will receive a lot more nos than you will receive yes’s. Learning a new language or learning to walk for the first time comes with a lot of setbacks until you gain the ultimate reward.

The biggest skill you can learn from doing sales is how you deal with rejection. This is what will set you apart from the rest and this is what will allow you to go on and achieve great success in your life.

Knowing how to deal with rejection makes life so much easier. It becomes less painful, less emotional and you can start building momentum forward instead of dwelling on the rejection. This leads you to be in charge of your destiny instead of living for someone else’s opinion or decision holding you back.

This article is written to help you understand rejection and how to use it to your advantage in life. It’s a non-negotiable part of life and you either win with it or lose.

What Sales Can Teach You About Rejection

What Sales Can Teach You About Dealing With Rejection In Life

My first job out of university was unexpectedly in sales. I was completely outside of my comfort zone in an environment that was strange but intriguing. On top of that, the sales we had to do was face to face. For an introverted guy, this was uncomfortable but luckily I was open to learning a new skill and competitiveness to become the best at it.

In my first two weeks there I learned a lot. I was definitely not a natural salesman but was improving day by day. One thing I had on my side was work ethic over the skill of persuasion. I probably spoke to 1000 people in two weeks and got 31 people to say yes to me and made £620.

Some nos were nice and some nos were harsh where you wanted to say something back. But what I learned was dealing with rejection was important whether the no was nice or rude it was still a no. It didn’t bring me closer to what I wanted if I dwelled on the outcome.

How we deal with rejection is all attitude. The mindset we have towards rejection will determine your success.

When I saw other people much better at communicating fail at sales it wasn’t because of their skill. It was was from how they handled rejection, how they could not let go of a no and move on to the next one. It was also how they let it affect them.

This is the same in real life as well. You apply for a job and they say no, some people will use it as feedback and others will look at it as a personal attack on their character where they will self sabotage themselves.

No matter if you are the best salesman in the world, most handsome or have the best CV known to man. They will all face rejection the difference is how they handle the rejection determine their success.

How To Prepare For Rejection

Preparing for rejection is important for keeping your attitude. If you’re not prepared you will lose your attitude fast. How I prepared my mind for rejection is to take all the emotion out of the no. For example in sales, I prepared my mind by telling myself that every no I received was not to me it was a no to the client. This helped to protect me from a lowering of self-esteem to ass the negative energy elsewhere. I also prepared the mind that rejection is a good thing. The reason being is that nos are inevitable so the quicker I can get away from my nos the quicker I will find my yes.

These are just two examples of many of how preparing the mind can have huge barring on maintaining your attitude. This system applies to anything in life and preparing that you will receive rejection and have strategies that protect your attitude will allow you to not get bogged down in rejection instead you can be like a frog leaping from leaf to leaf.

How To Deal With Rejection

Preparing for failure is the first part of handling rejection. The second part is dealing with rejection. Taking a head-on approach is important. When you wait for rejection to hit the power it has is huge. Instead using simple techniques can keep your attitude battery life at full capacity.

In sales no matter what no I received I always had the mindset to leave the person I found better than I found them. So whenever I received a no, I always responded with thank you for your time if you ever want more information you can pop on our website and take a look. By transferring the energy into a positive one. It allows for you to deal with th rejection you are getting . Plus on the bigger picture, the likehood of this person doing it in the future is more likely

In the real world if you get dumped, fired or rejected. You should learn how to leave things better than you left them or else the rejection will eat you alive if you let it.

To Conclude

I hope this has given you a better understanding of rejection. Rejection is a painful emotion to feel but it’s in your control of how you deal with it. The most successful people in any profession know how to deal with rejection from sport, acting or managers. Learning the systems and skills that allow you to overcome rejection can benefit you in every aspect of your life. First, you plan for rejection then you learn how to deal with rejection. because dealing with rejection is the way to keeping a balanced mind through life.

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A Final Word From The Future Mindset

I hope you enjoyed today’s article What Sales Can Teach You About Dealing With Rejection In Life.

If you want to take your mindset to the next level how about scheduling a 30-min discovery session to chat about your current status, results you want, and next steps. Don’t hesitate to contact me at adam@thefuturemindset.com

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