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In today’s article, 5 effective ways to guide your child to independence I will discuss how important it is to guide children into becoming an independent adult. As well as discussing the changes in the modern world that can affect our parental guidance. This will be followed by 5 tips that can help you gain the trust of the child to trust in your guildence.

How To Guild A Child To Independence In The Modern World

learning to guide your child to independence is an important aspect of parenting. Whereas forcing the child like they’re owned property can have a damaging effect on mental health and maturity as they get older. The role of an adult as been an important role for every child. Now parents have a much harder job building their children to independence more than ever.

The modern world is very different from what it was 100 years ago. The ever-changing decades have changed so much as we have never seen before. The influences children have now are keeping them immature for much longer from their role model in the celebrity or online world and more peer orientation who take the role of a parent which can damaging effects on children into adulthood.

To help with the process of keeping the child engaged your wisdom and guidance. Here are 5 effective way to guide your child to independence.

5 Effective Ways To Guide Your Child To Independence

1. Let Them Become What They Want To Be

How does anyone feel when they’re forced to do anything. It normally comes with resistance and a strong defence. You see this a lot with a teenager who is trying to discover who they are.

What makes this stage of growth worst is when we force upon them things they clearly do not enjoy or want to do. We just have to look at cultures in Asia where children I groomed to be doctors and lawyers.

Of course these I worthy profession to go into for many reasons but they shouldn’t be at the expense of a persons mental health who clearly hates it.

As parents, we must realise there are many ways to be successful in the modern world. Also reminding ourselves that our children are not us, they’re their own person with their own interests. Some will, of course, be similar but some will be different.

The role of a parent should be to help prepare them to want to do in life by focussing on their foundations, not their end goal. This will keep them close to you instead of pushing away and causing more mental pain into adulthood.

This will allow them to become a confident independent adult who knows they can become anything they want to be.

2. Have Strong Attachment

Having been proven in studies. Having a close attachment to your child allows them to grow into independent adults. You can provide their attachment needs they will follow your guidance whereas if you do not have an attachment with your child they will quickly find it elsewhere. It’s their natural instinct. They will form peer attachment where they will resist you and follow the guidance of other immature peers and the path to mature independent adults will be a long-drawn-out process. Focussing on keeping your attachment with your child will help them in the long run.

3. Let Them Makes Mistakes

Parent has a natural instinct to protect their children from danger. It’s a fine line though when try and protect them from everything. It’s normal for children to make mistakes whether it’s falling over or making the wrong decision. Childhood is all trial and error and the more you can allow your child to live without fear and pushing them into new areas where they can learn more about themselves and the mistakes they make. Will prepare them for independence a lot quicker than you protecting them from everything the world has to teach them.

4. I Do, We Do, You Do

Sometimes it can easy to expect a child to just get the thing you know. Especially when you find them easy or have them on autopilot. We should think of children as blank canvas who need to be showed something not once but maybe multiple times.

That’s why the process of I do, we do, you do work so effectively.

You can use this strategy when earning how to deal with emotions, how to wash your clothes or open their own bank account. Children need our guidance and the more we can keep them attached to us the easier it will be to guide them into independence.

5. Have Adult Role Models

What can make a child become a strong independent person is having multiple role models in their life. Of course you as parents but having grandparents, uncle, aunties, teachers, coaches, sensei. The more positive role models a child has can make them a well-rounded person. This helps the child to see how to act and have the values and responsibilities needed to be an independent person. This guidance is important for future growth.

What Do You Think?

I hope you enjoyed today article, 5 effective ways to guide your child to independence

Parenting is a challenging role to undertake. When we guide our children instead of forcing them and keeping them close to us. We can help them reach independence a lot quicker when they’re ready.

I hope this has helped.

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What To Expect

In today’s article Why you should make failure your friend when learning new skills, we are going to discuss everything failure.

How it helps you to succeed, how we can learn from it and some strategies to help deal with any failure you come across. Every human has many failures in their life. There’s no getting past it when it comes to progression.

So know yourself, when you have a failure in your life minor or major. Remember you are not alone as everyone around goes through it too.

Carrying Failure vs Stepping Over Failure

Why you should make failure your friend when learning new skills — Photo by Brett Jordan on Unsplash

When I was younger there was a challenge I had to do to learn how to keep a positive attitude.

I was giving multiple objects to carry. At first, it was easy but bit by bit it got heavier and heavier where I could no longer carry the objects and with the extra weight they all fell to the ground.

The challenge was to show. If in life you take on too much negativity it will eventually way you down where you can no longer keep a positive attitude any longer.

This principle is the same when it comes to failure. When you carry all your failures with you. One by one it will drag you down which will lead to damaging effects on your mental health. I have seen sad occasions where peoples failure has been too much for the individual. They have decided to not carry on their life any longer.

That’s why everyone should learn when they come up against a failure to not carry with them. You have to immediately act as your mental health is at stake and you have to find it within yourself to step over failure and treat it as a positive learning curve of what not to do.

We Have To Learn To Help People Deal With Failure

In our culture today it’s frowned upon to fail or make a mistake which goes against how we progress as a human. Instead, we should help people by re-teaching them a better way forward where they can learn from their mistakes.

The biggest mistakes we can make in society, of course, will lead a person to become a prisoner.

There are serious crimes that are hard to come back from but why do people who go to prison come out to go back again soon after? One reason is that failure will stick with them forever and they will find it hard to get a job, housing or place back in the community. This is why they can not reform and learn from their mistakes as easily. Every case is unique but what if no one in their life was a good role model for them and never taught them a more positive path to take.

It’s easy to judge but giving people second chances from failure is also something we should learn to do too within society as long as the appropriate re-education is put in place.

In Order To Succeed You Must First Be Willing To Fail

When it comes to succeeding you have to prepare your self for failure. You need to treat it as a law that is a consequence of action. Now if anyone is scared of failure. It’s a normal reaction as it’s painful to fail in the moment.

Imagine your public speaking and you forget what you were going to say or you promised everyone you were going to do something but you failed. Of course, it’s painful but it will only continue to be painful if you let it.

There are two options to take when failure strikes you.

1. You can hide away from the world and your problems.

2. You face failure head-on and find a solution to overcome it.

The first one takes little effort and progression halts in your life. Whereas the second option takes a lot of effort but progression advances forward.

I know people where certain failures in their life have made them curl up into their shell to never be seen again. This is not healthy for their mind. By learning strategies to overcome failure is crucial and should be taught from an early age.

As a parent, I have a big say in how my children react to failure in adulthood. When a child is coddled from the world and their problems. When they’re faced with problems as an independent adult they can’t handle the pressure and revert back to comfortability.

By accepting failure as normal and a great learning curve. You will thank yourself later in life for your courage to act with positivity.

Strategies For Learning From Failure

1. Forgive Yourself

Forgiving yourself of your failures is the first step in overcoming failure. From my own experience, I carried too many of my failures but when I let go the weight was released instantly. My overall happiness has improved because I don’t hang on to the past.

2. It Gets You Closer To The Goal

Some failures are in your life as obstacles to get you closer to your goal. Just like doing puzzles or playing games where you keep, failing. Learning from your failures as you go along can help you get closer to your end goal. Just don’t give up along the way just adapt and move forward.

3. Learning From Failure Stories

There are many successful people from past and present who have gone through failure.

In the present day, we have Elon Musk who has gone through many failures along the way to him recently becoming the richest man on earth in 2021. His businesses Tesla and Space X are one example where at the same time each business was going to go bankrupt. Miraculously he found a way out by learning from his failures. Now everyone wants a Tesla and Space X works alongside Nasa with the goal to land on Mars becoming a real prospect.

In the past, there are many great people who were known as failures. Thomas Edison failed over Ten Thousand times when he was creating the electric light bulb.

President Lincoln stands out for me. Now in American culture is one of the most famous presidents of all time. But if you look at his story he failed many times in becoming president. But he learned from his failures and never gave up. Now he has a legacy long after his death.

4. Build A Safe Learning Environment

Whether it be at home or leading a team. Creating a learning environment where someone can feel it’s ok and normal that sometimes they will fail. This Will lead to high productivity and results in the long term.

So when a child makes a mistake with their maths. Show them it’s normal and try again. When your employee forgets what was required of them instead of sacking them, why don’t you teach them what’s meant to be done. It’s been proven that creating these safe environments for learning has boosted the productivity of the individual and organisations.

5. Analyse Failure

When we fail instead of hiding away from it or condemning the person who has failed. Instead, analyse the data and find where they went wrong and come up with solutions to fix it. This is where some of the best work is done on the other side of failure.

Over To You

I hope you understand more about failure from today’s article Why you should make failure your friend when learning new skills.

Knowing that failure is a positive consequence of progress. That everyone goes through failure and that you can overcome any failure in your life. Will go a long way to helping you progress at whatever you do with your mental health intact

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