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How The Perception Of Being A Man Is All Wrong

How The Perception Of Being A Man Is All Wrong

Since a young boy, I have watched films with male lead characters that have inspired me to be more like them. From Maximus Aurelius in Gladiator to Batman himself in Christopher Nolan epic trilogy. Both command a strong, fearless warrior with bravery and courage. Characteristics any man would want to uphold. But these stereotypes of what men should be. Is accumulating in the perception of being a man to be like Leonidus of Sparta in a modern world.

As far back as history can go humans and men especially. Have contested in tribal battles and global warfare. This creates a certain type of man. All the films I’ve disclosed above have male lead characters perfectly designed for battle-hardened men.

In the 21st century, we now live in a world of relative peace where our old male stereotype is not needed. We can take the positive characters and use them in business and sports but there is a new layer that needs implementing. A part of us that can express our feelings without being called demeaning words that put men right back in their shells.

The courage you see from these characters in films needs to be used to create a new man. That is strong but vulnerable. A man who leads from the front but is also open to receiving help. A man who sees his fellow women as equal not someone he has to provide for.

A New World

Men are entering a new world and the role they once had is becoming the past. Some will look back to the good old times of male toughness, stoicism and being a non-emotional man. When little do they know the negative side effects that their fellow man has to go through. Has great consequences on their mental health.

So today will discuss what changes men can make to create a healthy mindset. Without losing their identity of being a man.

Creating A Healthy Mindset

Like any major change from the norm. It will face pushback and difficulty. For it to succeed it takes courage, leadership and a mindset to persevere.

If I compared myself from when I was a young boy to now. I’m definitely living with a healthier mindset of what it means to be a man. But there are still times when I think I shouldn’t cry or I shouldn’t let anyone know my problems from the fret that isn’t a very man-like thing to do.

Of course, it’s ridiculous but these are feelings men feel on a daily basis. Habits are definitely passed down from generations but all it takes is one person to break away from the old ways. Thanks to the internet there are amazing people speaking openly about what men go through and how to make a positive change like mantalks and humenorg.

What Change Can We Make Today

Speak Up

I was the first person in my family to ever go to university. Like many these days, young people are changing their family trees into better financial situations. Being the first to take action takes courage but also can create change.

By creating a safe space for men to talk openly without ridicule from other men is the first place to start. You have to understand that when other men say things and you get a male response that’s negative. It Isn’t their words, it’s the words and thoughts they have been taught. This does not mean they believe or want to be macho male type deep down. It is just a reactive habit.

But nothing will change if no one takes action to change. So as painful as it is. Speaking up and allowing no judgement on your behalf when other men want to open up. It will go a long way in creating trust and shaping men in the modern world.

Be The Man You Want To Be

There is no e way to should act. The only focus you should have is being the man you want to be. Listening to your gut and what makes you happier in life he focus. If you want to cry when watching a film do it. You want to express how you feel openly do it. If you want to do ballet or any perceived non-manly sport do it. There is no written formula for how you should live your life. Forget peoples judgement of your external choices that go against the grain. Just focus on your internal mindset by developing your mindset towards positive character traits of love, kindness, gratitude, trustworthy and the list can go on. This is what you can control the rest is up to everyone else.

It’s Normal To Have Feelings

Men expressing their feelings is stereotyped as some sought of weakness in society. Men expressing how they feel openly shows vulnerability and courage.

This is a positive trait and only people who look their nose down upon anyone doing this. Only wish they could be like you. They too have feelings and instead of showing the courage to express them, they would rather move the attention away from you.

It’s a man-made idea that men shouldn’t express their feelings. Now how you express your feelings is unique to every individual.

As a man, I like to express my feeling with writing. I put all my feelings on paper and learn how to deal with problems, forgiveness and sometimes nothing at all. You have to understand feeling is energy that needs to escape. Instead of bottling them up to explode out of control, I transfer them onto paper. I only express the emotions from the paper to the real world of my choosing.

There are many ways like speaking to someone you can trust or seeking professional help.

Whatever your way is, knowing that having emotions and expressing emotions is normal.

To Conclude

I definitely don’t have all the answers and I’m on my own journey into developing a healthy male mindset. I open up the discussion thoughts or practical actions to better equip men. I’m more than open too.

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The Guide To Why You Can’t-Wait For Motivation You Have To Create It

Why You Can’t-Wait For Motivation

Motivation is a fickle entity. When you have it you have days of endless energy at your disposal and when it’s gone it’s the complete opposite.

Achieving motivation is crucial for anything to be achieved with the right mindset. But why is it so dam hard to replicate?

I was never taught the winning formula of how to achieve motivation. I suspect many people don’t know themselves if you asked them. But without a doubt, motivation is important and you will find countless stories of what motivation can do to change peoples lives.

So we know clearly in all our lives that motivation is important because every time we have achieved anything important or done anything we have found interesting we have been motivated to do it.

So how do we get motivated? Do we wait patiently for it to come our way? Without being conscious of doing it I’m sure we have all been suspect of waiting around for something to happen. I know I have. Persuading myself that I will be motivated later while I procrastinate in my short term motivation.

When it comes to motivation the harder and challenging the task is the slower the motivation will come your way.

Planning Creates Action

That’s why to achieve a motivation state for any challenging task that’s worthwhile you have to plan for it and foremost make it easy.

Now motivation is like playing games, going surfing or anything that you just enjoy doing. It’s going to come easier for you. I have never had to plan to watch a football match or play on my PS4 but I had to plan to complete my degree and I had to plan to write this article today. The reason why is that comfortability is a natural feeling. It’s a feeling of safety but anything challenging is a serious threat to comfortability and makes us enter the uncomfortable zone. This zone is where we need to be to progress at anything in our life that’s worthwhile but expecting to be logical and be readily motivated to do it is another story.

Plan For It To Be Easy

This goal then is to make everything you do easy to start. There can be no friction of difficulty as the chances of you doing it in percentage terms goes further down the harder the task gets.

That’s why planning your route and how you start is so important to unlocking motivation straight away.

For example, when it comes to completing my assignments or writing this article I plan to start easy. I plan to write 500 words a day. For me, that is an easy amount to get started but also worthwhile to complete. But when I first started it was 200 words a day to get me started.

Another example is when I have to do strength training. I plan to start easy by saying I will just do 10 minutes.

When it comes to planning for yourself it has to be easy for you and that’s different for everybody.

Once the plan is made easy it’s time to take action!!

Action Creates Motivation

Once you have planned the route you want to take. The next step is to take action. Action is the magic formula and most important to achieve motivation. Without action, there is no motivation. That’s why it’s important to have a simple formula to take action whenever you can.

The best way to take action is to just start. With the mind predicting every pain and downfall you can have. It’s still in the pit lane doing nothing but when you take action you are out on the track making things happen.

Action is the biggest hurdle to anyone happiness and success. It’s the hardest part because it takes effort but it’s also the most rewarding because it offers up results.

The Hurdle To Taking Action

The biggest hurdle to taking action is procrastination. The moment when you start lying to yourself that your future self will do it later.

Imagining a more disciplined and overall better person will make better decisions. This is all false and an illusion your mind tricks you into believing. The reason being the person you are tomorrow is going to be the same person thinking the same thoughts of putting it off.

The only way you can change your situation is by taking action immediately. When you can make it a habit to take action quickly all the time in your life. You will start to see amazing returns.

The skill to just get started makes things happen.

The best way to do this is to make starting easy and fun.

The opposite and what most people tend to think for example going to the gym is the traffic they will be in to get there and how hard it will be. The chances of you taking action to go are questionable for a lot of people with gym memberships.

But when you make the journey a time of listening to your favourite songs and podcasts as well as saying I’m just going to do 10 minutes and give my best. Well, that tricks the mind into thinking this is easy and fun and very comfortable.

9/10 times when you are into your workout and have all the chemicals released makes you want to carry on and do the hours workout.

Planning to get to the starting blocks is one thing but taking action to get there and just start is the hardest but most rewarding aspect to gain motivation.

Discipline Maintains Motivation

Planning and taking action when you start something new is quite easy. The new job, the new partner or the new training schedule are all exciting when they’re in their infancy. But what makes motivation last is discipline.

Discipline is the secret sauce that brings to life the person you want to become. It’s all good doing something for a day but doing it 365 days in a row is challenging. Some days will wake not feeling our best but when we disciplined to execute the plan with action you will feel accomplishment in our life. Along the way motivation will keep popping up like a long lost friend who you pick up where you left off.

There are so many things in my life where I a not motivated to do at the moment but when I follow through I actually enjoy the thing I didn’t want to do.

That’s why we should never rely just on our emotions in the moment because they don’t always tell the correct story.

How To Make It A Habit

Motivation You Have To Create It by taking action

To make this a habit you have to want to make it a habit and follow this simple system of;

Planning for it to be easy.

Make taking action easy and fun.

Be disciplined to do it when you don’t want to.

To be able to achieve all the things you want in life takes time. There is no magic wand that creates it. The mind has a powerful role to play and being self-aware to plan take action and be disciplined with your habits. You wistart to see the goals you set out to achieve, be achieved. That’s satifing because all we want to do in life is achieve the things we set out to do.

This helps to never live a life of major regret for not trying.

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A Final Word From The Future Mindset 

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