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What’s Imposter Syndrome and 8 Ways To Overcome it

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Within today’s article, what’s imposter syndrome and 8 ways to overcome it. We will discuss everything about imposter syndrome what it is and how to overcome it within your daily life.

My own experience with imposter syndrome has held me back in certain areas of my life. I find that most people are struck by imposter syndrome and it affects us all in different ways. Remember if you’re dealing with this you are not alone and there is a way out. Let’s overcome this together.

What Is Imposter Syndrome

What's Imposter Syndrome and 8 Ways To Overcome it

Imposter syndrome is a psychological condition where your mind makes you doubt your ability’s, accomplishments and overall self-worth. It’s not based on facts but a feeling we make our mind feel when we compare the lives of others around us.

This can lead to a host of mental health issues like depression, anxiety and a lack of self-worth. It mostly occurs when having a lack of confidence which opens the door to self-doubt and our own perceived incompetence or fraudulent appearance, which are all fabricated in our own mind. Whereas in reality you could be perceived as being successful and amazing and deserving at what you do.

There is a way to prevent and overcome imposter syndrome. Below is a detailed list of 8 ways to overcome imposter syndrome within your daily life. I hope it helps!

8 Ways To Overcome Imposter Syndrome

1. The Victory List

I first heard about a victory list when I read Jack Canfield book, The Success Principles. When people are suffering from imposter syndrome they forget about all their past success to only have a narrow view of focussing on their circumstances now.

What really helps to prevent and overcome imposter syndrome is creating your own victory list of all your accomplishment in your life and I mean everything you can think of.

The reason why it’s important to do this. Is because when you won a cross country event or achieved top marks in an exam you can always look back and say I did it before why can’t I do it again.

I do this by separating my accomplishments into decades and then subheadings of years. I look at it every day and when I’m feeling a lack of self-doubt, I whip out my Evernote and reassure myself I am worth it.

It creates belief in what I have to do.

2. Separate Feelings From Fact

Imposter syndrome is always from the negative way we feel. This is always subjective and can provide us with a reality that’s not true.

My own experience of seeing students who have done well in education their whole life. To then be resorted to imposter syndrome where they believe that they’re not going to pass their exams or they’re not smart enough. To then get top marks they were expected in their exams. I witnessed this at school and university and was always surprised they felt that way.

As powerful and useful feelings are. When it comes to preventing imposter syndrome it’s important to recognise the facts.

For instance, the student should look at past results, how much effort has gone into studying and what’s their expected grade. This should provide them with the confidence to know they can and will achieve their intended target. This will diminish stress and anxiety in the lead up to their results.

You can do this strategy with anything by looking for what’s real and what’s not. By looking for the facts you can help keep imposter syndrome in the dark.

3. Remember We Are All Human

Always reminding yourself that you’re human like everyone else, helps to keep you from doubting yourself of your ability and status.

By realising you have the same potential as everyone else to succeed and that everyone else around is going through the same mental challenges each day. Helps you feel you’re not alone in what whatever you’re going through.

Also listening to and reading stories of people you admire who doubt themselves will also help you to overcome imposter syndrome. Especially when it’s from people you perceive to be untouchable when it comes to imposter syndrome.

Most famously you have the best tennis player the women’s game has ever seen in Serena Williams and Arianna Huffington who created The Huffington Post which is valued at around a billion dollars.

This just goes to show that no matter how successful the outside world deems you to be. On the inside, you are just as fragile and human as the rest of us.

4. Find Ways To Be positive

By setting out your day with the intention to be positive can go along way to preventing imposter syndrome.

What imposter syndrome thrives off is the negativity of all kinds to create a negative world around you.

But with a purpose to try your best to see the good in everything without being naïve can show you that life can be a lot easier and fulfilling with a positive mindset than a negative one.

It will not come naturally, It has to be acted upon every day for the rest of your life.

When it becomes a habit it will run seamlessly throughout your life.

5. Develop A Healthy Response To Failure And Mistake Making

Understanding that failure and mistakes are a normal and good thing in life. Will go a long way to preventing imposter syndrome from taking over your life.

It’s a normal human reaction to be disappointed by failure and when we make a mistake it never feels great.

But we can change the way we think about failure and mistake-making as a good thing when it comes to progressing.

When you look back at childhood, what we learn from learning to walk, ride a bike and swimming. We learned this through failure and mistakes. They are part of the process for developing skills we take the granted every day.

If we have that same mentality as a child to adulthood nothing will ever stop us from trying and pursuing new skills to learn.

6. When Comparing Understand Their Journey

What creates imposter syndrome is when we compare ourselves to others to where they are now.

How many time do we look at sports stars, actor and actresses and only see their life now when they’re successful. They have the income we want, the house we want, the car we want. When we compare ourselves to this, it only brings misery.

Any kind of comparison where someone is living the life we wished for will always make us feel bad.

Instead, we should not compare our own life to there’s but we should look at their journey of how they got there.

Here you will see the hard work, the setbacks and the mindset they had to get there. This is where you can learn and relate to and feel good knowing we are the same but you just took action or dealt with setbacks better.

Understanding this can help prevent you from feeling imposter syndrome making you feel worthless.

7. Develop A New Script

What contributes to imposter syndrome is a negative and mostly false narrative we tell ourselves. The best remedy to this is when you notice any self-doubt forming create a new script to how you want it to work out.

For example, when you say you’re not good enough to succeed in life, change it to I am going to succeed in life.

Another example is if you say I’m not a good enough writer to be a journalist, blogger or to write a book, Instead say I’m going to learn to be the best writer I can be to become a journalist or author.

This change in narrative is vital for stopping imposter syndrome from taking form and it also creates the pathway to success and you will be happier for it.

8. Visualize Success

Visualising your future self is a great way to prevent imposter syndrome from forming. By picturing yourself in a positive light you can show your mind and yourself that you are worth everything you want to do and be.

Similar to creating a new narrative from your speech. Visualising is a pre-emptive measure that constructs a reality that benefits you. Rather than you unknowingly constructing negative outcomes for yourself.

Once you control what you want your life to be, only then can go into any situation knowing you are meant to do anything you desire and be the person you want to be.

Over To You

I hope you gained great insight in today’s article what’s imposter syndrome and 8 ways to overcome it.

By strengthening and taking control of your mind. It will allow you to prevent and overcome imposter syndrome.

If you have any other strategies please share in the comments below!

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Hi, I'm Adam
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I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.

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5 Ways To Stay Positive Whilst On Lock-Down

When setting our new year resolution we never thought what transpired so far early 2020 would our life and people around us change so dramatically. So i have compiled 5 Ways To Stay Positive Whilst On Lock-Down. I hope they help you get through this.

Relating to the human spirit of inner happiness. Here is a young girl enjoying the sun in a field

The Human Spirit

Whenever our freedoms are taken away, how does it make you feel? Does it make you want to rebel or do you just go along with it? Throughout time humans freedom have been taken away through slavery or control. Now in the 21st century, we are experiencing a pandemic we haven’t experienced for a century since the Spanish flu. Now the things we loved such as sports, eating out, travelling where we want and seeing our families has been taken away from us. Throughout the lock-down, the positives we have seen is the human spirit to endure this, working together, selfless acts which show the best side of humanity. We all know why we are having the lock-down at the moment and here are some positive tips to keep sane during it.

This won’t last forever

What will keep you positive in lock-down is knowing that this is short term not a long term thing. It’s helped me to practice patience. Of course, it’s frustrating and you want to live your life how and when you want to do it. By practising patience you elevate that frustration into motivation, knowing you’re doing a great job helping the NHS and high-risk people by staying in.

The best time to work on you

Spending time working on you is one of the most positive things you can do whist on lock-down. We all can lead busy lives where its hard to have time to focus on ourselves. Now though is the time develop that book, learn to cook, practise an instrument or pick up the paintbrush and start painting. This is so great for your mindset to be able to work on the things that you love but don’t get time to do.

Create a new direction

Using a compass to head in a new direction

Before the lock-down was you happy with how your life was going? Well, the positive of the lock-down is that now you have time to plan a new course in your life. One that will bring out the passion in you – could be changing careers, starting your own business, buying and selling online, it could be anything. When I changed my career path it was to become a consultant and personal development coach and I feel so much better for it.

Look for good news

At the moment every time you turn on the news or speak to people it can be pretty negative but some positives to come out of the lock-down is good news stories about Captain Tom Moore who has raised over £20m for the NHS, there’s also PE with Joe Wicks getting everyone fit in the morning.

You want to feel positive you have to associate with positive stories and there’s a lot of them if you look. Pick one time in your day to look at the news just to keep up-to-date but then flood your self with good news throughout your day.

Spend quality time with your family

The main positive of this lock-down is now you can spend time with your family. I’ve heard stories of people moving back in with parents or moving in with their lonely grandparent. It can be hard to make these decisions now but the household you’re in, make the most of this quality time you can spend with your family. Get to know them more and enjoy creating more special moments together. I’m enjoying the time I’m spending with my one year-old as I missed a lot of the growing up of my first child because of work. So i look at it as a blessing.

I hope these 5 Ways To Stay Positive Whilst On Lock-Down relate to you and helps you get through this difficult time. In the future we will look back and think that was a crazy time we got through. We as humans adapt and move on and what’s difficult now, won’t be in the years to come.

If you have any positive and helpful tips let us know in the comments below so we can apply them too.