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In today’s article, 5 effective ways to guide your child to independence I will discuss how important it is to guide children into becoming an independent adult. As well as discussing the changes in the modern world that can affect our parental guidance. This will be followed by 5 tips that can help you gain the trust of the child to trust in your guildence.

How To Guild A Child To Independence In The Modern World

learning to guide your child to independence is an important aspect of parenting. Whereas forcing the child like they’re owned property can have a damaging effect on mental health and maturity as they get older. The role of an adult as been an important role for every child. Now parents have a much harder job building their children to independence more than ever.

The modern world is very different from what it was 100 years ago. The ever-changing decades have changed so much as we have never seen before. The influences children have now are keeping them immature for much longer from their role model in the celebrity or online world and more peer orientation who take the role of a parent which can damaging effects on children into adulthood.

To help with the process of keeping the child engaged your wisdom and guidance. Here are 5 effective way to guide your child to independence.

5 Effective Ways To Guide Your Child To Independence

1. Let Them Become What They Want To Be

How does anyone feel when they’re forced to do anything. It normally comes with resistance and a strong defence. You see this a lot with a teenager who is trying to discover who they are.

What makes this stage of growth worst is when we force upon them things they clearly do not enjoy or want to do. We just have to look at cultures in Asia where children I groomed to be doctors and lawyers.

Of course these I worthy profession to go into for many reasons but they shouldn’t be at the expense of a persons mental health who clearly hates it.

As parents, we must realise there are many ways to be successful in the modern world. Also reminding ourselves that our children are not us, they’re their own person with their own interests. Some will, of course, be similar but some will be different.

The role of a parent should be to help prepare them to want to do in life by focussing on their foundations, not their end goal. This will keep them close to you instead of pushing away and causing more mental pain into adulthood.

This will allow them to become a confident independent adult who knows they can become anything they want to be.

2. Have Strong Attachment

Having been proven in studies. Having a close attachment to your child allows them to grow into independent adults. You can provide their attachment needs they will follow your guidance whereas if you do not have an attachment with your child they will quickly find it elsewhere. It’s their natural instinct. They will form peer attachment where they will resist you and follow the guidance of other immature peers and the path to mature independent adults will be a long-drawn-out process. Focussing on keeping your attachment with your child will help them in the long run.

3. Let Them Makes Mistakes

Parent has a natural instinct to protect their children from danger. It’s a fine line though when try and protect them from everything. It’s normal for children to make mistakes whether it’s falling over or making the wrong decision. Childhood is all trial and error and the more you can allow your child to live without fear and pushing them into new areas where they can learn more about themselves and the mistakes they make. Will prepare them for independence a lot quicker than you protecting them from everything the world has to teach them.

4. I Do, We Do, You Do

Sometimes it can easy to expect a child to just get the thing you know. Especially when you find them easy or have them on autopilot. We should think of children as blank canvas who need to be showed something not once but maybe multiple times.

That’s why the process of I do, we do, you do work so effectively.

You can use this strategy when earning how to deal with emotions, how to wash your clothes or open their own bank account. Children need our guidance and the more we can keep them attached to us the easier it will be to guide them into independence.

5. Have Adult Role Models

What can make a child become a strong independent person is having multiple role models in their life. Of course you as parents but having grandparents, uncle, aunties, teachers, coaches, sensei. The more positive role models a child has can make them a well-rounded person. This helps the child to see how to act and have the values and responsibilities needed to be an independent person. This guidance is important for future growth.

What Do You Think?

I hope you enjoyed today article, 5 effective ways to guide your child to independence

Parenting is a challenging role to undertake. When we guide our children instead of forcing them and keeping them close to us. We can help them reach independence a lot quicker when they’re ready.

I hope this has helped.

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Mindful Parent Series Article 3 New Emotions – Today’s article how to support your child with their new emotions explores how we as parents can understand our children ever-evolving emotions, how not to compare their emotions to an adult and how the child can learn how to connect and understand their own emotions.

It’s definitely a challenge we face as parents but we hope you can understand you are not alone with the experiences you are going through and together we can develop healthy mindful children for the future.

How To Help Your Child Express Their Feelings

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As parents, it’s crucial to allow your child the freedom to express themselves. As well as expressing emotions like laughter and happiness but also when they’re sad and angry too.

Too often parents can tell a child to stop crying and stop getting angry. This is the wrong way to teach a child these complex emotions. It stops the child from expressing this emotion as they deem it to be bad. This can lead to issues in adulthood by expressing or controlling these emotions.

The best thing a parent can do is for every emotion the child expresses you are there to guide them through it. Not send them to their room so they can cry alone. Be there by there side showing love and teaching them how to feel and control their emotions.

How To Help A Child Regulate Their New Emotions

Talk about emotions with your child.
When your child struggles with a strong feeling, encourage her to name the feeling and what caused it.
Help your child find appropriate ways to react to strong emotions.
Remember to be patient.
Help them find techniques like breathing and journaling to express their emotions.

At What Age Can A Child Control Their New Emotions

There is no correct answer to this. It all depends on the individual and what the child has learned and applied to deal with every emotion. With so many emotions to deal with like embarrassment which wasn’t a problem until our son became 7 years old.

The ever-evolving emotions of a child into the teenage years and then into adulthood could be ever-changing. Being with them for every challenge they go through will help them one day have full control of their emotions.

How To Be Their Emotionally For Your Child

As simple as it may sound. Being present with your child is of importance. Like anything when your present, people know you care and trust the feelings you have towards them is genuine. When they’re angry or sad being their support system can help the child cope and learn that emotions are not forever and they will pass in time.

How To Emotionally Connect With Your Child

Spending time with your child, understanding and overcoming emotions together will help build a strong bond. Laughing at a funny story together, overcoming hardship and finding a way to win together or when feeling of sadness or guilt learning to express these emotions aloud or in a journal to deal with it. Being by the side of your child through their life will build an emotional connection that will be as strong as any connection a human can have.

Over To You Parents

Thank you for reading today’s article on how to support your child with their new emotions

Parenting is a challenging job. I think the core message to raise mentally healthy children is to,

Provide a safe environment for them to express their emotions without fear of retribution.
Be present as a parent to deal with their emotions.
Teach them techniques to be able to deal with emotions on their own.
Be patient with your child, don’t rush them into being an adult too quick.

What do you think? Am I way off hear or has this opened your eyes a little?

We would love to hear.

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