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Why The Modern Man Needs Adventure In Their Life

As a young boy going on adventures was a daily activity. The world around you is all new to see and just going off exploring with your friends can create amazing memories. The modern man however lives a different life.

I believe there is something inside every man that seeks adventure and the only reason they don’t act upon it. Is that they feel trapped in a life they feel they can’t escape from.

Having bills to pay, family, responsibilities, finances and fears can be just some of the causes that stop adventures happening in adulthood.

But inside every man, there is a young boy full of adventure waiting to be awoken. This part of you will bring happiness and challenges that will create amazing moments to experience and look back on with fondness.

This is a wake-up call to every man reading. That creating an adventure mindset in your life is needed!

I hope this inspires you to action.

Men Need A Positive Release

Whether it’s a demanding job, being a father, a husband or anything that causes stress in your life. A release of negative energy is a must. The modern man has found this release in sports, alcohol, drugs, violence and saddest of all suicide.

The negative releases of stress are all too apparent in modern society with stress amongst men especially highest in city life. It’s like carrying boulders on the mind that is just too heavy to carry anymore.

There has to be a way out and luckily there is.

Adventure is just one of them and it can be the most fulling of them all. All your senses will be tested and you will find your inner boy with open eyes and the biggest of smiles.

Every stressful feeling you have in life either needs to be expelled or balanced out.

Men can’t get away from the responsibilities they have and nor should they but understanding that men are still human. By finding ways to balance our negative emotions is important. So important in fact is that our wellbeing and life depend on it.

There Are Great Examples To Follow

Humans have been exploring since we could walk on two legs. From the plains of East Africa to every continent on Earth and now the new adventure that lies ahead of planetary travel.

For now, Earth is our playground and we have an abundance of men who seek the thrill of adventure and live their best life. We can read books and learn from famous adventures to Antarctica, and the climbing of Everest. The adventures of Marco Polo to Charles Darwin unlock the imagination of what’s possible. Now presently we have Bear Grylls and Nirmal Purja.

Learning about inspiring people and their stories can show you why adventure in your life is needed.

I was inspired to climb the 3 highest mountains in the UK. Nothing anywhere near the scale of climbing the 7 peaks. But it was an adventure nonetheless that was exhilarating. I was also inspired by Ewan McGregor and Charley Boreman’s long way round and a long way up adventures in my teens. This led to me wanting to travel around the world.

The point is that comfortability is contagious and we are living the most comfortable life in human history. As good as this sometimes feels there’s always something missing and that’s the adventurer inside of you wanting to seek challenges. I call it chasing discomfort.

Of all the examples of male adventurers out there they’re showing you, it can be done. This can be part of your life too.

Why Should Men Have Adventure In Their Life

The modern man can easily get sucked into the revolving door of the 9-5, being a parent and living just above the bread line. These stressors can play havoc on your overall health. Life isn’t just about this life is to be explored and lived.

Here are some reasons why every modern man should seek adventure.

Find out who you really are

When you go into the unknown you are faced with challenges. Challenges that will test your mindset. Everyday life can be very comfortable for most and you can easily mask over the cracks. But when you are in a foreign country alone not being able to speak the native language or facing the challenge of wanting to give up whist doing an ultramarathon. Here is where you find out who you really are as a person. Here is where you can find untapped energy to feed off. These experiences make you a better man and give you the confidence to be who you are. A winner.

A great way to unwind

Life can be full of stress. Finding ways to unwind is important for every man. If not the constant stress will lead to major complications on the mind and the health of the body. When you are out in nature or facing challenges. The chemical released lowers stress and aids you in balancing your busy life with adventure.

Bond with other men

It’s so easy for boys to bond with their male counterparts. But into adulthood loneliness within the male population is on the rise. Communities and friendships are broken apart by seeking work and creating their own families elsewhere. Male companionship is needed in every man’s life. The bonds that are forged is like no other. I challenge you to seek old friendships for adventures to go on or create new friendships by reaching out to like-minded people. Creating memories together will last a lifetime.

Seeking Challenge

A life of happiness is the holy grail we all seek. How we get there is by seeking challenges that leads us on the pathway to finding happiness. The emotion that comes from facing adversity, finding a way to overcome and improving ourselves creates happiness in abundance. Going on adventures is a great way to seek challenges.

Find your freedom

The modern man can feel trapped in the conventional pathway. But being able to explore who you are, see new wonders and be free to make your own choices. Is so important for a man’s mind. No one wants to feel stuck or trapped and unfortunately, a lot of men feel this way. By seeking adventure you can unlock yourself to finding freedom in areas of life you didn’t think was possible.

Create The Adventure Mindset

For a life worth living creating an adventure mindset is something all men need. There are many great explorers past and present and you just have recount their stories of the pride and happiness in their adventures. You need to look no further than your own life when you have been on adventures and the feeling it gave you.

The adventures you will create have to be personal too. Not everyone wants to travel the world or visit Mars. That’s why you have to create adventures that you want to do or what’s the point An adventure could be learning a new skill or changing your career.

Whatever it is find it and live it with passion.

The lasting question I will leave you with. What’s your next adventure?

Want more on men’s mindset? Read our article on how to overcome male loneliness

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why you probably have been doing meditation all wrong — Shot of a young man meditating at home

Have you ever thought meditating is difficult and not for you?

I have too had my up and downs with meditation. The feeling of uncertainty that I’m doing it all wrong. Puts me off doing it further and I feel most people who try meditation have these feelings too.

For me, I imagined meditation as clearing all my thoughts away and being in stillness. Hoping to be transcended to higher consciousness.

Furthering my research on the subject of meditation I have come to the conclusion that meditation is made up of two practices.

Being consious of thoughts and sounds that are around you
Rewiring your brain through visulisation

I hope by sharing my findings in more detail it can help you on your meditation journey.

Using The Meditation Forse For Good

When I think of meditating. Yoda always comes to mind. When I was 8 I wanted to be a Jedi Knight and use the force for good. Unfortunately, meditation hasn’t given me Jedi mind powers yet.

But research has proved that meditating is a great way to exercise the brain. Every time you meditate and you are conscious of sounds or a thought. You have just done 1 rep which equates to meditation being the biceps of the mind.

Over time the part of the brain that’s self-aware gets stronger. This helps you to be more disciplined with anything you want to focus on. From food cravings or noticing when you get distracted. It can even help identify negative thought patterns that hold you back.

By understanding that when you meditate hearing sounds of cars going by the window or worrying about a job interview is exactly what meditation is for. To be engaged and conscious of everything around you.

I used to be annoyed by this and made meditating like pulling a seat belt too hard again and again. When I realised that sounds and thoughts are part of meditation it became an enjoyable experience. I started hearing morning bird sounds more clearly and any fearful or worrying thoughts I could let pass by or address later with journalling.

Be Consious Of The Now

The world we live in today is full of distractions like never before. Hours, days, months and years can pass by like a flash without any change in our circumstances due to the distraction we face.

The time for self-reflection, ideas to flourish and new paths to pave is blocked by the constant noise from the outside world. What meditation can help with is not blocking out all the noise but being aware of it. By being aware you can now start thinking. When you start thinking you are one with yourself.

The distractions we have around us is like being hooked up to the matrix. When we meditate it’s like taking the red pill where we see our life clearly for what it is.

This is life-changing and affects people on all different levels. For me, meditation helped me become a less reactive person, more productive and increased my self-belief.

When I understood meditation is just about being conscious of the thoughts and sounds that are around me. It allowed me to be present every day.

Train The Brain Muscle Daily

When it comes to meditation I hear a lot of people say it’s not for them after just doing it once or twice. It’s like they expect something spectacular to change for them in that one sitting. Like anything worthwhile, it takes time and consistency.

Developing a meditation routine is the most important thing you can do. Just like exercising or learning a new skill, it takes practice with highs and lows along the way.

I choose to do mine upon awakening where I can focus on the quietness of the morning sounds and shape my thoughts for the day.

But as long as it gets done is all that matters.

How Meditation Can Shape Your Future

Dr Joe Dispenza has taken meditation to another level. Where you can utilise meditation for visualisation of your future self.

This focus on creating the experiences you want to come true is explained by accessing the quantum zone. For further detail on accessing the quantum zone through meditation. His book Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself is a must-read.

Entering a meditative state where you can visualise how a skill is developed or how you will entertain your guests at an event. Has been proven to shape the brain to perform this task just as effectively as if you practised it in real life.

Understanding our body is just a vessel and utilising meditation to work on the skill we want to develop and the experiences we want to have. Is a proven technique that can be highly utilised through meditation.

I have many experiences myself of picturing the future I want for it to come true. Meditating via visualisation techniques is like a director creating a movie.

What I Understand Now

I understand now that meditation is for everyone and it’s easy to get started. It felt like it was for a certain type of person and really hard but understanding that this is not true helped me enjoy meditating.

For anyone on their meditation journey here’s some of the things I do to get started and help myself make the most out of meditating.

Ask yourself what you want out of meditation
Set out a daily routine you can easily do every day
Be conscious of the sounds and your thoughts around you and embrace the good and release the bad
Utilise journalling straight after to get your thoughts onto paper to forgive, release, create or remember
Pick a separate time of the day to meditate on your future self.

Finally, mediation is not about being perfect or stopping all noise from outside and inside your mind. Meditation is about being conscious of our past to learn lessons and let go of unwanting emotions. The present to feel them now and create the future you feel and believe to be true.

Any questions or help just ask away in the comments or more personally contact me at adam@thefuturemindset.com