Thefuturemindset, Author at The Future Mindset

What To Expect?

Do you want to mentor the right people for you? In today’s article, 5 ways how to be an amazing mentor for the right person. We will discuss the importance of being a mentor but also how you can be a quality mentor for the right person you are mentoring. This article is for coaches, leaders, managers and even parents who want to get the best out of someone they are mentoring. It’s a privilege to be able to mentor someone and I hope you gain the information you need to succeed.

What Is A Role Of A Mentor?

A mentor is someone who has gained knowledge and experience throughout their life. To then share that information with a mentee to help them succeed too. They will provide guidance, skills, emotional support and motivation to succeed.

A mentor will also clear the path for the mentee to follow without them having to struggle to find their way to achieving their goals. A mentor will help the mentee formulate plans, set goals, develop networks, and identify the best resources to learn from.

The role of a mentor is vast and a mentee can gain so much from having one. Learning from someone else’s knowledge and experience can help a mentee to progress so much faster and more efficient than if done all on their own.

Why You Can’t Be A Mentor For Everyone

I’ve always been someone who loves helping people and when I was young I was shocked when someone who clearly needed help won’t listen to the guidance on how to solve their problems.

In life, there are people who want solutions and people who want to dwell on their problems. There are people who relate to you and others don’t. There are people who like you and some you just annoy. Hopefully, you get the point that a mentor is not for everyone it’s for the right person.

When looking for a mentee to mentor. You have to find a mentee that wants to change and wants to listen to your message. Mentors should spend their time spreading their knowledge and experience to people who want to receive their message, not people who don’t.

Learn From The Best

To be a great mentor you first have to be a great mentee. When it comes to mentoring. The mentors with the greatest experience can teach the most valuable lessons. Life experience should not be taken for granted when becoming a great mentor.

By making sure you are the best mentor. You have to gain experience through theory and putting those theory’s to action and gaining the results you can teach others.

For mentees, it’s important to have the right mentor to provide you with the information you need. This doesn’t always mean they have a 50-year-old person it can be anyone who’s just further ahead of where you want to be.

Also being mindful that times change and what worked in the past might not work in the present. So having a mentor that’s five years ahead of you or a mentor that keeps adapting will allow the mentee to gain the best results.

5 Ways How To Be An Amazing Mentor For The Right Person

1.Take Time To Listen

The ability to listen more than you speak as a mentor is crucial for the success of the mentee. The reason being is that the mentee will have a goal in mind they want to achieve. If a mentor is just doing whatever they want. It will eventually cause conflict and the mentee will not listen to your instructions. By listening you help them to be heard but you can also find all the information you need to help someone. You just have to listen first.

2. Show You Care

Showing you care as a mentor helps build trust and respect with the mentee. You do this by being genuine and putting the other person first. The best way to achieve this is through your actions. Going above and beyond to make sure they have everything they need to succeed. A story that Cristiano Ronaldo always talks about is when his mentor Sir Alex Ferguson allowed him to take time away from football to go and grieve the passing of his father. There have been mentors in my own life who wouldn’t think to let you have time off to take care of personal issues. This goes to show the mentor cared about the individual and in return, Cristiano gave everything to his mentor.

3. You Have To Be Honest

Some people can find it hard, to be honest with someone if it will hurt their feelings. As a mentor being honest to your mentee is paramount to their success. As well as knowing what they’re doing right. They also need to know what they’re doing wrong. The feedback they need to receive is an honest review of where they are and what they need to move forward. By knowing your mentee you will know what tone of voice to use when you’re expressing your honest feedback. When you’re honest it creates uncomfortably in the short term but they will thank you in the long term.

4. Have A Clear Expectations

It’s important when mentoring anyone to have clear expectations, to begin with. This sets up the relationship boundaries, intentions and goals that each person needs to follow. If not done correctly then there is a high chance for misunderstanding, a lack of high performance and direction. I have witnessed both sides and setting a clear expectation changes everything in a positive light. It also weeds out people who are not a good match for your mentoring style, the vision you have for them and the working environment. So it’s a win-win for everyone. This means you work with the right people but also you can create an environment for success.

5. Understand That Everyone Is Different

When mentoring people you have to understand that everyone has different personalities, standards and upbringing. Treating everyone the same will allow only a selected amount of mentees to receive your mentorship in its best form. Adapting your approach to each person allows for an effective approach. Also understanding that people start at different levels. Some will need a lot of practice and some will pick it up quickly. Being patient to focus on their journey not comparing to what you think their journey should be.

A Final Word From Future Mindset

I hope you enjoyed today’s article, 5 ways how to be an amazing mentor for the right person. Being a mentor is a great responsibility to have. Seeing the development of another person through your guidance is one of the best feelings in life. I hope the article has helped you on your mentoring journey. If you need any help or guidance with mentoring you can contact me at adam@thefuturemindset.com

Hi I’m Adam

I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.

What To Expect?

Do you ever dwell on your failures? In today’s article, 5 ways to overcome the mind when it dwells on failure. Is to help anyone who deals with failure which is in fact, everyone. Learn how to control it with simple techniques anyone can do. Failure is a part of life and when we accept this, then the mind can overcome the failure by learning from it and fighting back to win again. Building mental strength in this area is so important for future growth.

Finding It Hard To Overcome Failure In The Mind?

Don’t worry your not the only one. Of course, no one likes failure. It’s a painful experience especially when you have put in so much effort to come up short. Everyone’s failures are unique to them but there is a difference between people who are successful and people who are not and it’s how they deal with failure. How we deal with failure says a lot about our character and whether or not we are overcoming our failures.

I have found it hard to deal with failures. When it’s a failure I can immediately try again straightway like a sales rejection or a loss on a FIFA 21 I can take that in my stride. But when it’s a failure I have to wait to try again or it takes a long time to achieve I found it much more difficult to deal with until I learned how to.

Dealing with failure badly can come from the social pressure we face. No one wants to look bad in front of people. But unfortunately, we live in a society that pounces on failure and makes you relive it again and again. This is something that we all need to give up. Caring about what people think about our failures.

For the mind to be strong we need to make our failures our own. Owning the battle scars of battle, the epic story we have to tell others or the opportunity to be a real-life superhero for a chance to rise up again.

How we think about something is important, how we think about our failures is near the top of that list. This will be the difference between whether we fight back or stay knocked down. What would you rather do?

What Happens If Failure Controls Your Life?

When we can’t deal with failure it will start to ruin our mental health, relationships and progression in life. The negative effects are huge if you live in your failure. You will become sick, your body we start to have less energy and your mind will feel heavy. This is from personal experience and it’s not a place you want to be.

Dealing with failure is a skill that anyone can learn. But we are not taught this in school. We only learn this if we are lucky from parents and coaches or the hard way. Too many people who have failed think such negative thoughts, that they’re a loser, they’re not good enough etc. But if you could teach yourself to always find the positive in difficult moments you would be able to deal with any failure that comes your way.

By changing how you talk to yourself. Words are powerful, it can move people into action for good or bad. The words you speak to yourself are just as important if not more. When you fail tell yourself instead I’m going to win next time, I am good enough to solve this problem. This will send your brain on a different path. A path that’s good for all parts of your life.

How To Overcome Failure And Achieve Success

We have to treat failure like a message. A message we receive to let us know this isn’t the right way to do it. A message that lets us know there’s a better way we have to pursue to gain our success. I’ve watched Manchester City a football club in England attempt to reach the champions league final.

For 10 years they have tried. First getting knocked out at the group stages for two years. Then the last 16 and quarter-finals. Now the final. By learning and adapting from our failures whether that be in the mind, our skillset or our strategy. This is when we can achieve success on a consistent basis.

5 Ways To Overcome The Mind When It Dwells On Failure

1. Find Inner Peace

Finding your inner peace is crucial to helping the mind when dealing with failure. When failure hits it can be a crushing feeling, you know how it feels yourself. Letting that foster only leads to more chaos but finding a way to deal with failure inwardly is a necessary step to move forward from failure.

A technique that has helped when I fail is to forgive myself and others who are part of the failure. This is great for letting go of all the negative emotions that come with failure. By taking time to sit with your thoughts and put them on paper not only release the negative energy but also contributes to solutions to move forward.

2. Look At The Big Picture

The emotion of failure is unique to everyone. What means something to you might not mean something to someone else.

I have had failures in my life where now I look upon them and laugh at how I reacted at that moment as it wasn’t that big of a problem looking in on the experience. As the saying goes if won’t affect you in 5 years time, it’s something we shouldn’t worry about in the present.

Time will always pass and what is now will not always be. Having this mindset allows me not to dwell in my present failures but look from the perspective of the photographer or video director on your failure and you will get a completely different outlook on failure.

3. Have A Pre- Emptive Habit

What I have learned through experience is to be prepared for failure. Understanding it will come allows the mind to be prepared for the eventuality of failure. I understand when parenting I’m going to mess up sometimes or when I start a business one of them might fail.

This mindset has helped when failure has occurred and has become less of a shock when it does. Expecting to win and succeed is great but understanding winning and success is like war, some battles will be lost along the way. This mentality will help with inner peace and thinking big picture about your failures.

4. Block Out The External Noise

Failure can be even deadlier when others look down upon your failure. This can hurt a lot for the mind. What truly makes you mentally strong and take every failure in your stride is blocking out all external negativity or having a wall so strong that it does not get through. Your failures are yours. Yours alone. Taking responsibility for your failures. Will go a long way for you not to fear failure and take it on the chin when it comes along.

By training your internal voice to be a positive one by creating an alter ego of a coach you admire. To delegate the task of helping you recover from failure in your stride. Will help you be in full control.

5. Learn From Your Failures

The most important of all is learning from your failures. Making the same failures, again and again, can be a painful reminder of not learning from your failures. Having time to sit down to analyse what went right and what went wrong will help to find solutions.

By networking with your findings it will help you to understand better what to do next. Having a toddler brain for learning is crucial. When a toddler falls down, or can’t say the right words, they find solutions, they persist and through learning from their failure they always overcome the challenge that’s in front of them.

Learning from your failures is how you will deal with your failures and this is what keeps the mind from dwelling on failure.

Over To You

I hope you enjoyed today’s article, 5 ways to overcome the mind when it dwells on failure. Knowing that failure is not permanent but it’s a part of life can help you overcome any failure that comes your way. Practice the techniques above and I’m sure you will able to move on from failure much faster than before.

Hi I’m Adam