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How To Trick Your Brain To Enjoy Hard Things In Life

How To Trick Your Brain To Enjoy Hard Things In Life

I have to start off by saying I have an addiction. My addiction is dopamine. It’s an addiction we all have and is very useful for focus and learning but if used poorly can be detrimental to our health and productivity. That’s why you have to trick your brain to enjoy the hard things in life.

Today’s focus is on the dopamine hits we get from things we do that are enjoyable in the moment but when we indulge too much can have long-lasting damage to our mental health. I finish off with a clear strategy to help guide you to a life where you are not controlled by short term dopamine tasks.

What Are Easy Dopamine Tasks?

I wrote an article about social media detox that you can read here. I explained the vast benefits of why having time away from social media can benefit your mental health. It’s true for many other forms of dopamine tasks we do, such as;

  • Junk Food
  • Gaming
  • Internet
  • Phone
  • Streaming Services
  • Procrastination

Above are the worst culprits I can think of in my own life. All of them can be positive in your life as long as they are balanced and you control when you do it. What I mean by that is don’t just do them when you feel like it. Instead, you should reward yourself with them after being disciplined.

This is how people who are successful at what they do overcome dopamine dependency on the above list.

For example, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson eats healthy all week long then allows himself a cheat meal on the weekend. If you look at a successful person lifestyle you will see the discipline they uphold within their week against short term dopamine benefits.

Dophamine Fosters Distraction

Dopamine gives you the desire and motivation to do anything, especially when they’re easy and fun to do.

Dopamine loves short term rewards that keep us coming back for more. We know this be true by just looking at our lifestyle. For instance, when we play a video game we know we’re going to enjoy it straight away or when eating sugary food we know we are going to instantly enjoy it. Whereas a book or a healthy diet will reward us later. That’s why it feels so much harder to do. The same goes for anything worthwhile in your life in the long term.

The battle is much harder in the 21st century. There are so many things pulling us away from long term success. The people in the highest seats of power know this. Facebook is a master at it and pulls the strings of its users like puppets. But it’s not just Facebook, it’s all social media platforms, news outlets, food businesses, gaming companies and the list goes on.

When we think of boredom it’s not the best feeling to have in the moment. So now people fill that time of boredom with distractions. But boredom is a good thing as it facilitates creative thought and purpose to move forward. That quiet time at the moment is a positive long term strength. You’re just not rewarded from it instantly.

What The Science Says?

As we are focusing more on understanding how to combat the dopamine realise for short term gains, so we can better manage them to refocus on long term gains.

The study I found was researched by Pernille Mette Damsgaard and is a great read here. In short, it shows how addictive dopamine is when we get it easily. The mind of the rat just wanted more and more of it. The part of the brain that it was activating was the mesolimbic reward system. This system is activated by anything dopamine-related and can easily form addictions for highly stimulated activity. For example, the use of drugs is the most highly addictive.

The signs of addiction are real and the forming of long term habits can change the neural plasticity of your brain. This is why it’s of importance to identify parts of your life where short term dopamine benefits are holding you back.

(I have to state that if you reading this with a drug addiction seeking professional help is of the most importance as we are just focusing on the list I provided above.)

How To Trick Your Brain To Enjoy Hard Things In Life

1. Identify What Habits You Want To Change

This is unique to everyone. So you have to review your life of what’s holding you back from long term gain. Is it the urge of daily sugary sweets or the need to always look at your phone for messages? Whatever is identified as a problem make it the first point of protocol.

2. Make It Easy To Begin

Like anything new making it easy to achieve increases the likely hood of it being done tenfold. So if you want to spend less time on social media, for example, have one day out of the week where you don’t go on it. By making it easy you will also be rewarded by dopamine for your efforts. From there make it two days a week or just 1 hour every day. Again it’s unique for you.

3. Create A Reward System

Using dopamine to your advantage is important. So creating objectives where your mind knows it’s going to get a reward is great for motivation.

That can be having a list of things you have to do before you can play the game.

Another example is that you don’t eat any junk food for 6 days but on the last day eat as much as you want. I do this and the urge to eat junk food is all but gone as the dopamine effect is less effective.

For every task, you want to start taking back control. Devise a reward system plan to propel you into action.

4. Have Detox Days

After the first few weeks of acclimatising yourself to the change of your habits. You should go a whole day of full detox from everything you deem to be a short term dopamine hit.

Replace this with walks in nature, meditation, alone time for reflection and journaling.

I will tell you for a fact you will be refreshed and purposeful. It’s like going on holiday for the mind. This will produce huge results for your life and it will give you back control of your thoughts and actions on a daily basis.

5. Create A System That Works For you

This article isn’t about giving up Netflix or never eating chocolate. They can provide quick short term gratification that adds value to your life. What this article is about is not letting these dopamine hits control your life and what you are meant to do.

Once you have followed the above. Creating a monthly system of when to have detox days and reward systems you’re going to do. Allows you to focus on doing the hard tasks like creating your own business, tidying up your home or reading that book you keep putting off. Then you will see long term dopamine at work when you are rewarded for your efforts in huge amounts.

Health, Wealth, Wellbeing & Mindset

By implementing everything above you will definitely see some major changes. I know I have.

Since strategising my junk food intake, I have lost weight and become healthier. When rewarding myself with game time I focussed more on my business and become wealthier. From achieving more long term dopamine hits based on the hard work I feel fulfilled and happier in my life. Finally, since I have taken control of my short term dopamine hits that hindered my life. I have developed a mindset that puts me in the driving seat of where I’m headed.

I hope this helps you in your life

With Love & Gratitude

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How To Take Back Control Of Your Thoughts By Not Speaking For A Day

How To Take Back Control Of Your Thoughts By Not Speaking For A Day

Today’s article is a challenge I set myself of not speaking for a day in order to understand more about a habit I have in my life that I have little conscious thought over. After reading Dr Joe Dispenza book Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself. It opened my mind to whether the body is controlling my mind or is my mind controlling the body. When it comes to speaking when I’m in a professional setting my mind controls the body. But when I’m at home where I feel utmost comfortability my body controls my mind with automatic responses.

I have reviewed this and I would very much like to have the mind in control of the body within my home life. So I plan to go 24 hours without speaking at home. To analyse and be conscious of the thought patterns and responses I’m experiencing.

When The Mouth Controls The Mind

The reason why this is important to understand. Is when the mind controls the body it means that you have full consciousness over the decisions you make. Now every decision doesn’t need you to be present like breathing or healing of the body. But I do believe thoughts do. As our thoughts will shape our lives for good or bad.

This challenge of not speaking for a day came about because I want to have a great relationship with my family and don’t pass on any trauma to them. For example, I was noticing my frustrations with my children coming out within my speech and having petty arguments about things that don’t matter with my wife.

To continue and build any strong relationship it’s forged on communication.

When anyone gets comfortable in a relationship then we all tend to revert to autopilot and in a relationship with a partner. The actions you took on the honeymoon stage can soon wear off.

I’m very conscious of this as my parents fell victim to poor communication. I understand that this is a problem a lot of couple are facing with divorce rates at record highs.

Letting The Family Know

Of course, when I let my family know what I was planning to do they initially thought this was pretty strange like you reading might think too. But when they understood my reasons why. They came around to the idea. Unfortunately, my 2-year-old did not get the memo and was my biggest enemy throughout the whole challenge.

What I Learnt

So after 24 hours of this challenge, I learnt quite a lot about myself. But there was 2 major things that I will share that maybe can help you to understand yourself better.

How Reactive I Wanted To Be

The reason why humans are different from our closest ancestors Gorillas and Chimpanzees is that we have developed less reactive responses. As good as this is, we can definitely be triggered into reactive verbal responses.

Throughout the challenge, my 2-year-old did just that. The start of the day and the afternoon was great but by the evening as my defences are coming down and tiredness seeping through. I was succumbed to speak.

In life with unexpected events or small children for sure. Being reactive can be like a reflex of catching a ball. When reviewing our reactiveness with our past. You will find common similarities with parents or anyone who has had a great influence on you with their traits. I think my reactive traits definitely come from my parents. Especially my mother who is headstrong with Irish blood running through her veins. Often speaks without thinking when challenged or under pressure. This can get you into trouble in the long run.

This tendency to react in the household can disrupt the environment. So I plan moving forward to be more conscious of when I’m getting frustrated, stressed or angry to not give in to these emotions but to take a step back and breathe. To then go into the conversation without red mist and speak from conscious thought, not reactive habits.

The Importance of Showing Kindness In Your Speech

How To Win Friends And Influence people had a major impact on my life in my early 20s. There were many traits I needed to banish and develop in order to be an effective communicator.

Especially on my coaching side, I have learned that people don’t like the tough love approach and in the long run, will hate you for it even if it gets results. I noticed I was doing this with my own son when it came to his education.

By practising silence, I got see him from a different point of view. He was trying his best and reminding myself he’s just 8 years old. Whether he gets it today or gets it tomorrow it doesn’t matter if he resents my efforts to help him. Speaking with kindness and practising patience is a form of communication that will go a long way with the development of a child and forging a strong relationship in the process.

Overall

This was a tough challenge. Being able to speak is something we all take for granted. I have much respect for people who are deaf and have to communicate with a world that doesn’t know their language. But I believe after doing this challenge everyone should review their speech and what they say. Then ask yourself, is what I’m saying actually helping people and spreading joy or is doing the opposite? Only you will know this.

Going forward I will monitor my speech once a month making sure my mind is controlling my body and not the body controlling the mind.

This challenge has definitely helped me. I hope in some way this can help you.

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A Final Word From The Future Mindset 

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