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Easy Ways To Improve Your Self-Belief Over Time

By Adam Smith

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Today’s article easy ways to improve your self-belief over time. Will discuss and understand what self belief is and how to implement it within our life today.

A Discussion About Self-Belief

Easy ways to improve your self-belief over time

Today’s article Easy ways to improve your self-belief over time. Will discuss and understand what self-belief is and how to implement it within our lives today.

Many people, myself included would love to have endless amounts of self-belief. Even when at times I can be the most confident person in the room. Other times my confidence can go hiding in a far forgotten place. From every success story, you have heard there is some sort of self-belief that has helped someone push through challenges. For them to come out the other side victorious.

It’s all great and wonderful hearing about these people but the question is. How can we acquire self-belief to a level where we can achieve our own success in life?

By uncovering this we can all overcome the obstacles in our own way. For all the talent that all of us have at something. The limitation of our own mind can hold us back from our greatest self. So I am here to discuss more why self-belief is an important part of what we achieve in life and why it’s important to practice developing it every single day.

Why Is Self-Belief Important?

The importance of self-belief can not be underestimated as the importance of it determines our success. A great way to learn and find out how much you believe in yourself can come from sports especially individual sports like MMA or Tennis where it’s you vs your opponent. Here you will find someone may be similar in age and ability but what can really set yourself apart is your mental strength to beat your opponent.

There’s a reason why some people are in the top 10 of their chosen sports and that is down to mental strength or what I like to call self-belief in ones own ability and destiny. When a mindset at this level is achieved it’s so easy to take this into your marriage, business, or passing it on to your children. Success breeds success and when you believe in yourself anything can seem possible and because you believe it. It will become possible over time.

This can be true for people who have become amputees. What a change to your life to go from able-bodied to then being unable to do the same things you took for granted your whole life. With amazing physiotherapy sessions and new technology, people can get back to being fully functional in amazing ways now. But the real struggle is not the technology its overcoming the mental barriers. When they start to believe in themselves and how their life can go forward rather than be a burden. This is when change happens and this can be the biggest hurdle. But self-belief can play a big part in overcoming this setback.

What We All Know About Self-Belief

I think we all know deep down from our own personal experiences of the major impact self-belief can have on our outcomes. For me, one of the best memories I have of my own experience is when I was pursuing a goal of reaching management level within a company when I was in my early 20s. I was at a sticking point where I was progressing at the rate they expected me too and I was told I should probably go look for something else to do. But deep down I believed I was good enough for the role and wanted it more than anything at the time.

Then fast forward 8 months and I finally achieved the goal of achieving management status. We should look back at these experiences we have where self-belief helped us overcome a challenge. This should give us great confidence when achieving any of our goals. Knowing that with the right mindset you can achieve the goals you have.

The Science Behind Self-Belief

The best thing is that if anyone is dealing with low self-belief. Don’t worry this does not have to be a forever thing. With amazing research within neuropsychology, they uncovered neuroplasticity where neural networks in the brain change through growth and reorganization. These changes range from individual neurons making new connections, to systematic adjustments like cortical remapping. In lamen terms when you decide to change your brain will change. This is why how you think about yourself and who you hang around with is super important.

A study by the University College London had 40 healthy participants who did a social evaluation task while in an MRI scanner. After uploading a profile to an online database. They received feedback, ostensibly given by 184 strangers (actually an algorithm), in the form of a thumbs-up (like) or thumbs-down (dislike). The ‘strangers’ were in different groups so that participants learned to expect positive feedback from some groups of raters, and negative feedback from other groups. After every 2-3 trials, participants reported on their self-esteem at that moment.

Participants expected to be liked by ‘strangers’ in the groups that mostly gave positive feedback, so when they received a thumbs-down from a person in that group, their self-esteem took a hit. These social prediction errors – the difference between expected and received feedback – were key to determining self-esteem.

The Round-Up

This study shows the effect our self-belief can be affected by others if we let it. It’s true when someone says discouraging words or treats you differently. It can have an effect on all of us.

That’s why for example sports stars like Anthony Joshua has a team around him that he trusts, offers him confidence and produces great mental preparation for his training and fights.

Imagine if it was the opposite and no one in his camp liked him or believed in him. With such small margins in boxing, this could have a major impact on the performance of the outcome.

Practical Steps To Practice

  • Seek people and activities that boost self-belief
  • No matter how low you feel you can change through neuroplasticity
  • Look back on your past experiences where you have shown great self-belief to help you in the present
  • It’s an ever-changing process so it has to be worked on every day to see its full benefits

Final Thoughts From The Future Mindset

From my own experience and scientific research, it has shown the power self-belief can have on our life’s. Its the reason why many people succeed in their chose fields of expertise and why another fall short. How you view yourself is so important for the future you want and who you spend time with can reflect where you end up in life.

I hope this helps you to understand that you are in control of how you feel and don’t worry if you are not always at your best. Just remember there’s always a new day where you can change the outcome.

I would love any feedback on this post Easy ways to improve your self-belief over time. I really hope it helps. See you on the next post!

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Parent Mindset: Why Being Kind To Your Child Is Important

By Adam Smith

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Why Kindness Works

How does it feel when your kind to someone or if someone shows kindness towards you? For me, it feels exceptionally rewarding whether you simply leave a door open for someone and they say thank you. Or It can even go as far as donating a spare kidney so someone can survive the next part of their life.

When we act with kindness it can have a trickle on effect that can change future outcomes for the better. Just like a row of dominos falling down, when kindness is shown it can’t helped be recipicated or passed on in some way.

Just look at Comic Relief where millions are raised in hope of helping people through kindness. With more kindness in the world, only good things can happen whereas when the opposite to kindness happens the same happens but in the opposite direction. This only creates more problems in our lives.

This is why it’s so crucial to a child’s upbringing that kindness is taught. Especially when expressed through parenting throughout their childhood. If they can better themselves and others through this action. The world they live in will become a much better place.

How It Helps Children

We can express kindness through affection, kind words, praise on their positive actions and also as parents showing how kindness works. With mental illness being highlighted even more so within our society. This is one part that is crucial to giving children an amazing tool they can use for the rest of their life. This will lead to their own happiness and others too.

The best praise we as parents have received was from a school report. It was of our son showing kindness to his fellow classmates. It was reported from the mother of a fellow classmate who has learning difficulties. Our son took it upon himself to help her, and comfort her when she is unhappy. These acts of kindness not only had a positive effect on the young girl but the mother was so happy that her child was part of a great environment to learn and grow. Imagine if more people were taught this skill especially in higher powers how better our world would be.

This skill can have wondrous effects on how children make friends, how others help them and overall positive environment they can create around themselves.

Remember They’re Always Watching

As a parent, you soon come to realise that your children are always watching you. When you finally know this to be the case. Happens when they pick up one of the bad habits and makes you feel what have I done. Of course, no one can be the perfect human being but you sure can be conscious of your actions around your children. By working on yourself this can add great value for your children to copy the best parts of you.

As parents, we have made a conscious effort to show as much kindness towards our children. Whether that be showing our love to them or making sure we handle ourselves in difficult situations when they are watching. If you have ever seen The Crown on Netflix. You can see the difference between the Queen’s approach to parenting compared to Princess Diana and the effects it can have on children.

The World Needs More Kind People

I believe humans are generally kind and it comes more natural than we think it does. Unfortunately, we live in a world where humans are hooked on all the bad things that happen. Which inadvertently affects our own life if we live within that world. The media will make us believe that the human race is terrible on all counts but the news is just a small percentage of what’s really happening in the world. Whereas all the good and kindness that’s shown is perceived as boring or not newsworthy.

This is the change I believe that needs to happen within our world towards all the good and away from all the bad stuff. Imagine if all the leaders in the world showed more kindness towards their people and peers. How much of a difference that would make. This is why when we are bringing up any child. Teaching them kindness is one step to creating a better world that we all can feel happy and safe to live in.

To Conclude

Overall if we can show more kindness within our lives and be conscious of this around our children this can go a long way to creating amazingly kind-hearted adults. We all love kindness and the more we spread this the better our world will be.

How are you going to spread kindness today? How do you develop this with you children?

I would love to hear your comments back to these questions and I look forward to seeing you in the next post.