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Mindset Toolkit – Forgiveness

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The foundation of having a mindset that can benefit your life is built on forgiveness. When we learn to forgive as a practice. This is when we can let go of the anchors of the past that hold us back in life.

We all have times when we have let our-self down or others we have relied on have to. When we hold onto the negative emotions of wrongdoings. It creates bitterness, an invisible weight that can get heavier and heavier to carry as time goes on.

I’ve seen and experienced this first hand. It’s not pretty to watch or feel. The unseen destruction it can do to your mental health that reflects your overall health is clear. The way it latches on like a leech sucking your mental health dry is a weight too hard to carry.

For all the pain of when we don’t practice forgiveness of others and self-forgiveness. There is hope if we learn to forgive.
I too myself have had a mindset awakening when I took on the practice of forgiveness. It changed my life.

There Are Levels Of Forgiveness

There are countless stories told about forgiveness. The most famous one I can think of is the story of Jesus dying on the cross to forgive the sins of all mankind. In modern times there are stories of parents forgiving the murderers of their child which can be seen as level 10 forgiveness.

Forgiveness is a personal experience and cannot be forced upon. It’s a path you have to walk alone and will take courage to find your way out.

In my own life, I have battled against my mistakes and failures. Holding myself to account for standards that are unwarranted. This has led to days, weeks and months of negative feelings because I couldn’t forgive myself for being human. This is known as a fixed mindset. Where pain and suffering occur from a lack of a growth mindset.

You will too have your own stories of pain in your life. Some simple to forgive and others it will take more effort to come to terms with. A good article I read on 5 different levels of forgiveness can be of some help.

When you can find it within yourself to forgive. Only then will you have a release from the torment of the mind.

How To Practice Self-Forgiveness

Practising self-forgiveness to make it a habit has to be performed on a daily or weekly basis depending on your lifestyle. Before you get to that point there has to be a beginning. This journey is somewhat similar to an Australian Aboriginal walkabout. Where you find yourself.

This has to be done alone with no distraction. This will be a time where you can write down, video or record your life experiences that need forgiving. You need to look back in the memory bank as far back as you can. Here you will find the invincible weight that has been weighing you down in life.

I personally forgive myself for being abandoned by my biological father and I forgave myself for not revising for my failed exams. When you’re going through your life’s memories some will harder to deal with than others. If you start crying you’re doing something right. Your starting to let go of your pain. This exercise could take an hour or it could take days. By the end of it, you feel light as a feather and free at last of the pasts pain.

To maintain this you have to practice self-forgiveness regularly to combat any unforeseen negative feelings that can hold you back.

This is an exercise that has changed my mental approach to life. Where now I care less about mistakes and failures. But care more about trying it again with a different approach. I face my fears more without worry about failing. It’s a refreshing approach to life that has led to my own mental health has become happier and a feeling of freedom.

How To Learn To Forgive Others

Forgiving others can be hard sometimes depending on what they have done to you. But holding long-term grudges over people does no good for your mental health. When it comes to forgiving others you have to become selfish. This is a purely selfish act for your benefit not there’s.

If you get into an argument with someone and after you have cooled down. You should look to find ways to forgive that person whether it be they don’t know any better, having a bad day or it was a breakdown in communication. Whatever it is find it because when you do you can move on.

There is a story of a mum and a son. They have two completely different points of view on life and yet again they came to an almighty argument where they never spoke to each other for years. Months after the argument. The son set his boundaries between himself and his mum but learned to forgive his mother for all her actions against him. On the other hand, his mum didn’t forgive or reach out to her son. This led to years of pain for the mom where her mental health was heavily affected by this event.

Over the course of the 4 years the person who chose to forgive led a happier life compared to the person who did not forgive.

The moral of the story is that no matter what happens to you in your life where forgiveness seems impossible. You have to be selfish in your endeavour to find it because if you do not you put your health at risk.

PLEASE COMMENT AND SHARE YOUR STORIES

Has this helped you today? Are you more inclined to focus on forgiveness. I would love to hear your thoughts and your experiences with dealing with forgiveness. Always remember your not alone and everything can change.

A Final Word From The Future Mindset

I hope you enjoyed today’s article Why Learning To Forgive Has To Be Part Of Your Self-Care Routine. Don’t worry you’re not alone. Millions of people go through the same experience every day. I hope the article has helped in some way. If you need extra help or any questions answered. Don’t hesitate to contact me at adam@thefuturemindset.com

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What To Expect?

In today’s article, start your day with a letter to yourself to boost performance. Was an idea that came to my mind to help re-focus my brain every morning by having an honest conversation with myself. We can all go to bed with the best of intentions but when we wake up the war begins again and somedays we are excited and some days we are not.

To refocus the mind on what’s important to us. Reading a letter to myself has changed my minds focus every single morning back in a forward direction. This article is written to help inspire you to have this winning technique in your life.

How To Improve Yourself Every Day?

Start Your Day With A Letter To Yourself To Boost Performance

Every day we all wake up to a fresh new day. We have the tools, the experience and the capability to succeed but one thing can always hold us back if we let it. That’s the mind.

If we let our mind dictate our decisions based on feelings in the moment, succeeding is going to be a reactive process.

How to change from being reactive is becoming pro-active. You have to take charge of your destiny and the forward direction you want to go in. I to have lived a re-active exitance based on my feelings and what comes to me. When this happens performance drops, productivity becomes slow and procrastination can soon follow.

How to change this is becoming proactive with life.

Why Talking To Yourself Helps Mental Wellbeing

If you have ever had a coach in your life. How has that coach helped in re-focusing your mind?

For me, they can bring out the best in you at any given moment. Changing the very chemicals in your brain where you can feel 7ft tall and do anything in that moment. This is all done through words. Words they have brought to life with their passion but words none the less.

It’s great to have a coach to do this. But wouldn’t it be better to be your own coach. To use words to inspire yourself every day or at any giving moment. That’s the power we all have within us. That’s the power that needs to be unlocked. To have that self-motivation every day to have a conversation with ourselves.

Our own voice is powerful. It can change how we think and how we act. Our own voice can shape our very existence in what we believe and give us the energy to execute our goals. The power of our own voice can make or break us. That’s why it’s such a powerful tool we all need to utilise and control.

How Alicia Keys Inspires Herself By Writing

I think I’m safe to say we all know who Alicia Keys is. If not check her music out she is amazing. Not only is she a famous musician. Alicia has an amazing mindset and in one of her post on Instagram. She discussed a technique she uses every morning to re-align her thoughts. Alicia writes down how she intends her day to go. She lives the day in her mind and on paper and resets the mind to focus its energy on where it should go. This is an amazing pro-active technique to allow the mind to focus.

I tried this technique myself and it’s a great way to plan your day each morning in a fun way. This also gave me the idea of how I could kick start my morning, especially if I don’t have the time to sit down and write. I envisioned a letter coming to me every morning of thoughts from myself. This is where the idea of the mentality letter was formed.

This Is Why I started Writing Letters To Myself

The whole reason I started to write a mentality letter to myself was to improve my mind’s focus and productivity throughout the day. With the countless amount of distractions pulling me in different directions. This letter to myself allowed me to regain that focus and clarity of what I needed to do every day.

How My Performance Improved

Immediately on the first morning of reading the mentality letter, I felt a rush of energy running through my mind and body. That very day I achieved a lot in productivity and also a calmness about myself. I thought this was just because it was new but every day I read this letter I had the same reaction and my performance remained high.

Think of the famous yellow brick road from The Wizard Of OZ. I went from getting distracted with all the things outside of the path I was on. To now only following the path I was set out to achieve with the wizards castle being my overall goal for that day.

So overall for me. Having a mentality letter to read every morning helped me to feel more confident, focused, clear of what I need to do, kept me grounded and gave me the energy I needed to perform.

Why You Should Start Your Day With A Letter To Yourself To Boost Performance

We all want to perform to a high standard in everything we do, We want that Laser focus to achieve our goals. But what gets in the way is our own mind pulling us in different directions or finding the most comfortable way that leads to procrastination.

This habit can be hard to get out of and much like a car if we don’t turn the key the car will not start. This is the same with your mind. For your mind to get started the mentality letter is the key to starting your mind every day and the actions you take is the fuel that keeps it running throughout the day.

Over To You

I hope you enjoyed today’s article, start your day with a letter to yourself to boost performance. I’m always looking for ways to improve myself and others around me. I think as humans we not that different as we think we are. We are going through the same mental obstacles each day. The only difference is that some people have better habits and techniques to overcome those obstacles.

This mentality letter has been for me that very technique to overcome doubt, procrastination and a lack of focus in what I need to do. I hope this finds you well and can’t wait to hear about your mentality letter journey.

A Final Word From Future Mindset

I want you to find time alone and sit down and write this letter to yourself. Just like your writing to your best friend.

Be honest with yourself about what you want to achieve. Preemptive strike the bad habits that you need to stop. Then build yourself up with the things you have achieved by having good habits.

This is a letter where your creativity can run wild. You can include what you’re overall grateful for, a paragraph on what you want your morning to look like and how you want your business to improve by the actions you need to take.

Whatever you write in your mentality letter. It has to be able to unlock the fire inside you by holding you accountable. But also knowing you are enough as a person. A fine balance to bringing out your best performance.

If you need any help in building your mental strength contact me at adam@thefuturemindset.

Hi I’m Adam

I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.