We All Have A Story
Everyone reading this will have a story of their life. Everyone you know will have a story of you. No two stories are the same and the story you tell about yourself is interpreted on your opinion of how the events of your life have unfolded.
Life events can definitely shape our story but also other people can definitely shape the person we are today. Within anyone’s story, when they tell themself they’re a terrible communicator or says no to challenges.
Where did that come from? Is it really who you are or is it a habit that’s learnt?
I believe it’s learnt from the story others have told us about who we are and what stories we have told ourselves that have become our reality. Of course, when it comes to communication there are personalities who are well suited to talking in large crowds or to strangers.
But speaking as an introvert whose story was that I am a terrible communicator who dreaded any public speaking role. This story was a lie, a story that was created in my childhood. Luckily I learned I was a good communicator by learning the skill through coaching and face to face sales and came to enjoy speaking at large events. This goes to show that the story we tell ourselves are not always what they seem and like any story you change to be whatever you wish it to be.
What’s Your Story?
The question you have to ask yourself is. What’s my story?
Is your story creating you happiness, wealth & purpose or is it making you give in to fear, debt or comfortability?
Only you will know the answer but analysing your story will help to see the lies and where they come from. Are they your thoughts or somebody else’s?
Too many of us, myself included have thoughts of what we think we are that have come from somebody else’s mind. Not only harm our progression but also our wellbeing.
It came to my attention in adulthood that I struggled with self-belief. I always believed someone else was more deserving because my effort wasn’t good enough when in reality it was. My story was that I had to be the best or I’m not good enough and constantly downplayed my success. I’m not sure where this story came from but it affected me from achieving my best but also my well-being.
When you lack self-belief happiness is a commodity.
But when I analysed my story and lies I have told myself. I came to realise that I am enough and I have a victory list of accomplishments that I came to be proud of. This has allowed me to change my story.
So what’s stories are holding you back? Take 10 minutes to write down stories that harm your health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness.
What Stories Can Hold Us Back
- Creating a false reality
- Worse case scenarios predictions that stop them from moving forward
- Thinking small
- Stories that are forced upon us
How We Can Tell New Stories
If you’re living a life that’s not bringing you health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. It’s time to make a change. The best way to do it is to question the thoughts and habits that you keep.
For example, when it came to food. I used to have stories of I had to eat everything on my plate, all meat is good for you for protein and being a vegan is unhealthy and weird.
These stories I was told was not helping me have great health. I ate too many calories compared to my lifestyle, I ate too much meat that gave me high cholesterol and exploring different food lifestyles didn’t give me a bigger picture of how I could eat healthy as well enjoying a vegan diet.
The new stories we create don’t have to be the same but they have to help you in areas of health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. Doing your own research from credible people and research from a wide range of viewpoints can help you shape the life you want. For the four areas, we have discussed I have a mentor as well as keep up to date in how I could improve my story further. The trick is to always keep an open mind on how to constantly improve your story. This will help create a life you truly can be proud of.
Don’t Worry What Others Think
My stories are definitely different to when I was 18 and are looked at like I’m sought of an alien from family members but the difference is that I am evolving the story that helps me and they’re living the same story they were told what life was.
If this resonates somewhere with you please tell me in the comments after reading this article because I think it’s time to create a new story for you.
Make Sure You Keep The Good Stories
To create a life you want. Making new stories that benefit you is inevitable. But that doesn’t mean eliminating all your stories of who you are. I’m sure in everyone there I amazing stories you live by and help you in your life. For me, it was the story of helping others less fortunate. Whether that be in a charitable sense or just helping people who need it. Another story I hold dealy I can achieve anything I set my mind to. This has led me to perceive and show determination in everything I set my mind to.
These are my stories but great stories that you have created or have been influenced by? When you’re reviewing your own stories make sure to write all the good stories you have that fuel you in life. Alongside who taught you. This will show you the great influencers of your life and how best to use them going forward.
To finish off. Always remember nothing is fixed in life, it’s changeable. There are people all over the world maybe even someone you know. Who is living a life of health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. If they can do it, you can do it.
I have faith in you and you have faith in yourself.
I challenge you to go create the amazing stories you always wanted to create today!
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