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Do you ever dwell on your failures? In today’s article, 5 ways to overcome the mind when it dwells on failure. Is to help anyone who deals with failure which is in fact, everyone. Learn how to control it with simple techniques anyone can do. Failure is a part of life and when we accept this, then the mind can overcome the failure by learning from it and fighting back to win again. Building mental strength in this area is so important for future growth.

Finding It Hard To Overcome Failure In The Mind?

Don’t worry your not the only one. Of course, no one likes failure. It’s a painful experience especially when you have put in so much effort to come up short. Everyone’s failures are unique to them but there is a difference between people who are successful and people who are not and it’s how they deal with failure. How we deal with failure says a lot about our character and whether or not we are overcoming our failures.

I have found it hard to deal with failures. When it’s a failure I can immediately try again straightway like a sales rejection or a loss on a FIFA 21 I can take that in my stride. But when it’s a failure I have to wait to try again or it takes a long time to achieve I found it much more difficult to deal with until I learned how to.

Dealing with failure badly can come from the social pressure we face. No one wants to look bad in front of people. But unfortunately, we live in a society that pounces on failure and makes you relive it again and again. This is something that we all need to give up. Caring about what people think about our failures.

For the mind to be strong we need to make our failures our own. Owning the battle scars of battle, the epic story we have to tell others or the opportunity to be a real-life superhero for a chance to rise up again.

How we think about something is important, how we think about our failures is near the top of that list. This will be the difference between whether we fight back or stay knocked down. What would you rather do?

What Happens If Failure Controls Your Life?

When we can’t deal with failure it will start to ruin our mental health, relationships and progression in life. The negative effects are huge if you live in your failure. You will become sick, your body we start to have less energy and your mind will feel heavy. This is from personal experience and it’s not a place you want to be.

Dealing with failure is a skill that anyone can learn. But we are not taught this in school. We only learn this if we are lucky from parents and coaches or the hard way. Too many people who have failed think such negative thoughts, that they’re a loser, they’re not good enough etc. But if you could teach yourself to always find the positive in difficult moments you would be able to deal with any failure that comes your way.

By changing how you talk to yourself. Words are powerful, it can move people into action for good or bad. The words you speak to yourself are just as important if not more. When you fail tell yourself instead I’m going to win next time, I am good enough to solve this problem. This will send your brain on a different path. A path that’s good for all parts of your life.

How To Overcome Failure And Achieve Success

We have to treat failure like a message. A message we receive to let us know this isn’t the right way to do it. A message that lets us know there’s a better way we have to pursue to gain our success. I’ve watched Manchester City a football club in England attempt to reach the champions league final.

For 10 years they have tried. First getting knocked out at the group stages for two years. Then the last 16 and quarter-finals. Now the final. By learning and adapting from our failures whether that be in the mind, our skillset or our strategy. This is when we can achieve success on a consistent basis.

5 Ways To Overcome The Mind When It Dwells On Failure

1. Find Inner Peace

Finding your inner peace is crucial to helping the mind when dealing with failure. When failure hits it can be a crushing feeling, you know how it feels yourself. Letting that foster only leads to more chaos but finding a way to deal with failure inwardly is a necessary step to move forward from failure.

A technique that has helped when I fail is to forgive myself and others who are part of the failure. This is great for letting go of all the negative emotions that come with failure. By taking time to sit with your thoughts and put them on paper not only release the negative energy but also contributes to solutions to move forward.

2. Look At The Big Picture

The emotion of failure is unique to everyone. What means something to you might not mean something to someone else.

I have had failures in my life where now I look upon them and laugh at how I reacted at that moment as it wasn’t that big of a problem looking in on the experience. As the saying goes if won’t affect you in 5 years time, it’s something we shouldn’t worry about in the present.

Time will always pass and what is now will not always be. Having this mindset allows me not to dwell in my present failures but look from the perspective of the photographer or video director on your failure and you will get a completely different outlook on failure.

3. Have A Pre- Emptive Habit

What I have learned through experience is to be prepared for failure. Understanding it will come allows the mind to be prepared for the eventuality of failure. I understand when parenting I’m going to mess up sometimes or when I start a business one of them might fail.

This mindset has helped when failure has occurred and has become less of a shock when it does. Expecting to win and succeed is great but understanding winning and success is like war, some battles will be lost along the way. This mentality will help with inner peace and thinking big picture about your failures.

4. Block Out The External Noise

Failure can be even deadlier when others look down upon your failure. This can hurt a lot for the mind. What truly makes you mentally strong and take every failure in your stride is blocking out all external negativity or having a wall so strong that it does not get through. Your failures are yours. Yours alone. Taking responsibility for your failures. Will go a long way for you not to fear failure and take it on the chin when it comes along.

By training your internal voice to be a positive one by creating an alter ego of a coach you admire. To delegate the task of helping you recover from failure in your stride. Will help you be in full control.

5. Learn From Your Failures

The most important of all is learning from your failures. Making the same failures, again and again, can be a painful reminder of not learning from your failures. Having time to sit down to analyse what went right and what went wrong will help to find solutions.

By networking with your findings it will help you to understand better what to do next. Having a toddler brain for learning is crucial. When a toddler falls down, or can’t say the right words, they find solutions, they persist and through learning from their failure they always overcome the challenge that’s in front of them.

Learning from your failures is how you will deal with your failures and this is what keeps the mind from dwelling on failure.

Over To You

I hope you enjoyed today’s article, 5 ways to overcome the mind when it dwells on failure. Knowing that failure is not permanent but it’s a part of life can help you overcome any failure that comes your way. Practice the techniques above and I’m sure you will able to move on from failure much faster than before.

Hi I’m Adam

I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.

What To Expect

In today’s article Why you should make failure your friend when learning new skills, we are going to discuss everything failure.

How it helps you to succeed, how we can learn from it and some strategies to help deal with any failure you come across. Every human has many failures in their life. There’s no getting past it when it comes to progression.

So know yourself, when you have a failure in your life minor or major. Remember you are not alone as everyone around goes through it too.

Carrying Failure vs Stepping Over Failure

Why you should make failure your friend when learning new skills — Photo by Brett Jordan on Unsplash

When I was younger there was a challenge I had to do to learn how to keep a positive attitude.

I was giving multiple objects to carry. At first, it was easy but bit by bit it got heavier and heavier where I could no longer carry the objects and with the extra weight they all fell to the ground.

The challenge was to show. If in life you take on too much negativity it will eventually way you down where you can no longer keep a positive attitude any longer.

This principle is the same when it comes to failure. When you carry all your failures with you. One by one it will drag you down which will lead to damaging effects on your mental health. I have seen sad occasions where peoples failure has been too much for the individual. They have decided to not carry on their life any longer.

That’s why everyone should learn when they come up against a failure to not carry with them. You have to immediately act as your mental health is at stake and you have to find it within yourself to step over failure and treat it as a positive learning curve of what not to do.

We Have To Learn To Help People Deal With Failure

In our culture today it’s frowned upon to fail or make a mistake which goes against how we progress as a human. Instead, we should help people by re-teaching them a better way forward where they can learn from their mistakes.

The biggest mistakes we can make in society, of course, will lead a person to become a prisoner.

There are serious crimes that are hard to come back from but why do people who go to prison come out to go back again soon after? One reason is that failure will stick with them forever and they will find it hard to get a job, housing or place back in the community. This is why they can not reform and learn from their mistakes as easily. Every case is unique but what if no one in their life was a good role model for them and never taught them a more positive path to take.

It’s easy to judge but giving people second chances from failure is also something we should learn to do too within society as long as the appropriate re-education is put in place.

In Order To Succeed You Must First Be Willing To Fail

When it comes to succeeding you have to prepare your self for failure. You need to treat it as a law that is a consequence of action. Now if anyone is scared of failure. It’s a normal reaction as it’s painful to fail in the moment.

Imagine your public speaking and you forget what you were going to say or you promised everyone you were going to do something but you failed. Of course, it’s painful but it will only continue to be painful if you let it.

There are two options to take when failure strikes you.

1. You can hide away from the world and your problems.

2. You face failure head-on and find a solution to overcome it.

The first one takes little effort and progression halts in your life. Whereas the second option takes a lot of effort but progression advances forward.

I know people where certain failures in their life have made them curl up into their shell to never be seen again. This is not healthy for their mind. By learning strategies to overcome failure is crucial and should be taught from an early age.

As a parent, I have a big say in how my children react to failure in adulthood. When a child is coddled from the world and their problems. When they’re faced with problems as an independent adult they can’t handle the pressure and revert back to comfortability.

By accepting failure as normal and a great learning curve. You will thank yourself later in life for your courage to act with positivity.

Strategies For Learning From Failure

1. Forgive Yourself

Forgiving yourself of your failures is the first step in overcoming failure. From my own experience, I carried too many of my failures but when I let go the weight was released instantly. My overall happiness has improved because I don’t hang on to the past.

2. It Gets You Closer To The Goal

Some failures are in your life as obstacles to get you closer to your goal. Just like doing puzzles or playing games where you keep, failing. Learning from your failures as you go along can help you get closer to your end goal. Just don’t give up along the way just adapt and move forward.

3. Learning From Failure Stories

There are many successful people from past and present who have gone through failure.

In the present day, we have Elon Musk who has gone through many failures along the way to him recently becoming the richest man on earth in 2021. His businesses Tesla and Space X are one example where at the same time each business was going to go bankrupt. Miraculously he found a way out by learning from his failures. Now everyone wants a Tesla and Space X works alongside Nasa with the goal to land on Mars becoming a real prospect.

In the past, there are many great people who were known as failures. Thomas Edison failed over Ten Thousand times when he was creating the electric light bulb.

President Lincoln stands out for me. Now in American culture is one of the most famous presidents of all time. But if you look at his story he failed many times in becoming president. But he learned from his failures and never gave up. Now he has a legacy long after his death.

4. Build A Safe Learning Environment

Whether it be at home or leading a team. Creating a learning environment where someone can feel it’s ok and normal that sometimes they will fail. This Will lead to high productivity and results in the long term.

So when a child makes a mistake with their maths. Show them it’s normal and try again. When your employee forgets what was required of them instead of sacking them, why don’t you teach them what’s meant to be done. It’s been proven that creating these safe environments for learning has boosted the productivity of the individual and organisations.

5. Analyse Failure

When we fail instead of hiding away from it or condemning the person who has failed. Instead, analyse the data and find where they went wrong and come up with solutions to fix it. This is where some of the best work is done on the other side of failure.

Over To You

I hope you understand more about failure from today’s article Why you should make failure your friend when learning new skills.

Knowing that failure is a positive consequence of progress. That everyone goes through failure and that you can overcome any failure in your life. Will go a long way to helping you progress at whatever you do with your mental health intact

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