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Focus On One Thing To Be Successful

By Adam Smith

“Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.” Alexander Graham Bell

How To Focus On One Thing To Be Successful

Have you ever been working out and you just want to give up because it’s so painful? I think the answer will be a resounding yes.

Whenever I am doing something challenging or uncomfortable my mind wonders to the future. It starts imagining how long this pain is going to last for, then quickly zaps away my focus. It falsely predicts an endless never-ending struggle and lets me know I should just give up. What my brain is really telling me is to find a way to be more comfortable. This is an option I can not and will not accept.

The Mind Games The Brain Plays

On our Creating Discomfort journey, I found a great way to stay focussed and that’s focussing on the present. It can be easy to look back at past experiences of how difficult something is. Likewise when imagining the pain of the future. When it comes to something challenging. Your mind will always try and make excuses to you why you shouldn’t do anything.

The main reason for this is that your mind is trying to protect you from danger but what this feeling doesn’t realise is that we are not living in the wild any more. We are living in the 21st century where what it perceives as being dangerous is not the case. Of course, we need this feeling but we need to learn to take control of it when we need to.

Focus on one thing to be successful and here we have a view of a city through a lens

The One More To Go Strategy

That’s why whenever we do anything challenging and our mind wants to give up. I say just one more to go! From there the brain is then happy to know it’s coming to an end. This keeps the mind focussed and because humans have the power to control our thoughts. I just repeat it again and again to receive the same benefits.

This worked so well whenever I did Yoga or any form of exercise like reps or running. Then I thought how else can I focus the one more to go strategy.

Here’s what I found,

Focus On 1 Goal At A Time

When it comes to goal setting or completing my to-do list it can feel never-ending. The thought of it has caused procrastination where nothing actually gets done.

Procrastination formed because I looked at the list in its entirety. It was like a big weight I had to carry all at once. When I applied the one more to go strategy it massively helped. My focus was transformed and instead of thinking about all 10 goals. I just focussed on the 1 major goal first. I did my to-do list way faster than I have ever done before and felt great every time I approached just 1 goal at a time.

When humans have multiple choices to make the brain can feel fuzzled and not make any decision at all. It can feel like a brain overload. So when it comes to any goal you want to achieve, focus on 1 goal at a time.

Focus on one thing to be successful with a hand tattoo

Focus On The Person In Front Of You

You can apply this strategy anywhere. Over the past 10 years, the rise in mobile phones has skyrocketed and everyone has one. This can at times be a very distracting tool, especially when building real-life relationships.

Have you ever spoken to someone you’re trying to have a serious conversation with and their half-listening to you and half on their phone? It comes across as rude and they don’t care about what you have to say. This may not be the case for them but that’s how it looks.

That’s why to build a lasting and strong relationship with someone. When you’re communicating with them you should give them your full focus. This helps you to understand all points discussed so there’s no confusion. Also, it creates respect between each person which allows the relationship to flourish to new heights.

Final Thoughts

Through studying how to get more done in my day. I learned when we focus on one thing at a time, that’s where real progress happens. It helps you stay present and in the moment of living your life to the fullest. Most importantly it allows you to get things done.

Now it’s over to you. Where in your life are there difficulties? The places where your mind wants to give up far too easily. Find out what they are and acknowledge them. Then use the one more to go strategy and see yourself go further than you ever thought possible. Always remember that the brain is a muscle and with the right focus. It can achieve wonders.

“Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. They stay focused on their past successes rather than their past failures, and on the next action steps they need to take to get them closer to the fulfilment of their goals rather than all the other distractions that life presents to them.”
Jack Canfield

FUTURE MINDSET

At Future Mindset, we are here to push the boundaries of our thoughts and actions. By chasing discomfort in our lives, it can lead us to unlock things inside us we never knew was there. Let’s change our mindset to change our future.

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Future Wellbeing

The Benefits Of Self-Forgiving Exercises

The Power Of Forgiving Yourself

The reason I’m writing about The Benefits Of Self-Forgiving Exercises. Is because through most of my life I was so hard on myself. Never letting me off the hook for mistakes or any setbacks. It led me on a downward slide and alienated me from people who cared about my future. This post is a guide to hopefully helping you to stay off the unforgiving path and looking at your mistakes as a positive, not something you had a divine right just to get.

When it comes to forgiving others I found it a lot easier to do. I found it hard to hold a grudge for too long and had to resolve the outcome one way or another. Whether that be opening up a line of communication to solve the issue of forgiving them myself in my way. To go to bed thinking about an issue with someone else was a clear habit I would not allow.

So why would it be easier and more apparent to forgive for but forget the power of forgiving myself? It’s a habit formed many years before realising the effects. Carved and ingrained within our childhood from the people we are closest to and societal factors we live in.

Looking back it’s hard to point out when any of this happened but for sure it happened. For instance, people who can’t forgive others over a long period of time, haven’t learned themselves to forgive others but can easily forgive themselves.

When it hit home for me is when I read about Jack Canfield’s Success Principles book – the chapter of Forgiveness, and understood it consciously for the first time. It made me realise how hard i was on myself, and for the first time in my adult life, it came as a shock – because I have always been forgiving of others, but not of myself. And that’s where the problem lie. After reading that chapter in the book, is when i started addressing the issue. A wave of emotions came to its surface, like it was compressed down in the deepest layers of my being, and only seeping out through my energy. Now it had awoken, and all the things that i didn’t like or wasn’t happy with was out. From there on, the book gave me a way to forgive myself.

How Do I Make This A Habit?

Once A Week Review

Falling back into old habits is so easy to do if there is no attention put on forming the habit. That’s why every week you should touch base with yourself and see how you’re feeling with the choices you have made that week. If you remember you didn’t hit one of your goals and you said to yourself I’m not good enough to do this but didn’t realise at the time. This is a great way to head back and forgive your self for not hitting your intended goal and reaffirm that you are good enough and list how you would change it for next time. How I perform this is by sitting somewhere alone,avoided from distraction and I close my eyes and deal with it within my mind.

Get A Journal

The Benefits Of Self-Forgiving Exercises through a journal

A great way to keep track of when you put yourself down is having a journal to track it. This can be done immediately after you have said and you recognised it or at the end of the day, It’s really important to find patterns to when and why this happens then you can put buffers in place so you don’t have to keep going through the same negative emotions.

Be Conscious Of Your Emotions

Most of the time we are running on autopilot. When it comes to good or bad habits our mind doesn’t care which it should focus on. So we need to make sure our subconscious mind has formed the right habits.

That’s why being conscious of when you are hard on yourself is important in addressing the issue. A great way to do this on the daily is to just ask yourself. How am I feeling in this moment? This will gauge where your at, be it happy or sad. Then if it’s a new emotion, ask again why do I feel this way? The positives of this exercise will allow you to connect with your emotions and start to understand them. This will lead to you having the power to control them, rather than your emotions controlling you.

Final Thoughts

Overall, when we can forgive ourselves that’s when a lot of our negative energy can go away. It’s like an anchor holding us down in our lives that we just can’t lift. If we can release it that’s when we can move forward.

We must understand it and have strategies to overcome it. Sooner rather than later. I challenge you after reading this post to sit down somewhere comfy, grab your favourite hot drink and spend some time with yourself and learn to forgive yourself and become a better and stronger person from your experience so you can have life-changing moments today and in the future.

FUTURE MINDSET

At Future Mindset, we are here to push the boundaries of our thoughts and actions. By chasing discomfort in our lives, it can lead us to unlock things inside us we never knew was there. Let’s change our mindset to change our future.

For all of our latest blog posts on developing your mindset, make sure you sign up to our weekly newsletter to stay informed. Thank you so much for your support and would love to discuss any comments on this post and if you have any suggestions on future posts I’m more than happy to research and deliver that for you.

Chase discomfort and have a great day wherever you are!