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We All Have A Story

Everyone reading this will have a story of their life. Everyone you know will have a story of you. No two stories are the same and the story you tell about yourself is interpreted on your opinion of how the events of your life have unfolded.

Life events can definitely shape our story but also other people can definitely shape the person we are today. Within anyone’s story, when they tell themself they’re a terrible communicator or says no to challenges.

Where did that come from? Is it really who you are or is it a habit that’s learnt?

I believe it’s learnt from the story others have told us about who we are and what stories we have told ourselves that have become our reality. Of course, when it comes to communication there are personalities who are well suited to talking in large crowds or to strangers.

But speaking as an introvert whose story was that I am a terrible communicator who dreaded any public speaking role. This story was a lie, a story that was created in my childhood. Luckily I learned I was a good communicator by learning the skill through coaching and face to face sales and came to enjoy speaking at large events. This goes to show that the story we tell ourselves are not always what they seem and like any story you change to be whatever you wish it to be.

What’s Your Story?

The question you have to ask yourself is. What’s my story?

Is your story creating you happiness, wealth & purpose or is it making you give in to fear, debt or comfortability?

Only you will know the answer but analysing your story will help to see the lies and where they come from. Are they your thoughts or somebody else’s?

Too many of us, myself included have thoughts of what we think we are that have come from somebody else’s mind. Not only harm our progression but also our wellbeing.

It came to my attention in adulthood that I struggled with self-belief. I always believed someone else was more deserving because my effort wasn’t good enough when in reality it was. My story was that I had to be the best or I’m not good enough and constantly downplayed my success. I’m not sure where this story came from but it affected me from achieving my best but also my well-being.

When you lack self-belief happiness is a commodity.

But when I analysed my story and lies I have told myself. I came to realise that I am enough and I have a victory list of accomplishments that I came to be proud of. This has allowed me to change my story.

So what’s stories are holding you back? Take 10 minutes to write down stories that harm your health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness.

What Stories Can Hold Us Back

Creating a false reality
Worse case scenarios predictions that stop them from moving forward
Thinking small
Stories that are forced upon us

How We Can Tell New Stories

If you’re living a life that’s not bringing you health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. It’s time to make a change. The best way to do it is to question the thoughts and habits that you keep.

For example, when it came to food. I used to have stories of I had to eat everything on my plate, all meat is good for you for protein and being a vegan is unhealthy and weird.

These stories I was told was not helping me have great health. I ate too many calories compared to my lifestyle, I ate too much meat that gave me high cholesterol and exploring different food lifestyles didn’t give me a bigger picture of how I could eat healthy as well enjoying a vegan diet.

The new stories we create don’t have to be the same but they have to help you in areas of health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. Doing your own research from credible people and research from a wide range of viewpoints can help you shape the life you want. For the four areas, we have discussed I have a mentor as well as keep up to date in how I could improve my story further. The trick is to always keep an open mind on how to constantly improve your story. This will help create a life you truly can be proud of.

Don’t Worry What Others Think

My stories are definitely different to when I was 18 and are looked at like I’m sought of an alien from family members but the difference is that I am evolving the story that helps me and they’re living the same story they were told what life was.

If this resonates somewhere with you please tell me in the comments after reading this article because I think it’s time to create a new story for you.

Make Sure You Keep The Good Stories

To create a life you want. Making new stories that benefit you is inevitable. But that doesn’t mean eliminating all your stories of who you are. I’m sure in everyone there I amazing stories you live by and help you in your life. For me, it was the story of helping others less fortunate. Whether that be in a charitable sense or just helping people who need it. Another story I hold dealy I can achieve anything I set my mind to. This has led me to perceive and show determination in everything I set my mind to.

These are my stories but great stories that you have created or have been influenced by? When you’re reviewing your own stories make sure to write all the good stories you have that fuel you in life. Alongside who taught you. This will show you the great influencers of your life and how best to use them going forward.

To finish off. Always remember nothing is fixed in life, it’s changeable. There are people all over the world maybe even someone you know. Who is living a life of health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. If they can do it, you can do it.

I have faith in you and you have faith in yourself.

I challenge you to go create the amazing stories you always wanted to create today!

Let us know at THEFUTUREMINDSET how you get on!

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A Final Word From The Future Mindset

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Simone Biles is the goat (Greatest Of all Time) of gymnastics, Adam Peaty is the goat of breaststroke and Naomi Osaka is one of the best current tennis players on the planet. What do they all have in common? They’re starting to talk about and prioritise their mental health.

There has been a stigma on prioritising your mental health for a long time. Where you would rarely hear anyone talk about it. The old traditional sayings of “stop being weak” and “just push through it” are starting to become a thing of the past.

The need for more education on mental health is of importance. The reason why people have a negative viewpoint on mental health issues is because of a lack of understanding. Peoples viewpoints tend not to be from Science backed research on mental health but from passed down traditions that are nonsense.

When humans don’t understand we have a track record of going to the negative and fearful side first. Remember when we used to burn so-called witches for using science.

A study from the BMC Health Services Research proved the stigma against people with mental illness is a major barrier to help-seeking in young people for mental health problems. Their findings suggest the hypothesis that help-seeking by mentally ill young people may be improved by interventions that address both their lack of factual information about mental illness, and those which reduce their strong negative emotional reactions towards people with mental illness.

This clearly highlights the improvement we need within our educational system and overall world view of better understanding and factual teaching on mental health.

Lets Start Talking About Mental Health

Why Talking And Prioritising Your Mental Health Is So Important

Year on year science is leading the way with breakthroughs on the brain. There are amazing doctors and coaches inspiring the next generation to understand and talk about mental health. I try my best with The Future Mindset to broadcast this message.

To be able to talk about our mental health without ridicule we have to create systems within our society where we can talk openly about how we feel. To fast track this we need influencers from all backgrounds to openly speak about their experiences with mental health and the solutions that their fans can implement. If influencers can represent brands that people buy why can’t they spread positives of mental health.

The second option is we need local communities to offer places where people can go to receive help and guidance and lastly on a large scale we need governments to take the lead on this. I don’t have all the answers but targeting schools and creating free online support where people can get help would be a great start.

Talking about mental health is courageous and shouldn’t be mistaken for weakness. We are brought up on King Arthur, Superman and strong stoic types. Having these characteristics is definitely a good thing but it’s not based on reality. All men and women feel emotion and pain. Speaking openly when we are not ok and when we need time to rest is exactly what your mind needs and it is the remedy to creating a healthy and strong mind.

My Own Struggle

I too as a man struggle to talk about my own feelings. But I’m better than I was and I will continue to get better. No matter what age you are get talking about mental health and create a safe space for your children, family and friends where they can talk about it too.

I think most people want to talk and find solutions to improve their mental health. We just need to create a safe space for people to talk about it.

The Benefit Of Prioritising Your Mental Health

Countless studies have shown prioritising your mental health has huge benefits to your personal wellbeing. Through my own journey, I am a testament to that. Some of the main benefits you will get are;

Reduction in anxiety.
Improved moods.
Clearer thinking.
A greater sense of calm or inner peace.
Increased self-esteem.
Reduced risk of depression.
Improvements in relationships.

When you don’t prioritise your mental health your life will quickly get out of control. Your mind needs help but instead of doing the techniques that work. People can be led to drug use, suicide and life destruction mode.

Not knowing how to deal with their problems or being able to even speak about them. Creates a swelling that will only get bigger and more painful if it’s not looked after. The mind will suffer, your overall health will be weakened and everything around you will start falling apart. You see it all the time with celebrities and sports athletes.

The good news is that sports teams are promoting mental health more than ever and helping their players to receive the best help possible. What’s accessible for them may not be accessible for you but there are now proven techniques from studies and books that can help anyone prioritise their mental health and gain amazing results.

Prioritise your mental health and you are guaranteed to see the results that will change your life.

What Steps To Take Next To Improve Mental Health

Journal your thoughts daily.
Find a safe space where you can talk about your mental health.
Create a safe space for others where you be a good listener.
Have time to recharge your mind. (Alone time, in nature etc)
Exercise. (Free happiness drug)
Build your self care routine

PLEASE COMMENT AND SHARE YOUR STORIES

Has this helped you today? I would love to hear your thoughts. Always remember you are not alone and everything can change.

A Final Word From The Future Mindset

I hope you enjoyed today’s article Why Talking And Prioritising Your Mental Health Is So Important. I hope the article has helped in some way. If you need extra help or any questions answered. Don’t hesitate to contact me at adam@thefuturemindset.com

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