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Chasing Discomfort And Why It’s Important For Growth

Chasing Discomfort

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This blog post I’m going to write about today is something I want to have more of. I want to be chasing discomfort and understanding why it’s important for growth.

The world we live in today is getting more and more comfortable compared if you looked back 200 years ago.

Life has never been easier. You want food, we just go to the Supermarket or if we want to wash our clothes we just use the washing machine.

We don’t have to hunt any more and we definitely don’t have to wash our clothes by hand. Of course around the world, not everyone is living in comfort but on the whole, especially in the western world, we are for sure.

Looking Back On Past Experiences

When we look back on our own life, of course, we see the challenges and the hurdles we have faced. When I looked deeper and analysed my past it just shows me how comfortable a lot of my life has been.

In the short term, comfortability feels great like a warm shower or comfy bed to snuggle into. In the long term is the habit of being comfortable making us happy or is it creating amazing moments.

When we feel comfortable that’s a sign that we are safe and that was important thousands of years ago to know when we should rest the body and mind. When it comes to a fulfilling life it just doesn’t cut it.

Prime examples in my life of when being comfortable held me back were when I worked in sales and marketing. Before I joined the company I thought tooth and nail to get it.

Within my first weeks, I was engaged and was learning at a rapid rate. Then when I applied all the information I became great at it.

Then the learning stopped, I knew everyone and everything and it became autopilot and that’s when I stopped progressing and as the months went on, I was on the decline and I didn’t know why.

Reflecting Why Being Comfortable Can Hold You Back

On reflection, it was down to finding my comfortability zone. This zone doesn’t want you to learn, meet new people or push yourself for the next challenge, it just wants you to stay where you are, and that’s safe.

I have countless experiences where being comfortable has held me back and I’m sure you have to. How frustrating is it when you look back and you didn’t say yes to something that would have been life-changing or just an amazing experience.

It came to point in my life at 30 where this can no longer go on. This can not be my norm for the rest of my life. Especially after seeing it make people miserable with their choices and actions as they have got older.

So I have challenged my self to chase discomfort on a regular basis. Is it going to be difficult? HELL YES! Everything inside you is going to say “no don’t do it just be comfortable”. That’s when we have to consciously take over and say “YES LETS JUST DO IT”

Some things I have challenged myself do are,
  • Create a YouTube channel and post weekly
  • Post pictures of myself and my story on social media
  • Do Yoga every day for 30 days
  • Climb the 3 peaks of the United Kingdom

All 4 definitely make me feel out of my comfort zone. So I challenge you to find 4 things for the next 30 days, that you can overcome your fear or doubt of by taking action and chasing discomfort.

Hang Around The Right People

Within your life, you will have many different challenges you have to overcome. Make sure you tap into that. It will give you the confidence to know you can do it again.

Plus having people around you who motivate and hold you accountable is important for your ability to persevere in the challenge.

Of course when you start telling people what you’re going to do. You’re going to find two types of people. The ones that will say “This is an amazing idea, I’ve always wanted to this too, your so brave” and you have someone else say “You are crazy, it’s never going to work”

Please do not listen to the latter because they are just giving you their own insecurity on how they think they can’t do it. Trust me you definitely can, we are designed to overcome challenges. It’s all in the mind.

Track Your Progress

When you start your challenges make sure you have a journal or a wall chart to track your progress.

Digesting your progress is so valuable to unlocking your accomplishments. It allows you to see where you need to improve. You can either do this by writing it down or videoing yourself. Plus one day someone may need help with overcoming the challenge your facing.

Some challenges need a visual aid to show your progress. For instance, doing the 30-day mile club where on the first of the month you run 1 mile. Then increase it a mile each day.

Tracking your progress not only shows what you have achieved. It shows the vision of how you’re going to achieve the task which both are motivational.

Find A Mentor

When starting any challenge you know it’s going have a lot more downs than ups. That’s why it can be important to have a mentor. They can either guide you or motivate you towards your goals.

You can find these mentors anywhere. You can watch them on Youtube and see how they broke through the barriers of their journey or you could hire one.

On any journey whether your an athlete or starting a business. Having a mentor helps you get to your endpoint faster rather than you having to go the long way around.

As painful and fun that might be, it’s not the smartest route you can take.

To Conclude

I hope this gives you greater insight into chasing discomfort and why it’s important for growth. Also why it’s important to apply it in your daily life.

Since I have been conscious of this I have become more confident, daring and adventurous because of it. It’s still a journey I’m on but one that’s so rewarding.

Imagine living a life where you don’t fear anything because you have overcome them all. That’s a life worth living and one where anything is possible.

So make a list of what discomforts you want to overcome. Then comment them below and where we can track your progress. Maybe one day we can do them together.

FUTURE MINDSET

At Future Mindset, we are here to push the boundaries of our thoughts and actions. By chasing discomfort in our lives, it can lead us to unlock things inside us we never knew was there. Let’s change our mindset to change our future.

For all of our latest blog posts on developing your mindset, make sure you sign up to our weekly newsletter to stay informed.

Thank you so much for your support and would love to discuss any comments on this post and if you have any suggestions on future posts I’m more than happy to research and deliver that for you.

Chase discomfort and have a great day wherever you are!

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Why Recognition Is Important In Leadership

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Why is recognition Important In Leadership? That’s the question we are going to answer in today’s post. First though before we delve in, I want you to write down why you think recognition is important in leadership and see if we match up.

Who doesn’t love recognition? We want it from our parents, teachers, coaches, and partners. Most of us want to be appreciated for the efforts we put in. No matter how big or small they may be. We can’t control when someone gives us praise but we can control when we dish it out. To become a person of influence in someone’s life you have to learn to give out genuine recognition and appreciation. This is what people crave for in my experience of coaching people. I even find it in myself. I like it when my wife notices I’ve tidied up the kitchen or my mentor appreciates my efforts. We are all humans and crave to be noticed in life no matter if your an introvert or extrovert. Just like a child, you want your attention and praise. It continues throughout your whole life.

What can damage someone’s self-esteem is when they get no recognition. This can lead to negative self-talk and low self-esteem. Especially in children because when they grow up in an environment where there is no love for them – it can have lasting mental health issues as they grow older.

I don’t want this for my children and anyone I come into contact with. Everybody deserves to be praised and recognised for their efforts and if we can start this earlier in a child’s life, imagine the change we can have on other people.

So below I have come up with ways you can help people around you feel recognised and appreciated. This has worked for me personally and professionally and has changed the way I have a connection with others. This will answer why recognition is important In leadership.

1. Remember their achievements

When you’re parenting or coaching, recognise the personal achievement they have. It could be they scored their first goal in an U7s football match. It could be they closed their first sale. Whether you were by their side or not, making a conscious effort to praise them for the achievements that mean so much to them is a major confidence boost to someone’s self-esteem. Especially, someone, they look up to. The best way to achieve this is to purposely look out for it and write it down so you can remember to give out that positive re-enforcement of a great job.

2. Make them feel the same way whether it’s big or small

Whenever you are giving recognition out make sure you make them feel the same way no matter what they have achieved. Especially when in your mind’s eye there a difference in what you perceive to an achievement. For example, if you compared your walking ability to someone who’s learning to walk again there’s a difference. What you may take for granted might be someone else’s achievement. So put your self in their position of what achievement means to them.

3. Remember their name

What people respond and love hearing the most is the sound of their name. When someone forgets your name. How does it make you feel? Compared to when someone does remember your name? For me, there is a difference. The foremost annoys me and the other makes me of worth. It’s crazy how your name can have such a powerful effect on yourself. That in mind it has the same effect to others. So a great way for you to show recognition to others is remembering people’s names. I do this by writing their name down and putting one positive fact about them. This helps me to remember the name to the persons’ actions.

4. Show you care for real

Have you ever felt someone who’s trying to praise you or be nice to you but for some reason, it just feels fake? It’s because it’s a show. The words that they’re saying does not match up with what they are feeling. This will not create a connection and will alienate the individual. That’s why it’s so important when you offer recognition, you do it from a place of care. Your words are truthful and you care about the impact you want to have on the people you show recognition to.

5. Make them feel 10 feet tall

If you do all of the above 4 steps you will make the person in front feel self-worthy and recognised for their achievements. This will allow them to confidently pursue their goals and life purpose to another level. They will go home a feel-good that day that someone cared about their efforts. That’s a powerful impact you can have on someone life. So be genuine with your praise and know what you say to another human being can have an impact on them where they can feel 10 feet tall or 1 foot tall. It’s down to us to make them feel the best they have ever felt.

Why Recognition Is Important In Leadership with praise from others

Conclusion

After reading Becoming A Person Of Influence by John C. Maxwell it motivated me to write this post today. One of the standout quotes from his book was. “Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticise me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you.” Did we help you answer why recognition is important in leadership? Let us know in the comments down below.

FUTURE MINDSET

At Future Mindset, we are here to push the boundaries of our thoughts and actions. By chasing discomfort in our lives, it can lead us to unlock things inside us we never knew was there. Let’s change our mindset to change our future.

For all of our latest blog posts on developing your mindset, make sure you sign up to our weekly newsletter to stay informed. Thank you so much for your support and would love to discuss any comments on this post and if you have any suggestions on future posts I’m more than happy to research and deliver that for you.

Chase discomfort and have a great day wherever you are!