Where Does Expectation Come From?
Expectation comes from everywhere around you. The expectation of life can be different based on your family, location, countries values and expectations of what people must do. It’s an imaginary entity that creates so much power in peoples life. An amazing article on how expectation influences perception is in the link here.
It’s yours to control but too many put their mental health at risk by having a high expectation that falls flat. This can be the difference between you achieving the life you want or giving up because you have made yourself believe it’s not for you.
How Having A High Expectation Interacts With Your Mind
When anyone sets an expectation it’s of course to set the benchmark to improve and do better. You have probably heard the terms 10x your mindset famously coined by Grant Cardone. This is an exceptional movement of the invisible line that can propel people forward in their life. What people don’t understand when they aspire to have a high expectation that’s 10x. Is that these people were dormant with the skillset required to elevate themself forward.
Compared if you started to have these new high expectations to 10x to be an Astronaut but knew nothing about what it takes to be an Astronaut. You would fail quickly and painfully very fast and could lead to your belief that it’s not for you. The failure of these high expectations leads to a lowering in confidence that affects the mind in negative ways. That can change your whole approach to life.
How Our Life Experience Is Affected By Expectation Of Life
Expectation vs reality plays a major role in the feeling we get from the expectation of life we set ourselves. Too many people live in a reality in their minds where they expect themselves to be millionaires within a year.
The expectation vs reality has to be a cohesive match where the attainment of being a millionaire within 1 year is based on the systems and structures you have in place to get there. Or else the expectation vs reality will be a failure, and the mind’s confidence and well-being will be affected.
So when setting expectations you have to base It on reality where the chances of you hitting your target are likely possible with the right actions. You should treat expectations like a game of guitar heroes with every effortlessly placed click that will build the Law Of Momentum.
When you set your expectations the right way you will start to build momentum in your life. If you feel like being a bit of a yo-yo then your expectations your setting are out of balance. By evaluating your expectation vs reality on a consistent basis you can get a real feel for what’s realistic and what’s not.
Expectation has levels. My level compared to Elon Musk is completely different. Likewise, Elon’s level would have been different when he compared himself growing up to Bill Gates for example. Only now has he caught him up financially where now you could say he is a level ahead with expectations my venturing into space.
5 Ways How Your Expectation Of Life Affects The Mind
1. Expecting To Have Your Life All Together
The expectation of life is that the older you get the easier you will get life right? I don’t know about you but this is what I thought. In some ways it’s true but in so many other ways it’s definitely not. Life throws curve balls. The more you progress the more problems increase. You reading this could be 30 and still be living at home not having a clue what your life holds because you expect it all to be figured out.
The solution to this expectation is to expect you will never figure out the perfect life. You understand that life is changeable and what I believe in my 20s will be different in my 40s. The only thing you should expect of yourself is to create systems where your basic needs are taken care of alongside systems that can create great wealth. From there just enjoy the life you have today and stay in the present as much as possible. I’m still trying to figure my life out. It’s normal but expecting to have your life altogether in a nice bow is a myth. A myth you shouldn’t focus on. Just enjoy today.
2. Expecting Life To Be fair
When we leave our parents stewardship and head into life on our own two feet. We can expect that life will be fair and true. Life is far from this. Life will not be fair to you just because you expect it to.
The solution to this is to expect that life will not be fair. So when you come up against any unfairness you will know it’s not your fault but it’s a part of life. From there you can plan how to navigate around it to get your desired outcome. I expected to get promoted to a management level in an early job. I was doing all the right things but was let down by others around me. Instead of dwelling on why life is not fair. I expected that this would happen and learned how I could mitigate this from happening again. With subtle changes and an expectation to prepare for this, I achieved what I wanted without a loss of mindset.
3. Expecting Everything Will Work It Self Out
The illusion of expecting everything will work itself out. Whether I addressed the problem or not is a dangerous game to play. Things don’t magically happen. It’s based on action taken place that changes the outcome. Lack of action just makes the problem bigger in magnitude.
The solution here is to expect everything will work out by taking action. That subtle difference in wording changes everything. Since this has become an expectation I have followed. I have improved my finances, relationships and my business decisions. Life is not handed to you. The expectation of life is to take action.
4. Expecting Everyone To Like Me
The expectation that everyone will like me for me. Will set your well-being up for failure. It doesn’t matter how likeable or kind you think you are. There will always be people who won’t like you because of your personality, your positivity, your outlook on life or they’re jealous of you. I fell into this trap where I expected everyone to like me if I just change this or I just change that. This constant change of who I was to benefit someone else is not only a confidence nightmare. It goes against your true nature and who you are as a person.
The solution here is to expect that not everyone will like you and that’s ok. As long as you are true to yourself the right people will be attracted. The ones who do not. It has more to do with them than it has to do with you.
6. Expectation On Success
Everyone’s expectation of success is different. But too many look to celebrity culture as a guide to what success is. I too had this outlook where I expected success to be when I have a fancy home, supercar, high-end clothes etc. This is all a lie. Success is whatever you think success is. I’m successful because I am there for my children every single day. I am successful because I focus on developing myself to become a better person daily.
The solution here to find what success means to you and when your expectation meets your reality and not someone else’s. That’s when your wellbeing and mind can be in tune with each other and you can be happy with your accomplishments. As well as setting yourself expectations of what you want in your life that means something to you. Not someone having a life you think you should have.
How To Set Realistic Expectations
First don’t set expectations based on what others expect from you. People can make suggestions but you have to make decisions. You first have to train your mind to have the expectation of a life that you want. This is non-negotiable. Too many people myself included have fallen into the expectation trap that doesn’t align with your values, spirit and skillet to fall flat on your face. You then throw a pity party about how bad you are at life. This is all pre-programmed in the mind to do when we fail at the expectation that should never have been set for ourselves in the first place.
You have to sit down with yourself and get to know yourself truly and what you are capable of completing presently. Once you know what you can do and what you want to do. You can set realistic expectations to achieve with a realistic time limit to complete. Once you hit this goal your confidence and wellbeing will be awoken. Your life has now begun the chapter you’ve always wanted to read. Set when your creating your expectation of life. Make sure the expectation VS reality is in your mind. From here you can achieve success and feel good at the same time whist moving forward with harder challenges that you can achieve.
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Has this helped you today? What do you think, should you be realistic with your expectation or should you set a high expectation. I would love to hear your thoughts and your experiences with dealing with the expectation of life. Always remember you’re not alone and everything can change by developing your mindset.
A Final Word From The Future Mindset
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