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We All Have A Story

Everyone reading this will have a story of their life. Everyone you know will have a story of you. No two stories are the same and the story you tell about yourself is interpreted on your opinion of how the events of your life have unfolded.

Life events can definitely shape our story but also other people can definitely shape the person we are today. Within anyone’s story, when they tell themself they’re a terrible communicator or says no to challenges.

Where did that come from? Is it really who you are or is it a habit that’s learnt?

I believe it’s learnt from the story others have told us about who we are and what stories we have told ourselves that have become our reality. Of course, when it comes to communication there are personalities who are well suited to talking in large crowds or to strangers.

But speaking as an introvert whose story was that I am a terrible communicator who dreaded any public speaking role. This story was a lie, a story that was created in my childhood. Luckily I learned I was a good communicator by learning the skill through coaching and face to face sales and came to enjoy speaking at large events. This goes to show that the story we tell ourselves are not always what they seem and like any story you change to be whatever you wish it to be.

What’s Your Story?

The question you have to ask yourself is. What’s my story?

Is your story creating you happiness, wealth & purpose or is it making you give in to fear, debt or comfortability?

Only you will know the answer but analysing your story will help to see the lies and where they come from. Are they your thoughts or somebody else’s?

Too many of us, myself included have thoughts of what we think we are that have come from somebody else’s mind. Not only harm our progression but also our wellbeing.

It came to my attention in adulthood that I struggled with self-belief. I always believed someone else was more deserving because my effort wasn’t good enough when in reality it was. My story was that I had to be the best or I’m not good enough and constantly downplayed my success. I’m not sure where this story came from but it affected me from achieving my best but also my well-being.

When you lack self-belief happiness is a commodity.

But when I analysed my story and lies I have told myself. I came to realise that I am enough and I have a victory list of accomplishments that I came to be proud of. This has allowed me to change my story.

So what’s stories are holding you back? Take 10 minutes to write down stories that harm your health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness.

What Stories Can Hold Us Back

Creating a false reality
Worse case scenarios predictions that stop them from moving forward
Thinking small
Stories that are forced upon us

How We Can Tell New Stories

If you’re living a life that’s not bringing you health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. It’s time to make a change. The best way to do it is to question the thoughts and habits that you keep.

For example, when it came to food. I used to have stories of I had to eat everything on my plate, all meat is good for you for protein and being a vegan is unhealthy and weird.

These stories I was told was not helping me have great health. I ate too many calories compared to my lifestyle, I ate too much meat that gave me high cholesterol and exploring different food lifestyles didn’t give me a bigger picture of how I could eat healthy as well enjoying a vegan diet.

The new stories we create don’t have to be the same but they have to help you in areas of health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. Doing your own research from credible people and research from a wide range of viewpoints can help you shape the life you want. For the four areas, we have discussed I have a mentor as well as keep up to date in how I could improve my story further. The trick is to always keep an open mind on how to constantly improve your story. This will help create a life you truly can be proud of.

Don’t Worry What Others Think

My stories are definitely different to when I was 18 and are looked at like I’m sought of an alien from family members but the difference is that I am evolving the story that helps me and they’re living the same story they were told what life was.

If this resonates somewhere with you please tell me in the comments after reading this article because I think it’s time to create a new story for you.

Make Sure You Keep The Good Stories

To create a life you want. Making new stories that benefit you is inevitable. But that doesn’t mean eliminating all your stories of who you are. I’m sure in everyone there I amazing stories you live by and help you in your life. For me, it was the story of helping others less fortunate. Whether that be in a charitable sense or just helping people who need it. Another story I hold dealy I can achieve anything I set my mind to. This has led me to perceive and show determination in everything I set my mind to.

These are my stories but great stories that you have created or have been influenced by? When you’re reviewing your own stories make sure to write all the good stories you have that fuel you in life. Alongside who taught you. This will show you the great influencers of your life and how best to use them going forward.

To finish off. Always remember nothing is fixed in life, it’s changeable. There are people all over the world maybe even someone you know. Who is living a life of health, wealth, wellbeing & happiness. If they can do it, you can do it.

I have faith in you and you have faith in yourself.

I challenge you to go create the amazing stories you always wanted to create today!

Let us know at THEFUTUREMINDSET how you get on!

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A Final Word From The Future Mindset

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The Effect Limiting Beliefs Have On The Mind

Limiting beliefs comes from the mind. It could be an internal voice in your head or it could be from external sources influencing your beliefs and the view of yourself in the world.

When limiting beliefs are in control of your mind your performance, success and overall wellbeing are greatly affected. If there is no change it will literally destroy your life and rob you of a life of full potential.

The worse thing of all. Your limiting beliefs can be hidden from you. Acted out in the subconscious mind without you even noticing the effects it has on your life. That’s the scary part. This will affect your financial wealth, relationships, career progression and overall happiness.

I too had limiting beliefs around many things growing up. It’s kind of luck of the draw who your parents are, what school you go to and what country you live in. These major factors in your life can hugely determine what you will become. If you are in an environment where everyone thinks all millionaires are bad people or all people from the other village are the enemies. The chances of a child who then grows up into adulthood who still believe this is unfortunately high.

That’s why what you allow into your mind, who you hang around with and where you live is of importance for dispelling limiting thoughts.

The Three Limiting Beliefs

1. Limiting Beliefs From Your Own Mind

The most important of all limiting beliefs is how you think personally of yourself. If you believe you are not enough, won’t win at anything or be in a happy relationship. Those thoughts will create a reality you have to live with. Our very thoughts dictate what will become or close to. The power thoughts have over our lives is the difference between someone living a life of purpose or someone living a life they hate.

2. Limiting Beliefs From Others Around You

We all grow up with adults who influence our lives for good or bad. The effects of this can stay with you for a lifetime. Luckily we live in a world now where you can travel easily, gather knowledge with a click of a finger and this can hugely change your viewpoints.

I too had limiting beliefs from others growing up about many things that now I don’t believe any more thanks to new experiences and being around positive people.

You hear it all the time when adolescents are leaving school and they have a job councillor who advises them on future career paths. The career councillor who hasn’t achieved anything in their own life telling children what they can and can’t become.

Some will use it as motivation but far too many will believe this person viewpoint and consequently, will limit that person from succeeding.

Who you are around and take advice from can impact your life. Blocking out the noice of the naysayers will help you greatly in dispelling your limiting beliefs.

3. Limiting Beliefs From Society

We are inundated with constant feedback from the world around us. It’s harder than ever to distinguish what is true and what’s not. The news will have you believe that a certain race of people is bad and another is good based on their own political agender.

But limiting beliefs can affect you on a more personal level based on your race, religion and class. Overcoming these preconceived notions is crucial for your own success.

I come from a working-class background in Birmingham. If I believed what society thought my career path should be or my role in society. I would be in a completely different position from what I am today.

Societies influence can play a major role in your limiting beliefs. With our keen ability to fit in. Fitting into the wrong belief system can dramatically affect your life.

How To Silence Your Limiting Beliefs : Block Out The Noise

How To Block Out The Noice

Be careful who and what you listen to
Question everything about your own beliefs system
You can choose where you live and who you live with
Spend time with positive and open minded people
Remember you are in control of your thoughts and what you believe in

Create An Identity That Delivers

James Clear explains the importance of creating an identity. If you write, create an identity that you are a writer, if you play the guitar in your spare time create an identity that you are a musician. Creating an identity he explains is of importance when changing your belief system.

What you believe is what you will become and the habit of creating a belief system that helps you deliver the life you want is of major importance.

If you believe you are not smart enough. Create an identity of being a reader, an academic.

If you believe you can’t do something. Create an identity of a confident can-do person.

There is no surprise that many children grow up to do similar things to what their parents do, or copy what they see on TV or what teachers they have in their life.

You are not born with an identity it’s created for you from an early age. The best thing about being an adult is that you can create any identity you want. It will be challenging and uncomfortable but with time and effort, you can dispel any limiting belief for a new identity that delivers self-belief in abundance.

What’s Next For You

Learning to block out the noise of your own limiting thoughts, limiting thoughts of others and limiting thoughts of society is the first step to taking control back of your thought process. We can never control everything but being more self-aware, forging an identity and a life that easily creates self-belief. You will be on track to build your mental strength.

PLEASE COMMENT AND SHARE YOUR STORIES

Where do you think your limiting beliefs come from? I would love to hear your thoughts and your experiences. Always remember you are not alone and everything can change.

A Final Word From The Future Mindset

I hope you enjoyed today’s article How To Silence Your Limiting Beliefs: Block Out The Noise I hope the article has helped in some way. If you need extra help or any questions answered. Don’t hesitate to contact me at adam@thefuturemindset.com

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