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What Sales Can Teach You About Dealing With Rejection In Life

Rejection & Sales Go Hand In Hand

Dealing with rejection in life is hard. Rejection is a feeling no one wants to go through. For any new person in sales. This is somewhat of a shock to the system when they get 100 nos a day. It can be seen outside of the sales world when someone’s applying for a job, trying to find a partner or trying to get a loan for their new business idea. That’s why dealing with rejection is a skill worth learning.

When it comes to sales it’s just a human to human interaction that reflects life. You will receive a lot more nos than you will receive yes’s. Learning a new language or learning to walk for the first time comes with a lot of setbacks until you gain the ultimate reward.

The biggest skill you can learn from doing sales is how you deal with rejection. This is what will set you apart from the rest and this is what will allow you to go on and achieve great success in your life.

Knowing how to deal with rejection makes life so much easier. It becomes less painful, less emotional and you can start building momentum forward instead of dwelling on the rejection. This leads you to be in charge of your destiny instead of living for someone else’s opinion or decision holding you back.

This article is written to help you understand rejection and how to use it to your advantage in life. It’s a non-negotiable part of life and you either win with it or lose.

What Sales Can Teach You About Rejection

What Sales Can Teach You About Dealing With Rejection In Life

My first job out of university was unexpectedly in sales. I was completely outside of my comfort zone in an environment that was strange but intriguing. On top of that, the sales we had to do was face to face. For an introverted guy, this was uncomfortable but luckily I was open to learning a new skill and competitiveness to become the best at it.

In my first two weeks there I learned a lot. I was definitely not a natural salesman but was improving day by day. One thing I had on my side was work ethic over the skill of persuasion. I probably spoke to 1000 people in two weeks and got 31 people to say yes to me and made £620.

Some nos were nice and some nos were harsh where you wanted to say something back. But what I learned was dealing with rejection was important whether the no was nice or rude it was still a no. It didn’t bring me closer to what I wanted if I dwelled on the outcome.

How we deal with rejection is all attitude. The mindset we have towards rejection will determine your success.

When I saw other people much better at communicating fail at sales it wasn’t because of their skill. It was was from how they handled rejection, how they could not let go of a no and move on to the next one. It was also how they let it affect them.

This is the same in real life as well. You apply for a job and they say no, some people will use it as feedback and others will look at it as a personal attack on their character where they will self sabotage themselves.

No matter if you are the best salesman in the world, most handsome or have the best CV known to man. They will all face rejection the difference is how they handle the rejection determine their success.

How To Prepare For Rejection

Preparing for rejection is important for keeping your attitude. If you’re not prepared you will lose your attitude fast. How I prepared my mind for rejection is to take all the emotion out of the no. For example in sales, I prepared my mind by telling myself that every no I received was not to me it was a no to the client. This helped to protect me from a lowering of self-esteem to ass the negative energy elsewhere. I also prepared the mind that rejection is a good thing. The reason being is that nos are inevitable so the quicker I can get away from my nos the quicker I will find my yes.

These are just two examples of many of how preparing the mind can have huge barring on maintaining your attitude. This system applies to anything in life and preparing that you will receive rejection and have strategies that protect your attitude will allow you to not get bogged down in rejection instead you can be like a frog leaping from leaf to leaf.

How To Deal With Rejection

Preparing for failure is the first part of handling rejection. The second part is dealing with rejection. Taking a head-on approach is important. When you wait for rejection to hit the power it has is huge. Instead using simple techniques can keep your attitude battery life at full capacity.

In sales no matter what no I received I always had the mindset to leave the person I found better than I found them. So whenever I received a no, I always responded with thank you for your time if you ever want more information you can pop on our website and take a look. By transferring the energy into a positive one. It allows for you to deal with th rejection you are getting . Plus on the bigger picture, the likehood of this person doing it in the future is more likely

In the real world if you get dumped, fired or rejected. You should learn how to leave things better than you left them or else the rejection will eat you alive if you let it.

To Conclude

I hope this has given you a better understanding of rejection. Rejection is a painful emotion to feel but it’s in your control of how you deal with it. The most successful people in any profession know how to deal with rejection from sport, acting or managers. Learning the systems and skills that allow you to overcome rejection can benefit you in every aspect of your life. First, you plan for rejection then you learn how to deal with rejection. because dealing with rejection is the way to keeping a balanced mind through life.

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How To Stop Your Mind Wandering To Procrastination

The Mind Wandering To Procrastination

In this article, we will discuss how to stop your mind wandering to procrastination. We will look into scientific studies as well as findings from experts and my own experiences to beat procrastination.

I feel every human, myself included have to deal with procrastination on a daily basis. It’s like the devil on your shoulder always pushing you to the easy. I don’t think procrastination will ever go away but there are techniques, routines and habits that can be formed to help your mind stop wandering into procrastination.

So let start off with,

What is procrastination?

Procrastination is the act of putting something off in the pursuit of something easier to do practically or deal with emotionally within the mind. Research has indicated procrastination is a form of poor self-regulation like a habit you need to do but keep putting it off. Essentially it’s part of every human on Earth and training the procrastination muscle is essential to getting things done.

Why Do We Procrastinate?

There are many reasons on an individual basis of why we procrastinate. You know within yourself the times you are most affected by procrastination. The main reason why we procrastinate is based on our feelings of how we feel now or how we feel in the future.

To explain more, when we put things off in the present it’s because it feels too hard to do and when we put things off based on it being done in the future is because we trick ourselves to believing we have enough time to do it.

Both are damaging mindsets to have to your progression and allows a wandering mind to procrastination.

How To Stop Your Mind Wandering To Procrastination

Don’t worry, if you’re a serial procrastinator you are not alone. We have all been there but there is hope. You can get a grip on controlling your procrastinating urges. You do this by understanding that procrastination is never going to go away. EVER!

How you overcome procrastination is the same process as to how we overcome a lack of muscle strength or understanding of a new language. We treat procrastination as a muscle. That we need to train every day because if we don’t it will fall back into its old ways.

Here are some strategies below that can help you from wandering to procrastination,

Option 1 Getting rid of distractions and temptations

How to stop your mind wandering to procrastination
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How tempting is it to just say I will do it later? I will just watch one episode then 8 episodes later you have the regret of not doing what you set out to do. From my own experience very tempting.

With distraction at our fingertips now it’s even easier to procrastinate with Games, films, tv shows, social media and Youtube. When I was studying at university this was one of the main distraction from getting my work done. Mainly because their work was hard and this was a much easier choice.

Here are my top 3 tips to apply to get rid of distraction and temptation,

  • Have everything prepared and easily viewable – If it’s exercise, have your clothes, yoga mat already out ready to use. If it’s writing when you open your phone or laptop it’s the first thing you see.
  • Clean your phone – Delete any major distractions from your phone or you have time outs on your most addictive apps.
  • Get started straight away – Upon awakening get the hardest task done straight away (Also by exercising straight away in the morning helps focus the mind) to overcome any distraction. Later in the day, it’s much easier to put things off.

Today make a list of your 3 major distractions and create a plan to avoid procrastination.

Option 2 – Make it easy to get started

The amount of times I have put things off because it was too hard to do. Are a long list and I mean long!! For example, when I started writing, the thought of writing over 1000 words was very daunting, to say the least. At university, this really unlocked the procrastination when I had to do a ten thousand word dissertation.

What I have learned that has helped a great deal with overcoming procrastination is starting anything challenging by making it easy to do. If it’s writing, set your goal as 250 words, if its exercises, set your goal for just a 10-minute workout.

This amazing strategy overcomes the hardship of procrastination brilliantly. Anything hard you have to do, make it easy and you will be surprised how you feel when you achieve it and how much more you actually do once you get started.

One of the biggest obstacles for procrastination is starting and this is a proven strategy that works.

Plus even if you only do 250 words a day of writing or 10 minutes a day of exercising. If you do this for 7 days the minimum you will achieve is 1750 words completed and 70 minutes of exercise within your week. That’s far better than procrastinating and doing nothing at all.

The Power Of Compound

The proven strategy of the compound effect is at play here too. Even by doing a little over time will lead to something much bigger in the future.

So if you have one month to do a ten thousand word essay. Doing 333 words a day if far better choice and easy than doing it all in one day or leaving it to the last minute to do. Which is the worst feeling!!

Start small, start easy and watch yourself de procrastinate and grow.

Get Your Mind Back From Wandering Procrastination

A study by Caroline Williams showed how you can improve your procrastination muscle which you can read in the link. But the study also showed that when you do go off track from your task.

The most important thing to do is not stress as this creates the procrastination to come back and take over. Just like pulling a seat belt too hard, a calmer approach is a must to stave off the mind wandering to procrastination.

So to help keep your mind from going back into procrastination is staying calm, the best ways for me to do this is,

  • Daily Meditation
  • Focus on breathing
  • Do important work alone

Final Thoughts

I hope we delivered a way for you to control your procrastination in this article – how to stop your mind wandering to procrastination.

I know it’s hard and I know there can be a lot of regrets when you don’t achieve what you were set out to do because you got in your own way. But by treating procrastination like a muscle, you can find solutions to overcome it with better habits.

I wish you all the best and get building that procrastination muscle!

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Hi I’m Adam
Hi I’m Adam

I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.