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In today’s article, 5 surprising habits that drain your mental well-being over time. I will discuss what habits you need to get rid of in your life. If draining habits are left to grow it will slowly drain your mental well-being. Over time you will notice a lack of focus, alienation and poor execution of tasks. This mentality will hold you back. So if you are doing any of the habits below I have left a quick solution to your problems. I hope it helps!

5 Surprising Habits That drain Your Mental Well-Being Over Time

1. Habit Of Being Messy

If not ourselves we all know someone who’s messy. There are even successful people who are messy as well.

But for ultimate productivity, and overall mental well-being. Research has shown that a cluttered workspace drags the mind away from focussing on what it needs to do.

A MIR scan showed that within the prefrontal cortex. It showed that too many distractions can affect the mind’s focus. It showed that the brain is not good at blocking out clutter, leading to the mind overworking and becoming drained because of too much clutter.

Solution – Take a tip from all the minimalist out there and apply their strategy to your life. It will allow for clean workspaces, home and you will see your focus and mental wellbeing skyrocket.

2. Habit Of Making Excuses

No one wants to admit when their wrong or didn’t achieve their intended goal. But getting into the habit of making excuses can lead to bad implications for your future wellbeing. The lack of vulnerability to give growth to the inflated ego will eventually lead you down a path where you will become stuck in life and won’t able to move forward.

Solution – Open your mind to a growth mindset where you can openly admit to your mistakes and failures. It might be immediately painful but in the long term important for future growth. Making excuses doesn’t help you in any way. Just remember it’s just your ego your protecting.

3. Habit Of Perfectionism

We all want to be the best but at what cost when attaining perfection. Perfection can lead us down a path where we have to get everything perfect before we start anything. Which becomes a form of procrastination without any action. Perfectionism can also be damaging for your mental wellbeing by setting your goal too high to attain because you want it to be perfect. This can lead to worthlessness, stress and a sense of failure.

Solution – Understand that nothing is perfect and being unperfect is ok. Changing your habit of perfectionism to giving your best effort and focussing on moving forward with intention will lead to happiness and mental wellbeing. Of course, there is a positive to striving for perfectionism but at what cost if you go too far with it. Definitely, a balancing act and self-awareness are key for it not ruling your life.

4. Habit Of Multi-Tasking

Some people take pride in their ability to multi-task. In some cases, it can have its benefits. For productive work, it doesn’t. Your brain is limited just like any power unit. If your multitasking on 5 things at once then you’re outputting at 20% efficiency for each task. You are therefore not giving your main priority it’s full attention.

You can see this in relationships when someone is talking and the other person on the phone whilst listening or a baby wants your attention but you’re focussed on watching TV. The attachment with that person gets slightly damaged as they don’t feel your full attention. This matters and is a reason for marriage breakups and attachment problems from children which lead them to find it with someone else.

Solution – There’s only so much we can focus on. Making it our priority to focus solely on one task or person at a time. Can help us overcome multitasking fatigue and relationship difficulties.

5. Habit Of Doing It Alone

Humans are built to work together for future growth. We are social animals and live to make connections with others. When we try and do everything ourselves. We just make our life 10 times harder. It can be hard to reach out for help. But it’s all ego and negative thinking going on in your mind. Outsourcing and automating our life helps to move forward quicker. The most successful people understand that having a team around you helps elevate your success.

Solution – Ask for help and build a team or support network around you that can make your life easier and enjoyable. This will help your mental well-being not feel overwhelmed and alone.

Over To You

I hope you enjoyed today article, 5 surprising habits that drain your mental well-being over time.

It’s not always easy to notice the habits that affect us in negative ways. But being self-aware and learning about our own habits. Can go a long way to ensuring your success and future mental wellbeing.

Build that mental strength with the right habits!!!

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Hi, I’m Adam

I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.

This blog is for anyone who wants to improve themselves. I personally have learned and practised developing my self-worth. This is why i have created The 6 Benefits of developing Self-worth in your life which i hope you can also benefit from too.

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What is Self-Worth?

What does this mean to you? For me, it means your ability to think positively about yourself. To not put yourself down and limit yourself with your words. Mark Twain stated “ A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval”

I’m sure we all have our own definition of what self-worth means to us. But how many of us are practising self-worth regularly? As we know, many of our habits are formed from an early age. As we grow older we find out whether the things we get taught are helping us move forward or holding us back. What made me write this post? Today i was reading the book Becoming A Person Of Influence by John C. Maxwell, where he discusses the importance of self-worth.

On reflection my self-worth has been a battle throughout my whole life. I’ve said to myself I’m not a great people person because I’m introverted which has stopped me networking with people. Saying I’m not a great public speaker because of one bad experience at University. And worst of all, on becoming an owner of my own company, I said i don’t deserve this.

All 3 statements are utter nonsense and are fabricated in our own mind by our lack of love for ourselves. In reality I’ve been the best at acquiring new customers and ranked number 1 in the country. I’ve spoken in front of 1000’s of people with amazing feedback. I wouldn’t have opened my own business if everything was not in place to do so. This shows that our limiting beliefs of ourselves are not true statements. They are from a viewpoint that has formed from a young age.

John C. Maxwell states, what’s holding us all back in our pursuit of happiness is our self worth and this will affect your employment, relationships, education, and more.

Building self-esteem is super important for children and adults of all ages. It’s a daily exercise we should practice every day until it becomes a habit instilled. Is it easy? No! Is it worth it? YES!

So here are the 6 benefits that can improve your self-worth and strategies for you to work on daily. Now if your one of the fortunate who is reading this and believes they have great self-worth, that’s brilliant. Hopefully, these strategies can help you teach your children, colleagues, friends, and family to build their self worth. As you know how important it is in your life.

The 6 Benefits Of Developing Self-Worth In Your Life

1. Benefits Of Personal Happiness

Having high self-worth can lead to an abundance of happiness. By being kind and believing in yourself, you will open up your mind to new possibilities. This can help you to pursue better relationships, career paths, or anything you wish to come true. It will lead to happiness, listening to the wants in your life and you believing you can do it. How i develop my happiness is focusing on things that i enjoy, and it’s also what brings value in my life even if it’s difficult and challenging.

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2. Benefits Of Focusing On Mini Wins

What solidifies your self worth is focusing on the mini wins in your life. What dashes people’s confidence is setting one big goal without no steps in place to get there. Then if you come up against a hurdle that’s difficult, it will knock you off your feet and then you will give up.

I wanted to write a book. In theory, it sounds great but when you have to write 100,000 words this can seem daunting. It was for me. So instead of focusing only on the big goal, I said that I will write 100 words a day. This made my brain feel like yes I can definitely do that. The beauty of it, after you have hit your goal of 100 words, you get a release of positive energy. Then you can’t stop writing and I end up writing at least 1000 words in one sitting. So set yourself easy winning hurdles. This will build your self-worth and show belief you can do it.

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3. Benefits Of Being Open-Minded

Being Open-minded allows you to experience new adventures, friends, career paths, and all sorts of new and wonderful things to explore. When leaping into the unknown you learn so much about yourself.

Having high self-worth allows you to be confident in yourself and your abilities as a person. Which allows you to open your mind to new possibilities. As I was growing in confidence – things I thought I couldn’t do I was attempting. This was crazy to me at the time. When you are high in this personal belief you will be shocked at the new things you will attempt. This is also true with learning, you will question things more.

4. Benefits Of Becoming A Problem Solver

By believing in yourself and your capabilities you will overcome a lot of the problems you face. When you have low self-esteem you shut your brain down to finding solutions. This tells the brain to just settle for the easiest options. The example I use is, I get two students, to pick one colour. They then have to look around the room and remember everything they can see that’s red. Then they close their eyes and remember out loud all the red objects, and then they do the same for the colour blue. What the test proves is that your mind focuses on whatever you ask it to focus on. When you’re looking for blue all your brain looks for and remembers is blue. Very much like problems and solutions, whatever you focus on you will get.

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5. The Benefits When You Understand That Life’s Not Perfect

What gets you down is when you always try to do a task perfectly with no avail. You can’t get your head around it. So instead of taking a step back and coming at it from a different angle. People just shut down and dwell on why they can’t get it right. For example, when playing video games. You come up against a tricky bad guy or a challenging puzzle and you just can’t do it. It can get you down that you’re just not good enough to complete the level. Whereas if you stepped back and go and refresh the brain. 9 times out of 10 you will go and complete the task no problem. It’s not that you can’t do it, it’s either you’re tired or you’re not allowing your brain to figure it out.

Another example of perfection getting in the way, is when a University student who’s striving for the top marks in their class. After countless of studying he finally achieved the highest marks in the class. The feeling he got was not of joy. It was of sadness with the use of self-harming words because to him, it wasn’t perfect. This shows when you strive for perfection you will never attain it.

The reason is, nothing is ever perfect in life and that’s OK. The only thing you can control is giving your best and knowing you gave it your all. This will not only give you favourable results but also make you feel good. Life is a journey of ups and downs not some perfect path.

Another prime example of looking to attain perfection, is that you won’t even try. Because you are afraid of what mistakes you will make will ruin your status as a person. This is completely the wrong way to think about any task and life. How we progress as a human is by making mistakes all the time, finding out what does and doesn’t work. The best and simplest example is of a baby walking for the first time. Babies don’t care how many times they fall over, who’s watching them or whether the walk is the right way. This is how you should live life. Not caring what others will think of you if you make a mistake. Because every human on earth is making their own mistakes every day.

Be aware of when you are being a perfectionist and journal it. Go over why it doesn’t have to be perfect it just has to be the best it can be. Then find someone who is more experienced for you to learn from.

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6. The Benefits When You Believe In Yourself

When you start to think highly of yourself, it unlocks confidence that you can do anything in life. Whereas if you don’t believe you’re worthy of anything, you will find all the reasons why you can’t do it. That’s why it so beneficial to practice self-love and have a journal of all your past achievements because what gets in the way of your success is you. When you catch yourself saying you’re not smart enough or I can’t do this. Get the thought and chuck it away in your mind or out loud. Replace it with all the success of your life past and always remember you beat a million other cells to be here today.

The Final Say

The 6 Benefits of developing Self-worth in your life can make massive changes. The great things is, you can apply it straight away. When i applied them instantly, i became more focused and happier the same day. The important thing to remember is that they have to be part of your life and practised daily. If not, the 6 benefits of developing self-worth in your life will not work.

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