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Where Did The Bubble Door Rule Come From?

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From the brain of a 7-year-old boy. The term bubble door was formed. It all started when I wanted my son to practice stillness and self-awareness of his thoughts. As you know with most children getting them to sit down and focus without getting distracted can be a major challenge.

So I re-activated my Headspace account and we started our first meditation session of 5 minutes. For me personally, it helps calm me and feel present again. I never gave it too much thought but enjoyed the benefits of meditation.

Once the 5 minutes was up. You could see clearly a change in my son’s aurora and he felt it too. When I asked him to describe his experience. He explained it in a wonderful way which formed the bubble door rule.

What He Learned

He explained in his mind he had loads of differing thoughts and it was like having two doors. One door the thoughts come in from and another door they come out from. He enjoyed just letting his thoughts in the meditation practice. To pass through the door without having to explain them or feel them.

I thought this was extraordinary how he explained it and was literally what books such as The Willpower Instinct would explain about how to build willpower.

From his first meditation session. It taught him that thoughts of wanting extra treats or self-deprecating thoughts don’t have to be brought to life. They can just pass through the door.

Now we have the doors. Now for the bubbles.

In the second meditation session, he evolved his understanding of his thoughts and understood some negative thoughts can find it harder to fit or go through the door quickly. This can be when you feel anger or sadness. He then went on to explain when he sees these kinds of thoughts they are in bubbles. Then the thoughts he doesn’t like he just pops them.

I was amazed at the creativity and detail of his understanding. Understanding your mind in such a way gives you great benefits of controlling your mind’s thoughts. We all know this can be difficult and it’s more a lucky dip than an actual strategy.

So after two sessions of meditation the bubble door rule was formed.

How To Increase Self-Awareness Of Thoughts

Self-awareness has long been seen by practitioners and researchers as both a primary means of alleviating psychological distress and the path of self-development for psychologically healthy individuals.

When it comes to the Bubble Door rule. Essentially what this rule teaches a child about the mind. Is that their thoughts are in their control if they want it to be. A lot of the time our brain is wondrously working on autopilot. Unless the habits are formed in a positive way your thoughts can get you into trouble.

So by teaching children and adults that self-awareness is crucial to their success and happiness. It can go a long way making great changes with mental health.

The best way to increase your own self-awareness of your thoughts is through meditation. As it allows you to become present. The very centre of your life where you can decide what thoughts will pass on or be brought to life.

Measure Your Self-Awareness Progress

When it comes to measuring your progress with self-awareness. It can be tricky to have a black and white answer of how well your progressing. But you can measure it on your own through insight, reflection, rumination and mindfulness.

Keeping a journal where you can write daily about your progress. It will show if your well-being is increasing and how you speak to yourself has changed. You will see progress with your mindfulness and how you think on a day to day.

By meditating more you will see the level of control change when it comes to your thoughts. If you used to blurt out everything that came to your mind. This will start to reduce. If you always think the worse. This will start depleting too. By being mindful you can see your progress at hand if your practice strategies such as the Bubble Door Rule.

Two Steps to Motivation

1. Meditation with Headspace

Sometimes meditation can be difficult and you won’t always see the benefits straight away. But long term meditation can offer great benefits to your life. By using apps such as headspace. It takes away or the thinking of what to do and you can just sit comfortably to listen to the suggestions.

2. Use The Bubble Door Rule

By using this theory you will take back control of your thoughts. Being self-aware is an amazing skill to have. it not only boost wellbeing and mental health. But studies have shown it boost performance, day to day functioning and interpersonal difficulties

A Final Word From The Future Mindset

I hope you enjoyed today’s article, The bubble door rule: How To Increase self-awareness of thoughts. Any thoughts about what you read are welcomed in the comments section below. If you could share this article on your social media platforms it would help tremendously to get the message out to improve self-awareness. Thank you for reading and have a great day!

If you’re struggling with dealing with mastering your own mindset. Don’t worry you’re not alone. Millions of people go through the same experience every day. I hope the article has helped in some way. If you need extra help or any questions answered. Don’t hesitate to contact me at adam@thefuturemindset.com

What To Expect?

Do you ever dwell on your failures? In today’s article, 5 ways to overcome the mind when it dwells on failure. Is to help anyone who deals with failure which is in fact, everyone. Learn how to control it with simple techniques anyone can do. Failure is a part of life and when we accept this, then the mind can overcome the failure by learning from it and fighting back to win again. Building mental strength in this area is so important for future growth.

Finding It Hard To Overcome Failure In The Mind?

Don’t worry your not the only one. Of course, no one likes failure. It’s a painful experience especially when you have put in so much effort to come up short. Everyone’s failures are unique to them but there is a difference between people who are successful and people who are not and it’s how they deal with failure. How we deal with failure says a lot about our character and whether or not we are overcoming our failures.

I have found it hard to deal with failures. When it’s a failure I can immediately try again straightway like a sales rejection or a loss on a FIFA 21 I can take that in my stride. But when it’s a failure I have to wait to try again or it takes a long time to achieve I found it much more difficult to deal with until I learned how to.

Dealing with failure badly can come from the social pressure we face. No one wants to look bad in front of people. But unfortunately, we live in a society that pounces on failure and makes you relive it again and again. This is something that we all need to give up. Caring about what people think about our failures.

For the mind to be strong we need to make our failures our own. Owning the battle scars of battle, the epic story we have to tell others or the opportunity to be a real-life superhero for a chance to rise up again.

How we think about something is important, how we think about our failures is near the top of that list. This will be the difference between whether we fight back or stay knocked down. What would you rather do?

What Happens If Failure Controls Your Life?

When we can’t deal with failure it will start to ruin our mental health, relationships and progression in life. The negative effects are huge if you live in your failure. You will become sick, your body we start to have less energy and your mind will feel heavy. This is from personal experience and it’s not a place you want to be.

Dealing with failure is a skill that anyone can learn. But we are not taught this in school. We only learn this if we are lucky from parents and coaches or the hard way. Too many people who have failed think such negative thoughts, that they’re a loser, they’re not good enough etc. But if you could teach yourself to always find the positive in difficult moments you would be able to deal with any failure that comes your way.

By changing how you talk to yourself. Words are powerful, it can move people into action for good or bad. The words you speak to yourself are just as important if not more. When you fail tell yourself instead I’m going to win next time, I am good enough to solve this problem. This will send your brain on a different path. A path that’s good for all parts of your life.

How To Overcome Failure And Achieve Success

We have to treat failure like a message. A message we receive to let us know this isn’t the right way to do it. A message that lets us know there’s a better way we have to pursue to gain our success. I’ve watched Manchester City a football club in England attempt to reach the champions league final.

For 10 years they have tried. First getting knocked out at the group stages for two years. Then the last 16 and quarter-finals. Now the final. By learning and adapting from our failures whether that be in the mind, our skillset or our strategy. This is when we can achieve success on a consistent basis.

5 Ways To Overcome The Mind When It Dwells On Failure

1. Find Inner Peace

Finding your inner peace is crucial to helping the mind when dealing with failure. When failure hits it can be a crushing feeling, you know how it feels yourself. Letting that foster only leads to more chaos but finding a way to deal with failure inwardly is a necessary step to move forward from failure.

A technique that has helped when I fail is to forgive myself and others who are part of the failure. This is great for letting go of all the negative emotions that come with failure. By taking time to sit with your thoughts and put them on paper not only release the negative energy but also contributes to solutions to move forward.

2. Look At The Big Picture

The emotion of failure is unique to everyone. What means something to you might not mean something to someone else.

I have had failures in my life where now I look upon them and laugh at how I reacted at that moment as it wasn’t that big of a problem looking in on the experience. As the saying goes if won’t affect you in 5 years time, it’s something we shouldn’t worry about in the present.

Time will always pass and what is now will not always be. Having this mindset allows me not to dwell in my present failures but look from the perspective of the photographer or video director on your failure and you will get a completely different outlook on failure.

3. Have A Pre- Emptive Habit

What I have learned through experience is to be prepared for failure. Understanding it will come allows the mind to be prepared for the eventuality of failure. I understand when parenting I’m going to mess up sometimes or when I start a business one of them might fail.

This mindset has helped when failure has occurred and has become less of a shock when it does. Expecting to win and succeed is great but understanding winning and success is like war, some battles will be lost along the way. This mentality will help with inner peace and thinking big picture about your failures.

4. Block Out The External Noise

Failure can be even deadlier when others look down upon your failure. This can hurt a lot for the mind. What truly makes you mentally strong and take every failure in your stride is blocking out all external negativity or having a wall so strong that it does not get through. Your failures are yours. Yours alone. Taking responsibility for your failures. Will go a long way for you not to fear failure and take it on the chin when it comes along.

By training your internal voice to be a positive one by creating an alter ego of a coach you admire. To delegate the task of helping you recover from failure in your stride. Will help you be in full control.

5. Learn From Your Failures

The most important of all is learning from your failures. Making the same failures, again and again, can be a painful reminder of not learning from your failures. Having time to sit down to analyse what went right and what went wrong will help to find solutions.

By networking with your findings it will help you to understand better what to do next. Having a toddler brain for learning is crucial. When a toddler falls down, or can’t say the right words, they find solutions, they persist and through learning from their failure they always overcome the challenge that’s in front of them.

Learning from your failures is how you will deal with your failures and this is what keeps the mind from dwelling on failure.

Over To You

I hope you enjoyed today’s article, 5 ways to overcome the mind when it dwells on failure. Knowing that failure is not permanent but it’s a part of life can help you overcome any failure that comes your way. Practice the techniques above and I’m sure you will able to move on from failure much faster than before.

Hi I’m Adam

I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.