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Have you ever felt overwhelmed and don’t know what to do? In today’s article, 5 Solutions To Help When Feeling Overwhelmed With Life. We will discuss why we get overwhelmed and how to overcome it. It’s a normal feeling everyone has gone through at some point. If you want to know how to control this feeling keep reading below.

Are You Feeling Overwhelmed With Life?

Life can definitely be overwhelming sometimes. Especially when we become independent from our parents in adulthood. You are now in charge of your finances, bills, rent, a demanding job and maybe you have the responsibility of raising children.

Adulthood can definitely be a daunting proposition especially if you’re mentally and skillfully ill-prepared to take on this role.

I too was overwhelmed when I flew the nest. I was ill-prepared to take on many responsibilities of adulthood. Spending more than I earned created an overwhelming feeling. Having too much responsibility on my shoulders made me feel overwhelmed. Expecting a child without building my own foundation made me feel overwhelmed like never before.

We all have our own causes of overwhelmedness. It’s our job to find what causes it and prevent it from happening again.

Find The Cause Of What Overwhelms You

Many different causes overwhelm everyone on an individual basis. Some we all have to go through. But to limit the damage being prepared is a crucial technique all young people should learn quickly. You could ask yourself the question what could cause me to be overwhelmed?

By asking yourself this question it will lead to what problems could come your way. This will be followed by a solution to the problems you may face.

So if my answer was “I’m worried about being in debt and having to work until I’m 80”

Then the solution would be.

Learning to become financially literate and having clear financial strategies. Like spending less than you make. Preparing for retirement with an index fund or paying your rent 6 months in advance. This can go a long way to helping you take control of your finances to prevent the overwhelming feeling of being out of control with your finances.

Having this approach with every aspect of your life can defiantly help but not all. We don’t know what our future experiences will be. Life throws curve balls we don’t expect. Especially on an emotional level.

If you can’t prevent overwhelming situations from happening. Learning how to get yourself back to calmness is essential to your mental wellbeing and overall productivity.

I have had the feeling of being overwhelmed for months because I never dealt with it. I was constantly trying to run away from my problems. This is a terrible place to live within the mind and it’s a place no one should have to stay for too long.

Once you realise there is always a way out and preventive measure to help you fight off this feeling. That’s when you start taking control back of your mind.

What To Remember When You Feel Overwhelmed

When you do feel overwhelmed don’t think you’re alone. Everyone goes through it at some point and there’s always a way out no matter how big the problem may seem to you. You just have to reach out for help from yourself and others, whoever you trust or specialised help. Like never before with the internet there is help to deal with finances to parenting to help you with any problem you have.

For me when I do feel overwhelmed I have 5 simple steps I use to get me back to feeling centred. It helps to re-focus my mind on the solutions I need to prevent overwhelmedness from coming back again and again.

5 Solutions To Help When Feeling Overwhelmed With Life

Are You Feeling Overwhelmed With Life? Here's 5 Solutions To Help.

Walk In Nature

We are all connected to the earth and nature is the easiest way we can feel connected. Whenever I am overwhelmed nature is the first solution I need to find. Whether that be a local park, going for a hike or a drive to the sea. Depending on where and what overwhelms me dictates how far I will travel.

Being part of nature brings calmness and a familiarity that’s much needed. Breathing in the fresh air and looking at the wonders of mother nature does so much for my mental health. It’s first on my list to overcome overwhelmedness.

Find Alone Time

Overwhlmeness can come from crowded places, the responsibility of too many people or the role of a parent is taking its toll. A great way to reset your mind. Is finding time with yourself whether that be to journal, put your favourite music on or just to do whatever helps you to relax. Finding this time for yourself is crucial for your mental wellbeing and can quickly elevate the feeling of overwhelmedness.

Write It Down

A great way to understand what’s making you feel overwhelmed is by writing down how you feel. Knowing what’s triggering your overwhelmedness can help you quickly identify how to fix it. Once the cause is found, you can get rid of what’s causing this feeling or learn how to improve yourself so this feeling is no longer felt. Public speaking used to make me feel overwhelmed but when I learnt how to public speaking, the overwhelming sensation disappeared. So by writing down what makes you feel overwhelmed. It can help you solve your overwhelming problem.

Focus On The Breath

Breathing is still an underrated tool that we can use at our whim. The power of the breath can help elevate overwhelmedness quickly. When we feel overwhelmed or our breath becomes shorter and quicker. You can start to regain control of your mind and fight back the feeling of overwhelmedness. Check my article on breathing for more breathing tips.

Go To Your Safe Place

Similar to spending time alone. Having a safe place you can always go to whether that’s a friend, a partner or a place of comfort. Can help you find peace. By knowing this place it can help you overcome the feeling of overwhelmedness in the short term. Similar to a child running back to their parent when they feel overwhelmed. This strategy should be something you have for your mental health. Countries such as Italy pride themselves on family and this is one of the reasons for mental wellbeing is great.

Where to Go From Here

First off I hope you enjoyed today’s article, 5 Solutions To Help When Feeling Overwhelmed With Life. When you feel overwhelmed apply these simple steps above and you will quickly find your calm centre. I hope this helps to continue to build your mental strength.

A Final Word From Future Mindset

Building our mental strength is important more than ever. The number of responsibilities, people have to face can seem a daunting task. Learning to prevent and deal with overwhelmedness should be another layer of your mental wall you build. Thinking, writing or talking about how you feel every day can get to the root of the problems you face. If you need help with what we have talked about today please contact me on adam@thefuturemindset

Hi I’m Adam

I’ve spent over 10 years coaching and mentoring people within sport and business. I have many life skills that I have developed and I want to pass these skills on so people can find their best self. I believe it all starts in the mind and I write about valuable tools and strategies to help people grow in this area.

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Within today’s article, 6 ways a mentor can help you with imposter syndrome. We will discuss how you as a mentor can help anyone overcome their imposter syndrome. In a time where imposter syndrome is becoming more well know and prevalent within society. It is your duty as a mentor to help guide people to regain control of reality and their mind.

How To Help Someone With Imposter Syndrome

At some point, we all face imposter syndrome whether that’s you getting a promotion into a management position and you don’t feel deserving of the role or you get asked to write a book and you don’t feel your message is worth anyone hearing.

From a mentors point of view spotting this in people is an important part of coaching and leading people. It can be hard for people to see their own fault and what holds them back. Looking from the outside in. You can place yourself in a unique position to help comfort and guide people away from imposter syndrome.

Here are some of the ways you can do this.

6 Ways A Mentor Can Help You With Imposter Syndrome

1. Let Them Know They Are Not Alone

Once you have spotted imposter syndrome in someone. Let them know they’re not the only person going through this. By letting them know that you go through it, all the people around you and the successful people you watch on TV, all go through it too.

When we get caught with imposter syndrome we have a tendency to make ourselves feel it’s just us and us alone are going through this. Comforting your mentees to let them know they’re not alone can help a lot in overcoming imposter syndrome. Telling them your own stories and showing them real-life stories can uplift their spirits that it’s not just them.

2. Look Out For Negative Self-Talk

A quick way to spot if someone is experiencing imposter syndrome is by listening to what they say about themselves. For example, saying I’m not good enough to do this or I’m too stupid to do this.

As a mentor, you should calmly and immediately move them away from this negative self-talk. You can do this by presenting them with facts as to why these statements are completely false. Showing them when they have succeeded and what everyone else thinks of them. Slowly absorb and throw out any negative self-talk they have.

From there help them by teaching techniques like how to create a victory list of their achievements and help them remember their successes. This will give them the power to correct themselves when you’re not there.

3. Let Them Know What You Think Of Them

Affirming on a regular basis the positivity you see in the people you mentor. Can stop imposter syndrome from forming in the first place. There is something good in everyone, you just have to look.

By being honest with your assessments it will them overcome self-doubt and help them believe they are worthy of the position or task they’re doing. Make a mental note or write down at least one thing to the person you’re mentoring and let them know.

Watch or listen to how they feel and perform as a consequence of your affirmation towards them. A mentor who doesn’t let their mentee know what they are doing well at. Will allow imposter syndrome to flourish at some point.

4. Eradicate Sexism, Racism And Social Hierarchy

You wouldn’t think these 3 words would affect imposter syndrome but it surely does. Imposter syndrome was first researched with women where women felt their efforts and place in the workplace was at cost of being female. Also, minorities in an organisation have a feeling they don’t belong because they don’t fit in with the majority. This brings out the self-doubt, imposter syndrome feeds off.

That is why you as a mentor or leader have to create an environment where everyone matters and that everyone regardless, of gender, race or social standing that you are deserving of being here.

The old way of thinking of being a man, being white or being from a well off family means of deserving more has to disappear. We know now categorically that women are just as smart as men, that we’re are human with the same mental capacity and just because you are born into a certain family means nothing to what you can achieve. Understanding this you will create an environment that anyone would love to work in.

5. Create A Safe Space For Mental Health

I think now with all the knowledge we know about mental health. Having a safe space where people can talk about their problems and concerns should be of importance.

This is one way you can help someone prevent and overcome imposter syndrome.

I would recommend that you study and seek expert advice when dealing with anyone’s mental health and depending on the size of your organisation. Having a fully trained professional is a great option to have which most sports teams and the biggest companies have now. To simply listen and find solutions together can really help the mindset change from imposter syndrome.

6. Help Them To Self Manage Imposter Syndrome

It’s amazing if you can help someone overcome imposter syndrome but it can be even more empowering to teach them to overcome it themselves. Self-management leads to long term happiness and the power to be in charge of imposter syndrome when it creeps up. Check out 8 ways to overcome imposter syndrome for developing this on an individual basis.

Over To You

I hope you learned from today’s article 6 Ways A Mentor Can Help You With Imposter Syndrome.

It can be a difficult job being someone’s mentor but it’s also a privilege too. It’s our duty to provide the best mentoring possible and helping them overcome imposter syndrome can be one of them.

Are there any other strategies that you know of to combat imposter syndrome as a mentor? Please write it in the comments below.

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